(sex) is it normal that i lose interest because of this?

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Im a 22 year old straight male and i have a very strong sex drive, i only date girls that are hard to get (not interested in anything fast), im very happy with a relationship where i have to try hard for it to become sexual, but somehow the relationship almost always gets to the point where the girl starts making the sexual advances, eventually all the time, and i lose all interest. For me 50% of the pleasure is in the chase, and once the girl make the advances it becomes just too easy. Let me know if you think its normal or not, guys tell me if it happens to you too, and in general i also want to know if i should talk to her about it and ask her to stop making all the advances and make me work for it?

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    This where modern guys and girls have turned upside down.
    Girls chase guys now (for sex!) and guys get headaches? Maybe I should have been a teenager in this era, mind you I'd still want the knowledge of the past.

    Most guys will have sex with just about anything!!!! Hard to get, easy to get, ANYTHING.
    Girls wake up, guys think with their dicks, you are in control still but somehow guys became 'girly' or something.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    If you were chasing her and now she's advancing on you... well, doesn't that mean you won? Take your prize man.

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  • Geneva5
    11 years ago

    I think you secretly want a black cock in your ass ?

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Perhaps i didn't make myself clear, i don't have headaches or other trouble, im not a teenager or a sex-deprived adult who just jumps on anything. I enjoy classy girls, i love the challenge, if i just wanted easy sex i would go to a hooker or to some local tramp, they are a dime a dozen. The bottom line is that im a guy who loves the hunt, and once it becomes too easy its like hunting for animals in a petting zoo, I GET BORED.

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    • 1000yrVampireKing
      11 years ago

      You know women probobly want to have relations SOMETIME. You probobly lose them since you show no interest in them. So they feel they have to make the first move. This is a sign you are a very boring boyfriend. When you wait so long the girl say "Fuck it! I want sex/affection" That is a sign you are doing something wrong. You should not be so bad that you bore the girlfriend. Maybe that is why you are losing dates. Men are suppose to be the ones making a move. You are not a real man. This is really pathetic. Do you even understand what dating is?

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        Is my English that bad? i do have sex with the women, i dont make them wait or beg for it, and the sex is great, im the last guy to make a girl wait, and unless idea of fun is something legal and safe, you can hardly say im boring.Im talking about the point in the relationship when you already have sex every day, and suddenly you feel like you dont have to try anymore to get it, she just jumps on you like a dog on the bone, and i get bored and leave them, not the other way around. I cant stand when things become systematic and regular.

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        • 1000yrVampireKing
          11 years ago

          Oh well yes that is normal. I read it as you lead them on just to say "Well I am bored or you". After which you left without doing anything. That would be really stupid.

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    • Dad
      11 years ago

      ok, thanks for the reiteration on that.

      You are undoubtedly aware that when 'guys' eventually do the thing (you know, have wild sex with someone they've wanted to be with for some time - even a day - or a minute!) That they are then generally not interested?

      Think of it as that man thing where guys have sex with their wives then 1 second afterwards turn over and go to sleep!

      The point is, that if girls could just hold off for long enough whilst dating some guy, there is the small possibility that he may actually form some type of love and devotion (and respect) for the girl.

      Its extremely normal that you chase a girl (romantically) and finally 'do the thing', then MANY (most younger guys) basically put another notch in their belt and move on.

      I know, guys are just bastards! I'm just so glad I'm a guy, because I could seriously never have sex with a guy. Plus the fact that guys are repulsive, even male models DON'T turn me on!

      If I were a girl I'd definitely be lesbian :)

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