29 year old virgin, still approaching

Hi! I'm a 29 year old woman and I'm a doctoral student who is also a bikini model! I'm also a 29 year old virgin! Never done anything with a guy, although I've kissed about 35 men in my entire lifetime, just never went beyond that. Plenty of guys have asked me out on dates and I've said no, as most of them were either psychotic stalkers or were just plain nasty and didn't shower. I've also asked plenty of guys out on dates, and they've said no for whatever reason, most of the time because they had girlfriends already. I dress conservatively, yet I get hit on all the time, and guys say a lot of creepy, sleazy things about my body, and taking me to the bedroom and 'effing me...but the nice, respectable guys I like don't like me back. And oh yeah, I'm from India too. Don't worry :) You're normal honey, it will happen one day, no matter what you look like :)

Um...maybe you should stop approaching so many women. You sound desperate, and that kind of attitude is obvious to women. Just chill out and stop trying so hard.

I hate to break it to you, but those women just aren't interested in you. It could be because of the way you look, the way you talk, or (perhaps most likely) the way you approach over 600 women per year in malls, food markets, lounges, bars, clubs, etc.

While I admire your determination, it simply isn't normal to approach that many women in a year. That's almost 2 a day. Maybe you're coming across as a bit needy, or even (dare I say) creepy.

I'd recommend that you ask a friend to video a few of your attempts, so you can take a look at the girls' reactions. If you're not able to understand their reactions or their body language (and it sounds like you're not) then you could maybe ask a friend or relative to watch it with you. Or a counselor.

Or if all else fails, you could post it to YouTube and read the ensuing comments. But be aware that you'll probably get a lot of abuse.

The dreaded "FRIEND ZONE". This is what's happening. Learn to flirt at internet social sites. Then put your new skills to work in person.

Most Indian guys get hooked up with Indian women here on H1B visas.

gurl... hire a prostitute

Have a dog?

And of course, worst case, you could get an arranged marriage...but that's last resort. Although your parents setting you up on dates with tons of hot girls might work out, who knows, maybe you should give it a chance. All you need is 1 to like you, right?

I would suggest buying nice clothes, dressing really nice everyday (don't overdo it), getting a nice hairstyle, having a friendly, upbeat attitude, maybe going to the gym and getting fit, showering daily, don't slap on tons of cologne, be clean shaven. Have you gone to a shopping mall and seen the guys most women date? They are ugly as hell. Not all women are looking for Adonis reborn. I'm a hot chick, and personally I can't stand super hot guys myself. Oh yeah and try to make friends with really hot guys so that they can help you meet women who are single and looking.

What do you do for a living? If you have a high paying job, you'll get tons of women with a snap of your fingers.

See the issue is, I get tons of (undesirable) men, and players, so that's why I'm still a virgin. But you're not getting ANY women at all, so if you follow my advice, you should be fine :)

Go back to India. You might have luck. I don't think american girls really like Indian guys, idk why. Sounds like you got heart though :)

Why don't you Just try befriending a girl? It sounds like you and your friends don't even associate with girls unless your being denied a phone number. It's good to have girls that are friend, especially because they have girls that are friends. And idk in hoghschool and college and stuff there just seemed to be girls around always just because I had a few really close friends that were girls. Don't just creep around and try to get laid.

Get a datin coach? You are clearly doing something wrong.

Also, it's a harsh truth but unless you are roguishly good looking many women won't date outside of their own race, particulalry white women. And for those that do, some cultural backgrounds are more favored than others. You may face better odds if you shrink your dating pool and pursue women from a similar background.

go ta vegas

i'd kiss ya =) dont go looking for love maybe love will find you..

After I lay myself off from approach girls for a few months or maybe a year, I noticed they started to act friendly to me. Sometimes, I got wary when they become flirty with me, it make them interest in me because since they are used to a guy who droll at them, they got confused if I'm into them or not. Kinda like a frog in pot filled with water that slowly burn into hot water, they are not aware of their feeling toward me have changed during that time. I keep many of them as my friends instead of settle down with just one woman that possibly limit my free time of seek have fun with peers alone, unless any one cute girl tell me she love me first.

Keep that in mind, women are ten times more sensitive than men. If they aware that a man is try to take an effort, it's game over for him. I've seem other guys like that got shot down many times.

I think it might be up to your additude, beacause, when you speak to them, they find your additude or something not convient with looks, or just not suitable. Try humor. But altough off chance, its possible that its just a rare chance that every woman had bf, busy, who knows what.
Don't stop trying! Take care, and good luck.

looks are important, people who say they're not are lying. but alsp good personality is important, charisma and such...

Well I'm 18 female and I'm in the same boat. People tell me I'm attractive I always get numbers and boys are always interested in me but when a boy and me get close and i always chicken out, or take so long making my decision and they get bored. Maybe you should tackle drunk girls haha! You can always not look and you'll find someone. Go clubbing, thats my advice or join a club or meet some new people get close to a girl start flirting via text.
Hope it helps :)

try women that are decent.....

move to the West coast.You'll get laid.

Maybe you're looking for love at all the wrong places. Keep trying and you'll be in luck one day. Or else, try dating websites. Oh, there's nothing wrong with going to Vegas by the way, make sure you use protection though.

they can tell your desperate, thats why youve never and never will play hide the sausage with anything other than a 5 dollar whore