erm..do you think he still likes me?

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Well I have this friend and a few months ago he confessed to me - I turned him down because I'm already in a relationship. My friend is nice and he didn't take it bad at all, but yeah.

I don't think he still likes me and I would hope not, because then I'd just feel terrible. I'm not sure why I even suspect this, but, I just have a feeling. Oftentimes he'll tease me, scare me (I'm easily frightened and he takes advantage of that), tell me he hates me and to fuck off (as jokes, of course), etc. - but it's all in good fun, because we're friends so of course I don't take any of that personally!

But idk, could this just be how he normally acts or does he still like me? I'm asking because I want to know if I should back off or something because the last thing I want to do is to make somebody feel bad. Maybe I'm just imagining things but my intuition is usually right... I mean, I thought he liked me before he said so, and it turned out I was right.

I guess I'm just afraid. :/

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  • kupokupo
    9 years ago

    Yeah for sure. Affection can't just disappear by being rejected. How he handles it is all down to him though and you shouldn't be afraid.

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  • dust
    9 years ago

    There's nothing to be afraid of. Whether he has feelings for you or not, he knows you aren't interested in him as something more than friends. His feelings for you are his problem, not yours.

    Talk to him about it again and tell him you're concerned about your friendship. Let him know you value him but only as a friend. I think backing off, without talking to him first, would be more hurtful.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thanks man, helps out a lot :( And yeah I used to whenever someone liked me I used to cut myself off from them but I guess that wasn't the nicest thing to do...I just couldn't help it because I wasn't sure if it would hurt them by still being close friendsb ut I guess it's the opposite >.< Thank you!

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      • derpyderp
        9 years ago

        I'm going to say that cutting them off completely is sometimes the nicest thing to do. Sometimes...

        I don't want to confuse you &/or make you lose a friend but chances are this guy is still hot for you. It's not something you just get over when you're told no...
        I've been on both sides & it's been the same.

        In saying all that, guys are friend zoned all the time & the fact you're even aware of it possibly hurting his feelings makes you better than many IMO.
        You obviously care for him, even if just as a friend, in which case he's lucky to have you...

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        • dust
          9 years ago

          I think it's only necessary to cut it off when the friend doesn't respect the boundaries of the friendship.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    He probably still does.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Are you sure? Shit, I feel awful...

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