7 year relationship from middle school. true love?

Why do you care what other people think? if you love her like you say you do the thought should've gone in one ear and out the other.

You say you don't feel whole without your wife but then you ask if you should explore?? I think you need to make your mind up.

Your so called "friends" say your throwing your life away and could be missing out on something else, do they mean another girl? and if they do .. well whats the point in saying your missing out when ur just gonna go to another woman..?

if they mean a marriage is stopping you from other things ... well what? going out on the pull? well ur past that now .. and theres nothing else you can do that you have to be single for.

No one can answer your questions apart from yourself.. only you know if it was love at first sight. Do you know true love? well you should know that!

"confronted by friend" that maks me sick. your whole post is ridiculous to be honest! read at over again and look how many times you contradicted yourself. maybe it'll open your eyes to some things.

Sorry for the essay and the tough love, but your post just bugged me. I could've just left it at "why do you care what other people think?" but i felt like this had to be said!

Why would you want to throw away happiness?
If you do, you'll hate yourself, and no one wants to be with a loser that hates himself.
Count yourself lucky and stop playing with fire.

Dude sometimes you just gotta realize love is love. Thats what it is. Its extremely rare for love to find itself in eighth grade... but it does happen. And if you love the woman you are with and she loves you, there is absolutely NO need for you to damage the relationship. You will not find any more love out there than you already have, so make your wife the happiest woman on earth.

You are only 20 & already married - which is on the young side, & not only that but is to the only person you ever dated.

I think these friends have hit, not created, a big doubt/ambivalence that you already had, though you may not have been aware of. That and your world, through the service, is opening up.

You sound like a decent & honest guy. See a chaplain or counsellor to sort out your feelings on this and the right course of action.

Wow. Great friend. If you love her, why are you asking this?

If the current year was 1916, I might say you have a chance at a long lifetime with your current wife, whom you met in 8th grade.

But this isn't 1916, the potential of you staying together the rest of your lives 2016 and on, is pretty slim. That's the reality of the 21st century.

The world, that means all the people living on this planet, are not as separated as they were in 1911-1916.

You asked: "Should I explore or stay safe where I am content"....

Had you not locked yourself down into a legal binding agreement, I'd say , "Yes, explore before getting married, and don't get married until after you get out of the military, don't get married until after you've reached your academic and professional goals. And probably just don't get married..... But you are married now, at 20, and legally exploring would be a bad idea, and you're not "Safe", you're in a legal institution, you're stuck. Divorcing is how you find your actual "Safe" place, and of course then you could "Explore".

I knew a couple that started dating in middle school and have gotten married since. Sometimes peeps are just in disbelief when a relationship lasts this long from so early on. If you're satisfied and love the life you have now with your wife, don't worry about it.

Also as a word of caution, going down that path of experimenting with other people has the potential to cause a great gap between you and your partner. If you're happy, try and keep it that way.

If you love her and she loves you then what's the problem

You're happy. Stick with it. Why would you throw away what every one is chasing after? for what, parties? hookingup with random sluts? no. You've foud it, keep it, cherish it.

not every thing can be answered by is it normal or not. its not the norm to marry your middle school sweet heart but so what. you feel that you have true love and true love is never normal.

there are things that you could be missing out on, but they're not good. your friends are jealous/show offs. i've known lots of 20 year olds and their all talk.

don't succumb to peer pressure. if you feel you have true love why would you want to stray. you're letting those people get into your head and thinking with your other head. to throw your relationship away for that would be a shame.

Yeh, don't do it. Like the first guy said, don't play with fire. If you love her and she loves you then it's great for both of you. See if the person who's dishing out the "advice" has been in your situation before (that goes for everything).

If you do what your friends tell you, you'll soon realise what you lost.

I would go out and try new things