2 years and still not over my ex

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Why I do still have days where I want to listen to sad love music while thinking about her? Why does it feel like I'll never feel the same comfort and security with anyone else? We were friends for 1 year and then dated for 4 years after that. She was my first kiss/love/sex.

I seem to have months of not thinking about her too much and not being upset. But then other things in my life get rough and she creeps into my mind.

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    She will always have a place in your heart, a place no one else will be able to replace. If you are like me, you will probably always love her but it is time to move on.

    Try and compartmentalise those feelings & continue with your journey. You don't want to wake up one day realising you have wasted the best part of your life pining over & wishing for a relationship that will never be again.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I'm so tired. I just want to commit suicide. I've worked on myself for 2 years. I've progressed externally and internally so much but I just can't help but feel like everything is a joke in comparison to how I felt.

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      • e51pegasi
        6 years ago

        You just have to keep on keeping on.

        Nothing will ever feel as intense or unique as your first loving physical relationship. Your romantic relationships change slightly. You become more comfortable with yourselfvas well as with certain aspects of them, they are different as people are different.

        Your experience will allow you to explore a new relationship from a different perspective plus they are still as enjoyable, just not the same.

        One day when you least expect it someone will catch your eye, her the same. Contact details will be exchanged & another romance will blossom. Just give it a chance.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Is it normal to still be sad? To miss her? Is it normal to feel pathetic that she doesn't still have feelings for me?

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          • Alichael
            6 years ago

            Yes, it's understandable. My first love Amber, when I was 17, I still have thought of her now and again and I'm in my 40s now. You don't forget your first

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              Do you still love her? Do you still feel sad sometimes? If not, at what point did you feel like you could not be sad anymore?

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          • e51pegasi
            6 years ago

            Sad, a little maybe. Miss her, no. Feel pathetic, no.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              Sorry, do you mean it's not normal to feel sad and pathetic?

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      • darkraider
        6 years ago

        Don't give up on life, a year from now things could be fantastic. After my wife died, I wanted to kill myself, but I had to stick around for my son, and I'm glad I did. it's been a slow process, but things are starting to turn around for the better. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.

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  • Averageasfuck
    6 years ago

    Find a new love in your life and you will stop thinking about her

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    It's not about feeling the same, it's about taking any new relationship and basing it on its own merits. Never compare your next girlfriend to a previous one, we tend to get somewhat upset about that. If you enjoy her for who she is, and don't compare her against who she is not, you will probably find things go a whole lot smoother. You can not turn on love the minute you meet someone new, it takes time and effort to grow, so let it develop in its own way. If you stop worrying about your X for 10 minutes you might even find you enjoy being with someone new.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    It's normal to miss someone for a while when you break up, but 2 years, really!!! Time to grow a pair and move on for your own good. You only get one chance at life, it's not a rehearsal so go do stuff and meet someone new, I'm sure she has.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I've dated a handful of girls since. I think I can like someone else but I'm wondering if it will ever feel the same or if I'l ever really stop missing her

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  • MangoTango
    6 years ago

    That's just flat out romantic!
    But, seriously, love can be, for some, fleeting, and it's just a chemistry thing. Or, lifestyle thing? Or something? Must have been memorable. 4 yrs is a really unbelievably long time.

    I shouldn't talk. I'm Miss No Commitment despite in a relationship. I run away.

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  • fakeaccount2
    6 years ago

    Are you that girl who has posted about this sort of thing a few times before? Geez, you’re adorable. Reminds me of someone I know (and love, but difficulty being together, too).

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Nah. First time posting this and I'm a guy

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      • fakeaccount2
        6 years ago

        Oh.. sad
        But you kind of guys who can love that strong are really special, if it helps any. Much sympathy to you

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  • AngelicKisses101
    6 years ago

    You are not a wimp It ok to have emotions and to think about someone you loved in the past as a matter of fact You are Awesome whether you don’t see it I know that you did your best and your best is more than enough Don’t let the past bother your present state Just move on and keep her somewhere safe in your memories When Life get tough Just know that you are way more tougher and Loved no matter what Stay true to yourself and your emotion have a good day and please live on Things will get better ☺️❤️💖💖

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    why did u break up

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  • Fetiza000
    6 years ago

    Yeah its been 2 years since i was with my ex. Literally it just lasted for 10 days then they somehow stopped texting me...? When i met them again on some Skype group they acted like they didnt know me.

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