17 years old and never had a relationship, opinions are appreciated.

I know a lot of girl's who, when that age, were in the same position. Attractive in terms of appearance and personality, at least to me, but without any relationship experience of any kind.

If you give off the impression that you want a "soulmate who will join you in the climbing the ladder to success, establishing a hedge fund and introducing new programs in third world countries's corporations" that might put off a lot of people.

Firstly, you seem very set on what you want to do in your life. That's not bad, but finding one person who wants the exact same thing with the same level of passion will take a very long time. People have their own lives and dreams and don't want to slide seamlessly into your life and live your dreams while ignoring their own. A partner isn't a component in your life story, they are their own life story.

You also sound like you want a very serious, very long term relationship. A lot of guys don't want that, especially at that age. It goes against their own goals, their own life story.

Finally, a lot of people might find that level of maturity intimidating (like your friends said). I don't really have a way of fixing that - sorry :P Just try and emphasize the fact that you're a fun person who can let her hair down as well as all your other qualities.

If you go away to university or college I really think you'll be more likely to meet someone compatible with you. You get a very wide range of personalities, and probably a higher concentration of young people who appreciate maturity, ambition and intelligence than anywhere else in the world.

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Here's one thing I've seen floating around for a while that explains just about every nice person I know, including myself:

“Girls are like apples...the best ones are at the top of the trees. The boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples that are on the ground that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think there is something wrong with them, when, in reality, they are amazing. They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree...”

While not perfect, this quote seems to fit most relationships, regardless of gender. I'm 19, and have only ever had one girlfriend, and not for very long either. A "soul mate" is somebody who is perfect for you and for whom you are perfect as well, and while we can make do, or even thrive in other relationships, it takes patience (likely YEARS of it) before you will find your soul mate. Just be yourself, and it will happen. :)

Whoah hold on now, slam the breaks your 17 years old its a little early to be looking for a soul mate. To meet your first boyfriend, you should get out more in social venues. Go with your friends to places where you have a high chance of meeting new people, look for good social enviornments.

Your 17 and never had a boyfriend you shouldnt be looking to settle down the rest of your life with the first guy date. Try and look more approachable, a friendly smile and giving guys eye contact can make you look approachable. You may want to approach guys on occasions. Alot of guys are afraid of rejection, your going to reject alot of them, let them down easy.

It seems like you might view finding a 'soulmate' in the same way you tend to approach other goals in your life. It isn't something you're going to achieve in the same sense as working towards an sat score, for example. So maybe you need to reframe the way you're thinking about it.

To be more approachable all I could say is chill out, make sure you're having fun and a good laugh at social situations. Start conversations with people you don't know. Loosey-goosey!

But really, I think you're a bit too pushed on this soulmate idea. You're still young and you will naturally connect with lots of people in your life. Hopefully you find a good fit but don't worry about it for now.

And yes, unfortunately you will have to spend time with him to find out if he is for you!!! There's no exact figure for the amount of time, but I assume scientists are working on it.

Hope you held those coins

Youre a big over achiever and this could intimidate guys....youre a little stuffy with all that intellectual clambake...who the hell talks about hedgefunds at 17...and soulmates ...really the only soulmate I ever met was my dog...anyway, you are an awesome person and probably will need to go out with older guys to even remotely be appreciated ...maybe 10 years older at least...also because your so accomplished you probably not as good at just plain socializing and having fun....learn to have easy going fun

Wow just reading this makes me feel kinda inferior to you, like I'm really not that productive with my life . . . I'm 24 and still in community college because of some "rough patches" I went through after high school involving drugs and dumb decisions. I'm guessing most guys your age feel a bit intimidated and probably assume that you won't be interested in them (which, judging by your earlier comments seems about right) so they just never approach you.

You sound so perfect. Any guy would be lucky to have you as a girlfriend.

I'm a 53 year old male, and never been married, though I have had a few relationships...It seems that you are quite mature compared to most 17ish guys, and that is probably what is putting them off...My suggestion is that you should pursue what you want first...perhaps your Prince Charming will even come from womeone with your interests (or at least one of them anyway)...I have to admit that I would be far short of what you'd want or be interested in, though I do have some intelligence...and a pretty good sense of humor...a friend of mine the other day told me that my ship was overdue to come in...I responded that when it does, I hope I'm not at the airport...I would wait before making a perhaps major blunder by rushing into things before the time is right...If you don't find someone within a few years and still are concerned...you could ask someone yourself...though your options on who may be available may be at least somewhat limited at that time...