19 years old, never been in a single relationship, iin?

It all starts with how i see things. I'm 19 years old and now a sophmore in college. When I was in elementary, I had lots of friends and was actually known by many, As i got to middle school, it seemed lots of people had changed..I had few of my same friends left, made a few new ones. I got to high school & something happened. Most of my friends were gone, changed into people I no longer recognized. They fell victim to whatever changes people @ that age. I'm now in college, and have not changed at all in my way of thinking. Sometimes I wish I had changed and gone along unawarely with the crowd so that I would at least enjoy what everyone else is. That was not the case though.. I saw everyone else change and I saw myself almost stuck in the fast paced system of change.
Because I am still myself, I do not wish to act like the rest to get something I want. That includes girls.

I see all the 'techniques' used by guys to get girls.. Ok here, I see girls, and sometimes i kinda get disappointed with them because they complain so much about guys and they have a point so i believe them.. but like hypocrites they go and become easy bait, & end up with those guys they talked about & i avoided being. I'm still not changing... but i still have no relationships with girls. I'm not really in a hurry, but sometimes I get overwhelmed and wish to feel the comfort of a girl by my side. It seems i dont have a girl because I'm not like the rest, I'll admit im not a very usual kind of guy; Im good looking, but my way of thinking (realism) seems to bury me. I want to find a relationship in which i don't have to give up that piece of mind.. I'd become like the rest of the zombies. Wanting that, Is that normal? Should I keep on waiting? because i mean..by waiting i'm risking not knowing what a relationship would be like @ this age; I already missed out on being in relationships during my early teens. Hell, is this way of thinking normal?

One final note: To me relationships of me and a gf, well i guess I've imagined them as LOVE, but sometimes I think thats why i've been alone all of this time. I think that in these days at this age its not about love, but rather superficial or temporary things like lust. Does that seem to be right?

Ok, so is it normal to be the way I am, or do i seriously need to change myself because no one wants this..analytical beast?
Do I sound like someone normal who would be capable of finding someone? I always thinks it depends on the other person..but damn, here where I live I begin to think she's never going to show.. only hope I begin to think will be by computer o.O I'm sure as hell I'm not the only one like this, but sometimes I sure feel it.

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Comments ( 14 )
  • IntelligentGirl

    It's totally normal! Trust me!! I'm a 19 year old girl and i've never been in a relationship before! it's cause i do have smthg called " principle" which is more about waiting for the right one, cause what's the point from being with someone that u r kinda sure u won't end up together ? never understand it! anyway, u r on the right track ^_^ and i'm pretty sure u will meet her someday :D....just nobody knows how and when u r gonna meet her! Good luck ^_^

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  • rubadub

    It is you that changed not every one else.
    Some mature quicker and sooner than others.

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  • jerkiebackhart

    It's normal. You just need to find the right girl who complements you. That girl is me.

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    • xZero

      Yeah I need to find her.
      I need to find you.
      I have been looking, well more like I've always had my eyes open but..not in sight. I like the saying though, the harder it is to get something or accomplish something, the greater the reward.
      Makes me re think fate and destiny..
      Thanks for the comment lol, made my days.

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  • Lucius

    I know exactly how you feel! I'm 18, going on 19, and haven't had a relationship all through my highschool career. I feel like everyone has changed so much compared to me...like I'm on the sidelines of life as it races past me. It seems like everyone is all caught up with having boyfriends/girlfriends and things like sex...but then at the same time all they ever do is complain about how mad their significant other makes them. It just seems like relationships nowadays are more about temporary things like lust, like you said. And I know what you mean about the times when you feel completely lonely...time when all you want is a girl's hand to hold.
    I think people like us are romantics...we want a relationship that becomes a part of us, not just something that is around for a bit then tossed away....it's tough. I still wait for that one girl that I will see and know that she is the one, no matter how corny that sounds haha.

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    • regisphilbin

      that was very well said, kudos to you!

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    • xZero

      But not hopeless romantics, that is different right?
      Yeah man, I liked how you worded everything. It sounded like a smaller version of what I said; I think you know what I mean.
      So hey let me ask you, how do you see your future? In terms of relationships n stuff. It looks like a very bright one? I cant help but think all of this is meant to be, so that I can stress out all these other people and find this really cool one. I used to fear this, but I'm beginning to embrace it and it makes me stronger and gives me something worth living, like i got to find that and this whole things a learning process so in a way I'm more ready than I'll have to be..or maybe that's too much haja. Thanks for the input, Hope things work out great for the both of us, then we can look back at that one day we decided to write about it online.

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  • Riddler

    Yes.... Stop asking this stupid question.

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  • ok then marry me

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  • Dreamboat

    Me & u are in the same boat..Im 19 and a guy and have never been in a real relationship..I know it sucks.Idk why girls dont approach me,I see that a lot of girls notice me a lot and I like that but when I do try to talk to them they just see me as a friend...I guess my hand can handle my needs for now.haha..besides too many sluts/hoes around here,everywhere(I think).

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  • Juj

    I dont know how lona ago you wrote this...
    but i totally get you and its cool to me that a guy feels this way,
    especially at your age! I agree with the person above..
    I think people who think like us our more mature than our peers,
    and honestly I think it's something you should be proud of because
    someday we will fond love when most people find false love because they never took the time to care about anything but sex and that's just what our generation has come to.
    So chill with it boy your not alone it's probably easier for a male than a female, all girls want a guy like you.

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  • Cookies&Cream

    you should never change who you are, that would just make you a fake person and nobody like a fake person. One day you will find somebody that shares your tought. You are actually very young and still have many years to live and experiences to overcome.

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  • jumpinjunipers

    yes its normal. girls like to make things complicated when they are not for boys. its a big committment usually.

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  • fatty

    It's probly cuz ur fat

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