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I just feel like my therapist doesn't understand..
When I talk to people on forum sites about my problems I feel so much better, but when I talk to my therapist I feel.. horrible. I don't know, its hard to explain. ( I'm a little brain dead, its 2:00 AM...)
IS THIS NORMAL?
Good for you! There are dozens of people on here who try to understand. Your therapist is just one human being with one point of view.
I talk about my problems on forums too. People don't always give the best advice, but at least it gives me a chance to vent about my problems to an audience.
Maybe you feel talking to a random stranger is better because they are a stranger, your therapist can only be a stranger for so long. However if you are not comfortable with your therapist you should change.
I've had quite a few therapist since i was an early teen and have ask advice from forums, so i think i can kind of understand the feeling, i sometimes felt that i was becoming too personal with my therapist and that bothered me at time a problem which i don't have online.
Plus the word therapist is weird, put a space after 'e' and it reads 'the rapist' when i first realised that i felt really weird, and felt that the lady was trying to get into my head and like rape my mind or something... yeah i didn't go back to that lady...
There's a disconnect provided by the internet and having that distance can often allow people to open up. I don't know why therapists and doctors don't take advantage of that and offer an online service.
Because they wouldn't be able to charge as much and that would chance that they would be dealing with patients that are not their own (like one person having health insurance having a friend without health insurance that is in need of therapy). This is too high of a degree of patient/doctor anonymity to not become legally complicated, in the end, doctors have to think very carefully about what they do and how they do it because everyone is out to sue for a free ride, and doctors are the perfect people to do this to.
its because you can be more confident online because people can't actually see you. Talking to a therapist may feel awkward...
When you talk online, people don't answer because they HAVE to, its because they WANT to. Hope this helps :))
The problem with therapists is that they are getting paid to listen to you. When someone is a state where they require help, knowing that someone is profiting off your misery doesn't help the situation. Personally, the people on forums are usually better in helping, not that I have any basis for comparison. I simply believe that on forums offer better support because it consists of a multitude of people who can offer empathy, instead of just one person.
That is very true. I have been to therpists and just knowing that the only reason that they are listening is because they are making a buck often depresses me even more. On forums, people are reading your problems by choice, because they have a genuine interest in them. Or are bored. Still better than making a profit, though.
well to me it depends on the problem. if its really personal between my husband and i then i will talk to him about it. i dont see the point in discussing problems with people who are not actually involved, that doesnt get the problem solved. but if its like everyday stuff, like having a whinge about work then i will talk to whoever wants to listen lol
Sometimes I wish natural selection still existed in the human population....