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Looking back, my parents never actually had "the talk" with me as a kid (The birds and the bees one). I was just wondering if that was actually normal at all. I was just sort of let to wander around in the forest by myself and pick things up as I heard about them. My school also didn't have any sort of a class either.
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Not so much from my parents, but I was dating this girl once, who's Dad said to me, and I quote, "Keep your dick in your pants, or I will personally chop it off"
My parents never gave me a talk. I grew up with two older siblings, and I always kind of knew anyway.
I am SOOOO glad someone asked this. I almost want to start my own to see if ANYONE else had the same experience as I did.
I was FOUR YEARS OLD when I had the TALK !!!
Actually, it was great. My dad is a doctor and my mom is a nurse. My earliest memories involve my parents teaching me about science. I had picture books for every kind of science-mostly everyday stuff, like counting seconds between lightening and thunder to determine distance and learning why snails hid under stepstones.
So I got a PICTURE BOOK about SEX at 4. It was explained to me like another science lesson. The book contained drawings and no actual photos (thank god). Half of it showed drawings of how men and womens' genetalia differ and the mechanics and purpose of sex. The other half showed embryos/fetuses developing in the womb. The book also said sex feels good.
I got the talk super early; I am grateful for it, especially since it was presented as science. I later learned about oral sex (and other stuff) from friends in middle school, but I was never misinformed about the basics.
Would it be wrong to TELL MY FOUR YEAR OLD ABOUT SEX ???
Nope, nothing! My dad didn't give a shit and my mom I assume was too embarrassed. She is also the type to deny that sex even exists. She found condoms in my brothers room once and took them and threw them away, still didn't say a word to him about the subject. How smart is that??
I remember having a couple short classes on it in school. It was mostly about the anatomy and STD's and dispelling a few myths. It was largely useless to me, most of it was shit I already knew or common sense.
When I was about six, a girl at school told me "fuck" was a bad word. It sounded made up, so I laughed and repeated it loudly in front of all the kids, and I asked the teacher. She just told me to shhhhh, and all the other kids gave me weird looks. I went home and asked my parents, and they told me the literal definition. Because I had had the TALK (mostly scientifically), I asked my parents why "making love" meant a bad word. I didn't get a good answer.
Everything about my family is messed up. I knew (and saw) a lot of stuff at six that I shouldn't have known, but I didn't know "fuck" was a bad word. Is THAT normal?
Yes, the boys wrote the word "Fuck" on our school walls, and then later I asked my mom what it meant. She told me all I needed to know at that age (I was about nine years old...). It was not awkward at all, since they already told us where the babies came from at school (the mother's womb). I just didn't know how the babies got inside the womb before I got the talk. It was actually kinda clarifying
One day when I was probably around 8 my mom came in my room and was like "Do you wanna know where babies come from? I have a story book to read you." Not knowing what I was in for, I just said "sure."
By God was that the most awkward story time I have ever encountered.
My mother claimed to have told me when I was around 4 or 6. Then, when I got my period at 9 I hadn't the faintest clue what was going on. I was scared. I thought I was dying and my family expected me to know about the birds and the bees. They ended up giving me this poorly made book about puberty and sex and it taught me very little. Because of that book and my family's need to overprotect me, I had a very askew view on sex. What child that hears about the birds and the bees at such a young age, actually remembers the information many years later?!
i was 10 and i was an early developer.
The thing that hit me was when my dad said 'i dont want you to drop your panties and spread you legs to any hot guy you see.'
Mine didn't because they didn't seem to have a love life...never even seen them hold hands let alone anything else. Learnt it in school...and I felt like such an idiot because everyone else in my class was laughing and joking at the sex education video because they knew what was going on and I just didn't get it. I do now though lol!
No. I guess when I told my parents that we had sex-ed at school, they just assumed that everything was covered. That's not to say I don't think they should've had the talk with me. I think it's really important because it breaks the ice on the whole birds and the bees thing, and means that your parents know that you know what goes on. Personally I reckon that because I didn't have the talk, that's the reason why it's so difficult to talk to them about it. I can't even speak to my dad about girls in 'that way,'because it's just too uncomfortable and I'm 20 already. Ever since I was capable of... 'releasing' I hid all evidence of wet dreams or any of that kind of 'wetness' from my parents. As far as they know, I'm incapable of 'releasing'.
Nope. They stated the reason clearly. You get the talk in school right? So you understand what it is and I don't have to explain it to you. That's what school is for. Worked for me.. However I actually just learned from my dirty minded friends lol
I was very curious when I was 7 about where babies come from!
Eventually my mum bought a special book about sex which is made to explain to kids.
And I just read it, it made sense... And I kind of felt like I knew it.
Like it was instinct... Like "I knew this wasn't just for peeing!"
But yeah, apparently the best time to have the talk is when kids ask about where babies come from. Not before they ask, but not too long after either in case they decide to ask their school friends; it get complex when you're trying to undo the rumours they'll hear at school!
in 4th grade, i made an immature joke about sex (Which i knew nothing about, i just thought it was kissing, i didn't even know what a vagina was and thought girls peed out their ass until 8th grade) and someone told the teacher who told the principal who told my parents. my dad then sat down with me and was like, sex is when 2 people love each other, and they will get naked, and start touching each other all over, at which point i was like STOP, i don't need this, i don't know what sex is, i don't need to know, i'm not going to be doing it anytime soon. and i never had a real talk after that.
My experience was similar to yours. I was just left to pick up information on my own. When I started asking questions about sex and menstruation, my mother told me to read the encyclopedia. There was no sex ed at my school, so my education mainly came from peers, reference books, and Judy Blume.
My parents tried to do one while I was 12, but it was really awkward because I already knew how everything worked and obviously I didn't want to have them explain it to me.
It's funny because the way I actually learned was when my mom brought home a children's book about it from the library years earlier. That probably would have been the right time.
I had it at 6 not that I understood it at that point. However it was that my brother asked. Some things you really don't understand till you are a certien age. Even if you are explained it really well.
No. Everything I know about sex I learned from school or other people, but it's doesn't really matter because sex never really meant anything to me other than "how to make babies".
My mom gave me a few books with information about sex when I was like 8. That kinda saved us both from the awkwardness and gave me correct info so I think it was an overall good plan. So.. I guess sort of :)
Mum passed me a book about periods when i was about 9-10 and when I was 10-11 i was told "don't let that friendly old guy touch you like AT ALL".
That's pretty much it though.
No, although I would have liked to have had one a year or two ago. I was too awkward to ask for one though, so I'm not any better than my parents for being too awkward to give it to me! :P
I asked when I was seven. My dad told me to ask again when I was twice the age I was then. By fourteen, I really didn't need to ask.