**i need some serious help**

He's immature. It's one thing for him to (discretely) look at other women, but there's no reason for him to talk about it to you. That's just plain trashy, and represents insecturities on his part. I'm sure you are beautiful, and you should in no way think that this is your fault. Nor do you need to change anything about yourself. You should have an adult discussion about why his behavior hurts you, and that it is ultimately disrespectful. If he can't understand that and change his ways, he's too immature to be in a relationship.

if he totally gawks when ur there, he is probably worse when ur not there. plus, it doesnt sound like he cares about ur feelings all that much. if I had to bet, I would say he's already been unfaithful. when he goes out with his 'friends' u should double check to see if he's where he said he was. also, does he care if u look thru his phone? if u read thru his text msgs? i'd say play detective a bit, and if u find infidelity, suck it up and find the strength to leave. also playing detectice, anticipate the worst bcuz it'll probably be what youll find.

News flash: he is cheating on you. Sorry to be harsh but that is a fact. No-one prewarns their woman they'll be back at four am, if he genuinely was p***ing it up he'd call you wrecked when he was out to say he'll be late.

Haha funny, but seriously men are pigs, and we can't change that . ( coming from a girl, shockingly)

Just kill every girl he looks at, then he'll be afraid to do it.

People in general, male or female, married or single, still have an in-buiult animal instinct. If I see a girl with nice breasts or a cute ass, I will point them out to my hubby. Its ok (and normal!!!)to look. I think you would have more reason to be concerned if he was doing this behind your back. You have a child together, he comes home to you, and has done so for 4 years. If he was having an affair, then that would be entirely different, but there is no harm in looking.

im married and all i do is look at butts and my wife was the same way you are until she joined in.go t a mall with him walk around and look at every one butt even men for your self . then talk about them .i promise it will be a relief to both of you and besides it can be hilarious

leave him, he's propably cheating !

I think that you should have a heart to heart chat with him and tell him your worries. If he really loves you he will understand that it is jeopardizing the relationship you have with him and maybe even with your sons life. If he agrees to stop, owns up to anything or reassures you that he would never do anything of the sort then perhaps getting married would help seal your future together. Whereas if it turns in the opposite direction I think it woul be better to move on rather than getting your heart broken like this. I am sure you will find someone worthy of you someday.

listen if hes looking at other girls then i would leave his ass plus he delivers pizza your not gonna miss much except maybe the pizza haha but seriously if hes looking then hes wanting........save your self a long life of fighting him and the diseases he might bring with him and go out and meet a responsible, respectable that will appreciate you and your features plus if he likes butts that much he might be on the wrong team jk

Well obviously you DON'T trust him or you wouldn't be freaking out. When a guy starts talking about other girls or his favorite features on a girl around you he's trying to tell you something.

And your actions or behavior can't "make him" cheat on you. If he has a wandering eye and a wandering penis then he will cheat anyway. Although he may use your actions as an excuse. He's being disrespectful by ogling other girls and coming home late at night, but remember, he's not a married man and he can do what he pleases.

I suggest you either swallow your fears of him straying or confront him.

serious problems of loyalty and self-esteem think that it's normal to males look to another womans we r animals anyway and you could improve your butt too but it wont stop your boyfriends looks

Trust me I'm an arse man myself and they are all beautiful in their own way but if he loves you your arse will be by far the loveliest one on earth to him, might I suggest you show it off more to him?

for starters i would tell him that, "but i think the way i am will make him cheat on me...." cause its not like your jealous and in denial of it, or justifying your jealousy. you yourself realize its a problem and that it could lead to more problems in your relationship. if he knows your afraid it will get to that point and want to solve this, he will probably be more understanding.

So you are dating a butt man *lol*...men are visual creatures and not always so good at concealing their leers !! Jealousy is an ugly thing, however so is disrespect. You need to get to the root of the issue, are you feeling bad about your own bootie? Or is it that you do you not trust him? Or is he not spending enough quality time with you? Do you not feel special to him? The list is endless really. On the other side of the coin, you could ask him to gawk a little more discreetly !

yup i flirt with my pizza man all the time i think wow hes sooo sucssessful i wish hed marry me and carry me off to his tropical island he bought with his 10 dollar an hour sallary also ur bf and u have a kid whats taking him so long to op the question i think he may be cheating on u jsut for that

Urgg, I am sorry but womens insecurites are extremely annoying at times. For example, my girlfriend is the most kind and sweet person I know but she is a little heavy and worried that I like better looking women more. Sure, I am more attracted to even the family dog than her (Not into dogs but trying to make a point.) but I stay with her and remain faithful because of who she is.

If he likes other things better, why don't you grow the hell up and start treating him better instead of acting like a whinny brat who crys when your friend shows an interest in your toys.

Lastly, I'm a male and that is odvious by my comments, however guys feel better looking at something more attractive and if you don't cut it in those departments, DO SOMETHING TO MAKE YOURSELF BETTER THAN THE SKANKS HE LOOKS AT.