"is it normal that i still care"

My story is based on a five year relationship with the father of my two kids, that ended about five months ago. We were doing good and about 3yrs into the relationship we began to have problems due to money issues, me feeling stressed and depressed and a low paying job. That's was when he met his new co-worker whom he trained. Well, long story short he began having feelings for her because he told me that i was driving him away. He told me this about 3 months after we he broke up w/me. But we maintained friends cause of the kids and all but I still love him and it bothers me that he has more feeling for then me. My question is what should I do because he tells me that he still has feelings for me and he hasn't done anything w/her but we still do. That he only does things w/me cause there are still feelings there lefted for me. Right now I'm planning on moving back home and far away from him as I can. The only thing that bothers me the most is that he don't want to live far from the kids but yet he rather spend time with her then his own kids, why?

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Comments ( 11 )
  • Aleks85

    Move on, he's using you for sex. You still care because you believe the things he tells you. You're falling for his game, sorry. He tells you there's feelings so you'll give him sex. If there really were feelings he'd try to work it out with you.

    It sounds like he's a selfish person and wants to have his new girlfriend and have you to fall back on. I imagine you deserve better. Stop getting used.

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  • Broken27

    Thanks to all for your comments and opinions, I'm truly thankful...

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  • yosra

    okay he left you for another woman why the hell are having sex with him ? you are an independant strong woman that's why you can't let that .... person use you even if he says beautiful words as "i still have feelings for you " you can't realy belive that can you ok forget about you think about your kids what would you tell them later " oh i had yourr father moving out for another woman but i kept sleeping with him " now i don't think they would apiciate their mum doing this ( sorrrrryy if i've been a little bit harsh saying that but i wanted to help and that's the truth) don't let him control your life "that's not strong " that's so weak in one word (move on )

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  • why? because he is a selfish prick who sounds like a lousy father, you can be a good role model for them, but it takes strength. i hope you have it in you (this strength will attract a nicer man when the time is right) all the best

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  • Who_Fan4Life

    Cut his dick off.

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  • Complex4

    He has more feelings for her, more than for you and your kids...u know that...U r only there for sex now...

    Time to move on...

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  • 8Serene8

    He is probably sleeping with her and you. Just because you guys were together for so long doesn't mean he is telling the truth. If he truly loved you he never would have looked twice at any other woman. The fact he left you for her in the first place means he doesn't care about you and you really need to move on. He is only going to hurt you further.

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  • Risen_beauty

    He's using you for sex, and I can almost guarantee he's sleeping with her, too. You need to sever the friendship. Let him see the kids or whatever but that's it. He's moved on. Do the same.

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  • dappled

    It sounds like things have moved on, and you also need to.

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  • high123

    Sure

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  • mudbleach

    ...sure its normal and sure its time to move on but why when a relation ship goes wrong does every one have to move away with the kids..."oh hes moved on time to take the kids and move away from him"

    makes sense why so many people go insane

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