"is it normal that i am still affected by a rape 3 years ago?"

This story sounds FAKE!

This type of thing, if this really happened, will probably stick with you the rest of your life...the best advice I can give is to try to live with it...life will go on...the question is...will you?

It is perfectly normal, but definitely not healthy!

You should have reported him or at least made him suffer for it. You should still tell the police even if it was a few years ago if you think you can prove it. It needs to be put on record he is a rapist. That way people stay away from him. It also means he can not work with children and rapists and I know if I had kids I would not want them around a rapist.

Yes! I to was raped it was 5 years ago i still am effected by it everyday

Back in high school I was raped before school one morning by this guy I thought I liked. Long story short, I was 16 years old when this happened..I am now 19 years old and I still have problems with it every now and then. I went to a psychologist and psychiatrist and I am I depression and anxiety medication.
Being raped was the absolutely worst thing that could have happened to me in my whole life..it completely took away who I was. My innocence was stolen from me. I completely understand where you are coming from and it is completely normal to feel this way.
It is normal but it is not healthy. I went through so much trying to get out of being a shut in, just like you are now. It takes a lot! It's going to be hard but just take one day at a time and remind yourself constantly that it is not your fault and you are still beautiful in every way possible!
I really hope this helps you out.. Good luck! :)

You were asked to "hand out a little" - what, pee?

Joking aside, of course it's normal for something like that to affect you badly. Is it too late (or otherwise impossible) to bring the sleazebag who raped you to justice? That would be best, but if it's not possible, you HAVE to let it go - don't let it ruin your life any more than it already has.

I think it's completely normal. I was kidnapped and raped by my twin sisters boyfriend. My sister even helped him kidnap me. I was gone for a week before any one even noticed. It was my neighbor who noticed and I hated him. I was in the hospitle and he was the only one there. My parents didn't even show up to see if I was o.k. I was soo jummpy around guys and being 17 and real popular it's hard. I have scares that bring back painful memories. I didn't feel better till I got professional help. Still I have some problems but they're not as bad as before and are still getting better.

It's totally normal for you to still be effected... I was raped by a drug dealer in front of people... It was really violent and I was bruised and bleeding and he ripped out my hair on my head cause he was holding me down... He made sure to make it last as long as possible. It was horrible! I ended up being a shut in for like two years after that. I never pressed charges cause I didn't want a huge big deal or to have to see him again. But my point is that it takes time to get over it... And you will get over it in time.... One day I just said I miss being me and I want my life back. So I took it back. It is so hard though but this guy already hurt you dont let him waste more of your time! If you have an opportunity to get help you should. I never did but I still consider it. Good luck!

Budthewise is right. I would also seek professional help. You can get over this, it is more common then you think (unfortunately). But as long as you keep it to yourself and don't deal with it, it will only be worse

I was kidnapped and gang raped at the age of 17. I never reported it to the police. Neither did the 6-8 people who watched it happen. I am 35 years old now. After the rape i felt i had totally lost my mind. I just wanted to run and hide. It took me a long time to be able to live with it. A counselor can help you deal with it. And the counselor will even help you press charges if you want to. But just take it one step at a time....

I fully agree with Ollieo you need to talk to qualified people that understand what you have been through to help you work through it.

Find the local rape crisis center in your area and give them a call. They will listen without judgment and help you move forward.

You were violated. Link up with a rape crisis centre for the support you need and deserve.

I believe you are going through post-traumatic stress syndrome. You definitely should consider going to a counselor to try to get past this horrible thing that happened to you. I do not believe you can do it alone. Good luck.

Did you post the other story about how you would like to see all rapist die in general? I feel bad for your story but my parents are horrible addict so I have seen horror in my life as well.

If you are ever going to live a happy and successful life, stop dwelling on stupid shit like this and just let it go. You can still be angry and look at society differently, to not is unavoidable. HOWEVER, to live every day in fear is extremely counter productive.

Yes, you are WRONG in not pursuing charges and you could have saved another victim after you if you did press charges. I know it is hard but the statue of limitations isn't up yet, contact the police and deal with this. It will help you get over the pain of it and finally get your life back. If not for yourself, do it for the girl you might save by getting that asshole off the streets.

Get your life back. If you live afraid in your house and never go out, you don't hurt or show him but you destroy your own life instead. It only hurts you, the best thing you can do is to show that fucker (I know you don't see him but THINK it instead) that you are better than him and you have moved on with your life.

Don't live in fear. If you do and give up opportunities, you will miss the best parts of your life and how will you feel when you are older. If you are dying when your old and grey, would you rather look back on an adventurous life or a life filled with reruns of crappy television?