is it normal i broke it off, but still intensely in love?

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Little prelude to recent situation:
Middle school, met girl, liked girl, short relationship with girl.
High school, growing feelings for girl, occasional affection, more intense feels. Friendship throughout.
I met with her a few months ago and caught up cause we hadn't seen each other in a while. I confessed i loved her. We hung out as friends. More intensifying feels.
Then she shows affection. Like, affection affection. I'm on top of the world now. A dream come true. I surprise myself at how incredibly intense i Can love. This goes on a few weeks. I'm thinking those guy's stories about the " one that got away" is a story i won't have to tell because i got the love of my life right here. Then her ex calls.. he wants to be " friends" again with her. So i take her there. Next thing i know, no more affection. Facebook status of hers changes to " in a relationship" with - not me. it drove me crazy. And i ultimately broke it off with her. She wanted me and her new bf to be friends, but i know i couldn't see, much less be friends with someone who stole my "happily e ver after" but now, months later, I'm s till just as in love, and iforgave her a lready forgave her IIN?

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  • Paradiddle
    11 years ago

    Whoa there, unfortunately its very normal to still have feelings considering you must have been really into her but she just drops you like a hot potato the instant an ex shows up? I know its difficult since you were the one with honest feelings here but try not to be hung up on this for long as what she did was very low and she doesn't deserve further contact. Playing the interested game and then changing her mind is really fickle and hurtful.

    Forgiveness is great but you can forgive from a distance too, I'd say.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I'm also wondering if I'm to blame as well. Considering the heart wants what the heart wants; it wasn't her fault she wasn't into me. If it was up to her we may still be friends and I'm willing to admit that i may not have been 100% justified in breaking it off. Despite her being insensitive, it was more my problem than hers i suppose, right?

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      • blackhummingbird
        11 years ago

        I believe you will find someone who you'll love even more! and she will love you just as much :') don't worry romantic anon, times change and i believe times will change for better for you (y)

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      • Paradiddle
        11 years ago

        Yeah, not too long ago something ended with a female friend of mine and as you said, if she wasn't into me anymore then that is that, no real evil there. Although is was similar to your case since it was very short. For you, it "sounded" like she was head over heels for you greatly for a short time until the very moment an ex texted and even asked for you to help them meet again, right? She changed her Facebook status despite you also. If so, that isn't considering your feelings and she could have left that part out. No way would you want to be friends with someone who stole her away. Like you, I still ever so slightly fancy the one who is now friends as that doesn't change her appeal but I just have to push aside those feels and enjoy the friendship.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Thank you for your compassionate insightful post. Makes me feel less ...er.. some derogatory word for unique. Lol. I'm sleepy.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes this happens i'm sorry for your lots.

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