is it normal good friend to randomly stop talking to me

My past very good friend recently decided to completely ignore me. About 2 months ago I went to his place to chill with him and another friend. I ended up crashing there (nothing new). The next day I left in the morning. (Also not new) and he did not text or contact me in any way for about a week and a half. (Even after texting him , "hey what's up") he soon deleted his fb account, made a new one, didn't accept my friend request. ( I thought he just wanted to make a new fb). He to this day will not make any intentions of wanting to talk to or be near me. Before this we were very close friends. Like the kind that you can call a dumbass cunt and not give a shit. I really think that this is not normal behavior.

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21% Normal
Based on 34 votes (7 yes)
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  • SHAKEStheClown

    Maybe you'really a raging alcoholic and your friend is sick of hearing you call him a dumb ass cunt and tired of you not giving a shit?

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    • boeingdude1

      Never actually called him that. haha just an example of how much we could joke around without offense to be taken. I do not drink.

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  • RoseIsabella

    When you're drunk do you ever have blackouts?

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    • boeingdude1

      Never been drunk.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Do You get high?

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        • boeingdude1

          Rarely. Maybe twice a month, and I was not high on that night.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Hmm... Well, damn Bro, I don't know what to tell ya. Maybe you could consult with a mutual friend who could shed some light on the subject.

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  • davesumba

    You probably got drunk and fucked him in the ass. He is going through PTSD and needs you to stop rehashing the past. Do your friend a favor and please stop trying to contact him, he is in a very fragile state.

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    • boeingdude1

      Never been drunk. Also thanks for the laugh.

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  • kelili

    Sometimes it's better to let people who purposely ignore you go without trying to understand the whys behind their behaviour. Personally if a friend did that to me I would turn a new page and he would be amazed at the speed at which I'm forgetting him. This friend is not treating you well, turn a new page.

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    • boeingdude1

      After he just didn't reply to me, I showed no intent to talk to him either. Obviously not a friend worth keeping.

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      • davesumba

        Did you ever stop to think that if someone has to go to such drastic measures to cut someone out of his life that maybe it is YOU who isn't the friend worth keeping?

        Words of Wisdom For The Day: It is never just one person's fault.

        and tbh, you sound like a freaking douche bag and I am glad he did what he did. Maybe he didn't like it when you called him a "dumbass cunt" and that last night together was the final straw.

        If you had to spend the night, I am guessing alcohol was probably involved, and you do not remember, or understand what went down that night.

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        • boeingdude1

          Never actually called him that. I was just showing an example of how much we could joke around without offense being taken.

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        • boeingdude1

          Alcohol was not involved. Neither of us drink because his dad went through alcoholism. We have seen what it did to others and chose not to take part in being drunk.

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      • kelili

        You've got the answer.;)

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  • DannyKanes

    Yeah, that's really not normal. Have you tried talking to him or his other friends and family to see what's up?

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  • ifonlyuknew247

    Not to suggest you are disingenuous, but it doesn't seem like the whole story is being told, so I can't really advise. The details that are being left out I would think would be important somehow.

    Assuming you are being totally honest in that you do not drink and rarely get high, and that night you were totally lucid, (btw I believe you on all of this, pretty much)and reading through the comments, I can only imagine that maybe your friend decided to start drinking and not tell you.

    How long have you been friends with this person? How about your mutual friends? Have you asked them why you think he did this/why he's not talking to you? I know it sucks to try to involve other people, but just to bring it up casually would probably get some answers for you. I'd talk to the other friend who was there and find out what went down after you fell asleep. Maybe they stole something of your friend's and then acted like you did it, because they knew of your behavior pattern of crashing and leaving without saying anything. I am totally guessing at this point, because there's not much detail to go on.

    I had a good friend, actually she was my best high school friend for 3 years all throughout high school and for several years afterward. We never really lost touch. Recently, when I got an account on Fb, I looked her up and Friend Requested her, sent her messages, the whole deal. Pretty much all my H.S. friends, acquaintances, heck, even former enemies accepted my request and we all Fb great, even reunited a few times - these are people I haven't seen or spoken to in years. Didn't hear a peep from her. Then saw she was active on other mutual friends's pages. I even said hi on a post that she left on one of their walls. She never, ever bothered to reply after I sent her numerous messages. I didn't take my own advice, but I just rescinded the request and pretended like she died.

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  • Ipooprainbows

    Not normal, it is quite obvious that he has an issue with you that hopefully you two will sort out one day. I can kinda relate as I had a similar situation where I had a close friend that all of a sudden stopped talking to me and ignored my txt and when I rang her she didn't wanna talk to me. Also the thing that threw me is that she acted fine the whole way through with previous txting and hanging out. I found out that there was a problem that she has with me but decided not to talk to me about it, huh what a friend. Anyways 4 frikn months later I get a call..

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  • curiouskate101

    The same thing happened to me but with one of my girlfriends. I never did anything wrong, never talked behind her back, never said anything rude to her even though sometimes she would do it to me. Sometimes people are fighting internal demons and its not your fault. He was obviously insecure so he cut you out of his life. Again that's his problem not yours. Something he decided to do for whatever reason. It bothered me for awhile when my friend that but not so much anymore. Obviously they were never your friend to begin with

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    • Ipooprainbows

      Agreed, I have to add that you are right with the internal demons. I had a friend that did similar as the OP. I was in utter shock to what I had done wrong O.o Until one day I realized and found out that I had done nothing wrong at all. My friend had internal demons that I had awakened to my ignorance.

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  • pacinoharmon

    That is strange...if someone is busy a lot and can't talk much, you have to forgive that, but I take it that's not the case. The thing about not confirming you on his new FB was odd, unless it was a technical glitch. I know how you feel, I hate to be ignored and even try to deny it when I feel like someone is ignoring me. Maybe ask him if you said/did something bothersome and try to apologise. If that doesn't work, I know it hurts but you'll find other friends. Good luck.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    You must've said or done something bad.

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    • boeingdude1

      Maybe, but I cannot remember anything. I would think I would remember if it were really that bad.

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