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We had a long time talking yesterday after dinner, and he confessed me that he's gay. My parents separated since last year
| don't accept him | 4 | |
| talk with him or meet his boyfriend | 21 | |
| go to psychologist | 7 | |
| make a reflection | 5 |
It's a complicated matter but I think I know how.
Father: Son/daughter, I'm gay.
You: Alrighty.
Phew. That was hard to explain.
I am contemplating on whether or not I want to thumb this up..
It would have been a definite if you said "alrighty then" so that I could've read it in an Ace Ventura voice
"Finally! I thought you'd never say that. What took you so long?"
"So what? You're still my father."
"Well, Alrighty then. Want to watch some football or do you want to do your makeup? Oh, sorry. Was that too soon?"
In today's world your sexual preference doesn't make a difference to almost anything because that's done in private of their bedroom not yours.
Two gays sitting on a bench. One looks up at the other and says, "Hey, I think I'm straight." The other gay guy looks at the straight guy. "Good for you, man. So is the barbeque still going on Sunday at 4 pm?"
Think about it this way. He trusted you enough to tell you something he's probably hidden and been told it's wrong all his life. He's still your Dad, just because he's gay doesn't change anything.
I cant tell you how to do it. You will have to look deep within yourself to come to terms with your feelings. Talking to him should help. Do you have a healthy relationship otherwise? It was probably difficult for him to tell you. That took courage on his part and is an admirable quality. But he is human. Discovering that parents are human can be difficult but it can also make your relationship stronger.
For me, being a bi male in the closet, I think I could easily accept my Dad being gay. I think it wouldn't take him very long for him to guess my secret, by the way I treat him. I don't know if I'm ready to come out to him but I'm sure he and I would have some really interesting conversations.
What exactly is the problem here? You never pictured him fucking your mom did you? Then don't picture him fucking anyone else. It's as simple as that.
There are things in life that we cannot control so you don't have much of a choice but to accept it what else are you going to do sulk or argue. You should be happy that he will not have to hide who he really is and be rid of a terrible burden . Stop being so selfish.
While i understand this bit of information has a spiralling effect on you emotionaly i would endeavour to ask you if by being gay your father was/has become less of a 'father' to you in his duties.Has he stopped feeding you,clothing you,puting a roof over your head etc If the answer is No then there's realy nothing to worry about.Being gay is his personal choice and if that hasnt changed the way he treats you i dont see why you should change the way you treat him.Cher' noogie.