21 years old w/0 friends :(

I am your friend, and I want to help you.
I agree with you, in that today's societal systems, it is very difficult to form new, meaningful and trusting friendships.
I can tell by your demeanor, that you are a well-natured and Enlightened individual.
I have seen times when I couldn't find a friend and other times when I had many.
Today, it is a product of our Socio-political systems which prevent us from finding persons of similar interests. It is a sterile corporate environment, where it is imposed that we need to tolerate everyone, but we can't get along with anyone. Too much greed (me, me, me generation). What did they get? Left alone right-wing radical extreme absolute power corrupt political correctness. There's just no fun in this world anymore. In order to find new friendships, we need to be able to get together peacefully and to experience mutually enjoyable activities together. But when I had 50,000 friends+, and we all got together (without a fight), they deemed us to be a threat and targeted us.
What we need to do is re-organize.
Instead of apartments, we need togetherments. Instead of single-family detached houses, we need to share (at least kitchen / dining, laundry and work space) our homes with others. Most everything we need (in the community) should be within walking distance or a short and efficient transport system away (don't forget about cargo).
Hope this helps, please let me know what you think.

It never hurts to be someone people like. That means cultivating friendships: taking an interest in the person, taking chances to do things together, being gracious and not personalizing it if things don't work out (it won't be because of you).

I am 24, have lived here for 4 years, and have no friends. I mean I left friends in another state when I moved, and I talk to them sometimes, like a couple times a year on the internet and that's it. And I have a husband who has no friends either.
I don't know if it's normal but I highly doubt if it's healthy.
I've tried making friends with people from my college or my work and although we seem to be decent acquaintances in those environments, any attempt I've made of having them over or making them into my "buddies" has either weirded them and out and made them turn away or just hasn't "worked out."
Sometimes I think that my desperateness for friends is what ruins the potential for others to become my friend.

The friends I HAVE had in my life were few and far between, but they were/are great people, my kind of company exactly, and I met them all on accident, and became friends with them over time and unintentionally. Sometimes I think I should just go about my business and surely at some point a friend will present itself. But at this point the way I am with new people has developed into some kind of freakish maladaptive behavior.

So, uh, I guess I feel your pain. Freakish or not, I am sure at some point we will both make friends when we have truly given up! :P

You should try and make friends with people from school, or those you work with.

Nightmare. Could you imagine if you broke up with your bf? You'd literally have nothing to do, nobody to talk to. You need to sort that shit out man, you're way too dependant on each other for company.

Friends are fucking hard to find when you're not in a place of education or work. I assume you're in neither (waster!!!!!!) because it's easiest to find friends there.

Other places are sports clubs/gym/pool/coffee shops/bars/clubs. Also some of those random hobby classes that some people do. Like pottery class or some shit. Just do something you like and you'll find other like minded people there doing it too.

Apart from education I have met most of my close friends either through work or the gym.

The small town thing doesn't help anything. I've been trying to talk to people online with actually some success. I always hear crap about Omegle, but I've actually met some really nice people through it. A lot of trolls but some nice people as well.

Heck, I can always afford to meet new people. PM me if you want to talk.