is it normal to not be able to stand your step daughter
In the very beginning I thought my step daugher was such a sweet young girl and I thought we would be close and have a great realationship. She was 14 when we met and now she is 20...5 years of pure hell. I tried so hard to be good to her and then started to notice at about 15 years old how she would act when she visited us. She would take off crying out of the house and my husband would chase her, then she would hold his hand and play with it tracing on it and all the while looking at me and hang all over him. She would say mean things to me and be very jabby but have a smile on her face. She told me around that same time that she should be a actress and I asked her why and she said because she can cry anytime she wants and everytime her mother sent her to see her dad she would cry to make her think she hated coming to see him. When my husband took her back to her Mom she cried the whole way and he felt horrible...she plays on his guilt and knows exactly what she is doing... All the while telling us horror stories about her Mother and if her mother only knew the things she has said about how she has treated her i bet she would die. My husband hates her so he believes everything his daughter says so now she uses her Mom to play victim for so many things. When she was 18 i got her a scholarship through my company and she had a band scholarship too...when she came in for Christmas she was telling us how hard her classes are and working and going to school was so hard (we were paying rent on her apt) so I told her i needed her transcript to hand into work so my company could send the money to her college....she would never send it and never send it, so finally I called the college to have them fax it over and found out she dropped out of school three weeks into it. She lies with such ease and has lied about so many things it didn't really suprise me at all.
I tried to talk to her a year ago and asked her to tell me the truth about everything and admit to all of her lies and I could start fresh with her. She called her Dad crying and said that I was horrible to her and the only thing she has ever lied about was school. Pointless to even try with her....
She also accused her mother and step dad of sexual abuse but then took it back a week later ...she said she did it because she was so mad at her mother...she told my husband she is crazy so then he was more concerned with that then what she did..also, she told him the reason she dropped out of school was because she checked herself into mental hospital..no proof was provided on that one...I at that point did not feel comfortable having her in my home and she is not allowed to stay with us until she proves herself to be trusted...she could do all kinds of hurt on me if she wanted..she could plant drugs or hit herself and say I did it..who knows..I have had to go to counseling over this girl and just went yesterday again because I am trying to deal with it the best that I can...
I called the hospital where she says the works and talked to human resources and guess what...they have never heard of her. she will tell my husband how sorry she is and she will do anything to get me back in her life, but she does this to make me the bad guy. I don't know what to do at this point...she is the kind of person that has no feelings and does not feel bad when she does something wrong...lies with no problem. I cannot stand the thought of having to deal with her.
My mother in law is dying from cancer and now my step daughter decides to come and see her this weekend finally and even my mother in law says she knows she is coming to cause trouble and she does not care about her and she thinks her grandaughter just wants her car. My sister in law see the same things in my step daughter and her daughter won't have anything to do with her own cousin because of all the trouble she caused in her life. No to mention my whole family took her in and she caused trouble there too and now they don't have anything to do with her.
I feel bad for my husband and can't imagine how he feels knowing his daughter is like this, but he also never holds her accountable for anything she has ever done. after she lied about school we told her no more money from us until you prove yourself, but he would not have done that without me in his life. She also told us she was paying for the apt (after we cut her off from money) we were paying every month while she was going to school, but it turns out she was not and we got stuck with 1200.00 from a collection agency because my husband co signed. I am just so angry at her and my husband believes she is working where she said she is and believes everything she says...who knows what she is really up to..we live a few states appart. Anyway, this has put a strain on my marriage and his daughter would love nothing more then to see it end. I really think she is a sociopath. she quotes things from the bible all the time on facebook and it is so insane. I hope my husband and I make it through all of this...he is the love of my life and I know I am his also...I think she is very jealous of me and has it out for me...I really tried with her and wanted nothing more than to have a daughter in my life, but that does not look like its going to happen.