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What do you think of this expression?
What if somebody you've been seeing said this to you?
How would you react?
| (Slap in the face) | 1 | |
| " Fuck you." | 18 | |
| " Fine. I understand." | 35 | |
| " What did I do wrong? | 7 | |
| " But, I wanted to be more." | 12 | |
| " How could you say that to me?" | 2 | |
| " I didn't really like you anyway." | 7 |
It hurts and you can grieve over their rejection. It's okay to reject their offer of friendship if you don't want that. The important thing is that in the end you accept their decision and move on gracefully. Loving and losing is better than nothing at all.
If it's after numerous dates, a "fuck you" is well deserved. Otherwise "I understand" is a safe bet.
Can you be a little more specific?
If someone's leading you on, that sucks. It's still good to be civil, stop associating with the person, and move on.
If someone is honest with you from the beginning, you should just accept it and maybe even appreciate it... It's not always personal. It doesn't always mean you did something wrong. "Fuck you" isn't necessary, but I don't judge. Also, no need to physically abuse anyone due to rejection.
I've recently had both cases happen.
One guy I was crushing on told me right away that he didn't want a girlfriend when I stated I really liked him,
and I was a bit disappointed, but understood.
More recently the guy I WAS TOGETHER WITH just suddenly out of nowhere told me he no longer wanted to be in a relationship and wanted to be "alone." THAT really hurt and pissed me off at the same time because I thought we were really great together, and I saw zero signs of any issues, but alas...*sigh*
That's normal at any age. I like a guy that can be man enough to break up instead of playing games.
However, you don't have to be friends if you think that will get in the way of you moving on. And if being friends means sleeping around at his convenience, I wouldn't give him the benefit.
I think one of the major factors is that I mentioned to him earlier on is that I didn't feel comfortable with having intercourse, and would have to warm up to the idea to even do foreplay stuff.
He told that it was okay that I felt that way,
but I am sensing that deep down inside he wanted a girlfriend who would be sexual with him.
Ah, there we go. Forget him.
When I was about 20-ish, I dated a guy for about 2 months. I told him I didn't want to have sex until we dated for a while because I wasn't comfortable with getting intimate with someone I barely knew. He pretended to be okay with it. Then, he ended up breaking up with me in a manipulative way. He said I was not affectionate enough. I simply told him that I respected his decision. And I really was understanding, I just wasn't willing to compromise my beliefs. Two weeks later he freaked out and tried to get back together with me. No way Jose.
You stick to your guns. Nice, honest guys DO exist.
Sounds like A - They don't really like you and want to let you down easy. B - They want casual sex and don't want a partner C - They actually like you but only as a friend
Sounds like he has some problems he need to fix. Give him his space and maybe he'll see the error of his ways and come back. If not, just try to move on.
I would say "That's cool, I respect what you want, and I do value friendship. Since me liking you was most likely what caused you to say this, I think you'll be a great friend."
It's one of those potential relationship destroyers. They don't want a relationship with you. They don't want to hurt your feelings by being open and honest, so instead they go with this! The least they could do is cut the crap and be honest.
There's nothing wrong with being friends. But there's nothing wrong with having a good fuck either.