he would rather stay friends instead of take a chance
My absolute best friend is male and we have a mutual attraction towards one another. I have had other male close friends in the past but the experience was nothing like this friendship. Even though we claim to be nothing more than friends, he has told me very affectionate things and has told me he wants to do things with me that friends don't do. For example, he wants to have sex with me and be the only one, yet he doesn't want to date me. He tells me all the time that he loves me and has told me deeply personal things about him that he claims he hasn't told anyone else.
I sometimes show my frustration with him and he is aware of how I feel. He claims to feel the same way; he just feels that he has a greater chance of losing me if we had a relationship. He said he read a study of why so many couples don't work out. It's because as the people get older their ideal lover matures and changes with them. He feels like that's the reason why we would eventually end and he said he never wants to lose me. He'd rather be my best friend.