"is it normal that everyone is freaking out over my weight?"

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I started exercising late October, I was 179 pounds back then. At first I started with asking my older brother for a good work-out plan. Three months later with my make-shift exercises, I wasn't really seeing anything change. So I started dieting with a water bottle and some small snacks. I also started a P90X/Insanity hybrid program, watching them at home.

It was March when I started seeing my arms and chest were more defined, but my stomach was just flab (I was 169-171 then) and I kind of got discouraged. I asked my brother and he said to stop eating waffles and strudels for breakfast every morning, to eat more protein like eggs and bacon. I liked my arms and chest, all I wanted was to just see my abs! But apparently I wouldn't be able to see them until I lose some of my body fat. It wasn't like it was my choice or anything. I would love to have scrambled eggs every morning, but it's a little too time-consuming. I didn't have any spare time to get ready for school and I was cutting it too close. So I cut my breakfast in half or just didn't eat any breakfast, just waited for lunch.

It's May now and I'm 162-165 pounds. A few weeks ago, my parents yelled at me when they caught me skipping breakfast. At first, I thought they were hypocrites. They used to take me to YMCA and lecture me to take care of my body. Now when I'm exercising and losing weight, they're mad?

Next was my older brother that took back his weights and exercise DVDs. He told me to take a recovery week and chill out. He said I was going to hurt myself if I continued the way I was right now. I live in a community that where the nearest gym isn't within walking distance, and with my parents and brother against me, I couldn't do anything but look at my gut all week and "chill". After the week passed, I waited for my brother to unlock the weights and DVDs from his safe. He didn't... Now I'm pissed off and I can't do anything about it! Going out running can only do so much. I look at the scale and I'm 167! My gut isn't going anywhere. I've spent 8 months committing to myself to get a ripped body and I get stopped because of this. I'm about to go back to eating like crap and throwing away all the disgusting protein and creatine shakes I was forced to down everyday before my exercise! I had everything planned. My braces are coming off, my face is clearing up, and I would be at the peak of awesomeness! Now I'm 18, half done.

Is it normal? Why are they freaking out about my weight. 165 and the world is ending? I'm not at a dangerous weight when I can obviously see my stomach when I look down. T~T

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  • wistfulmaiden
    9 years ago

    People are never satisfied with other peoples weight.
    I have been both underweight and overweight and no matter what people cant keep their big mouths shut.

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  • Aleks85
    11 years ago

    *fork in the eye*

    Sounds like you need to spend a little more time working on your brain and less on your body.

    P.S. you have to gain weight before you can get more muscle mass and more serious definition.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    You can work out like crazy, but if your not eating normal food, and just eating supplements, you will not get the results you are looking for. Try a healthy 3 or 4 meal a day plan and pair that with working out, this will not only give you the body you want, it will make you feel better as well!

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  • frank123
    11 years ago

    You need muscle to support your abs, if you have them and your skinny it doesn't count, you have to train them, sleep, drink lots of water and most important EAT. Your muscles are basicelly made of proteins, you need to repair those mucles tissus that you destroyed by working out. Eat the same amount of protein that you weight and you'll be good. Your family is conserned with you because you skip breakfeast wich is normal dude, they probalby think that you think too much about loosing weight to have those abs, but you know what? no bodybuilder skips a meal just to get leaner, i don't because i would loose musles and strenght wich is so hard to gain and so easy to loose.

    Prove them that you eat normaly( do it for yourself) and they probably will let you workout again. Be careful not to skip a meal, bodybuilding is 25% in the gym, 50% in the diet and 25% in sleeping. You don't want to skip meals, it's the most important thing when you try to build muscle(abs)

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    They're not freaking out - actually their advice is more sound than what you're doing to yourself.

    Skipping breakfast will only put your body into "starvation mode". Not only will you be even hungrier during lunch and more apt to over eat, your body will actually store more of the nutrients.

    It's already been proven - eating all your calories in less meals will make you gain wait vs eating the same amount of calories spread out over several meals.

    Second, having protein in the morning actually helps curb cravings. Starches and carbs in the morning ... and you often crave more of them later on. - another reason why eggs will be better for you than waffles.

    lastly, crazy diet plans don't work. what really works - eating healthy foods, portion control, and eating less calories than you expend, and exercise to help burn off excess calories and slim you down

    no matter how fancy a diet plan you have... if you're not doing those 4 things then you're just following a fad that may do more damage than good.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    11 years ago

    They are just concerned because you were maybe taking it a bit too far, like skipping meals and such. Have a sit down talk with them and explain you just want to be healthy and that I'll always eat breakfast and they'll understand.

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    They're being unreasonable.
    It depends on your height and your build, but I think you'll still be fine if you drop 8-10 more pounds.
    After losing that fat, you can increase your food intake again and keep on exercising and your weight will go up again as you build more muscle.

    I'm 5'11", 143 pounds, and can still see a little excess fat around my stomach. Although, at this stage, I'll probably just get heavier from exercise as I build more muscle.

    They probably feel threatened by you and can't stand the thought that you're not the chubby kid anymore.

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