(straight people only!) what would you do in this situation...

Say you have a same gender friend that you've known for a while. How would you react if they told you they had a crush on you? What if they started following/stalking you?

I'd be grossed out - I would try to avoid hanging out with them. 46
I'll still hang out with them, but it would be pretty awkward. 112
I'd call them out and tell them to quit with the stalking. 95
... I don't know what I'd do in that situation... 45
Other (Add a comment) 47
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Comments ( 31 )
  • Honestly I think I would be a bit flattered.

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  • zenji

    I'd be flattered and like or love them just the same. If a guy friend of mine was into me and I wasn't, that's what I'd do, too. There's no difference. I'd be careful not to flirt in both cases, because that hurts the unrequited friend. Freaked out "friends" aren't really friends. They're homophobes, even if they don't want to be.

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  • evadine

    You mean homophobes only.

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  • b17ftw

    Kill them.

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    • deb

      LOL

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

    Other: just treat them the same way as before.

    I've had a couple of other females who confessed their orientation to me. I think it was an attempt to "feel me out" to see if I felt the same. I didn't but I also didn't treat them differently afterwards either.

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  • I'd like it! I'm not sure if anyone's ever stalked me before...

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  • I would accept their life choice but if they made my life quite irritating then they should respect my choice in asking them to go away and if they didnt then I would have to take care of the situation. I had someone I knew who was also male who tried to convince me I was gay and tried flirting with me. I told him I wasnt homosexual but he wouldnt take no for an answer it even got to a point were he was willing to pay me to come up to his. It irritated me because he was trying to make me into a homosexual man-prostitute (or gigallo etc).

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    • timebobbu

      obviously your not a flaming gay

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  • dappled

    It's happened to me. It became very uncomfortable at times, especially if I was flirting with a woman in his company (which I stopped doing). We remain good friends so I must have handled it somehow, but I'm not sure how. I just dealt with every situation as it occurred. Be honest. Don't give them false hope or lead them on. And try to make clear where the boundaries are.

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  • wigsplitz

    It would be the same as all the times when a opposite sex friend made an unwanted romantic move. It would be uncomfortable and probably end the friendship. It's not the sex of the person that really matters, it's that they laid out feelings and you have to reject them for whatever reason, that isn't comfortable for either party and most people can't just resume the friendship like normal after that.

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  • t99206

    as long as he swallows....

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  • Get with them.

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  • Legion

    Talk about awkward! I would be initially embarrassed and surprised, and I would tell him that im straight. I would still be friends with him though. If he started stalking me though, I would confront him privately about it. I would not call someone out in public unless they were getting all up in my face.

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  • ?Tiemeup?

    I would simply ask him to just stay friends and still hang out with him

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  • RockerRoseanne

    This actually happened to me, it never bothered me at all. though on an unrelated matter, she recently pissed me off for the third time and I am never going to speak to her again. (It's quite difficult to annoy me, so once is bad three times is really bad. It was either not talk to her, or beat the shit out of her and push her off of a roof. I picked the better option.)

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  • zenji

    Two issues in one poll here. Stalking is something OCD ish and needs to be treated with counseling, possibly meds. A same sex crush is always flattering, just like any other crush.

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  • Rumblebat

    This beyond normal.

    This happens because we like the insides more than the out.
    If heshe does stalk you, make a scarecrow of yourself and let him flutter around that, until he gets bored.

    Adios

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  • TheGenie165

    I'd give them a chance.

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  • feitmignon10741

    I would still be friends with them but let them know im into men only & pls keep that bs to thier self.

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  • disthing

    I would be flattered, but then stop hanging out with them. It hurts to be around someone you have fallen for. You usually need distance to aid the moving on bit, especially if they have got to the obsessive 'stalker' stage. It's like going cold turkey; it stings for a while but it's effective.

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  • FocoUS

    Wow I'm flattered. But I'm still straight.

    Then go on with life.

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  • thinkingaboutit

    It all depends on if I find them sexually attractive. I'm straight but I think girls are beautiful. I can understand why a straight dde might be freaked out. But I would hear them out...

    Actually my best friend (gay) pulled that card sophomore year in high school. I was a little stunned but we continued being the best of friends.

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  • i'msexyyy!

    i'd just go on with life and act like everything was normal and do nothing different

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  • grrfearme

    I'd just act how I would if I was in the same situation with a really ugly person of the opposite gender. "I'm just not into that way, Sorry."

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    • samson_bowbarrow

      really, so you wouldn't get to know them first and see what the what that person of the opposite gender was like in attitude wise.
      don't you have any consideration.
      if I were you I'd get to know them first. they might like you but you can help them find some one that may like them the way you don't.
      its called consideration. same as when a gay guy says they like you.
      find out what they like in ______________ (<place gender here)
      and see if you can help them out. thats what a real friend would do.

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      • samson_bowbarrow

        by the way, I"m straight

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  • G1993

    Im not homophobic but I would tell them to f-off and never talk to me again, saves on the awkwardness of having to be around people with feelings

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  • 343Boy

    Tell the person I do not share their attractions and to stop stalking me out of respect. If the person did not respect me and continued their pursuit, I would end the friendship.

    I would react the same to an opposite gender friend I am not attracted to.

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  • IAmTheCynic

    I'd act the same way as I would if a guy I wasn't interested in asked me out: I'd be kind of flattered and still want to be friends with them, but it would probably be a bit awkward for a short amount of time considering I just rejected them lol.

    If they kept stalking me though, I'd probably stop talking to them. Being stalked isn't fun for anyone.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    I wouldn't be rude about it, but I would explain to them that I don't feel the same, and if they could please not follow me everywhere.

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