"you're 'right, sit down and have a coffee."

At one point a few weeks ago, I had a cold and was too unwell to go to uni. My hungover dad wanted a latte and sort of told me to make him one. He sort of trailed off as he said it, like he was trying to find a median point between saying it and not saying it.

When I finished the two coffees from the latte machine, I went to get a biscuit. He caught me dead in my tracks and said "You're right, sit down and have a coffee." By "You're right" he was trying to create the illusion of free choice. By "sit down" he meant sit down in the lounge with him. I wanted to go to my room and try to relax and recover.

He had contrary plans; he wanted me to talk with him to build rapport with him because he knows I hate him for being so socially and intellectually unacceptable. The thing about him saying that was that he may as well have pointed a gun at me, being the forceful man he is. I've itemised scenarios like this (they happen a lot) as a "move" as part of his repoirtre of weak moves to build rapport with me. I call this move the "Conversation at gunpoint."

A similar scenario occurred more recently while I was doing some tough and near-urgent uni work. He came into my room and said "Do you feel like making a latte?". In an ideal world, he would ask "Do you feel like a latte?" but he doesn't know how to use the machine, and I would imagine he doesn't want to know. He didn't see, but I was already having an instant coffee, and didn't want another one, so I just made him a large one. When I presented it to him, he asked "Aren't you having one?" when I told him I didn't he tutted in annoyance, then thanked me for the latte, revealing he wanted to "have one together". Thank god I managed to evade that conversation at gunpoint, or he would have INTERRUPTED MY STUDIES even further. I bet he didn't even want a latte.

The thing is that these conversations at gunpoint make me feel very uncomfortable, and probably work against him in his objective. I feel like shooting him when I hear the words "Sit down" come out of his noise-hole.

Is it normal that my dad does this? has this ever happened to you?