19 year old "hot" female virgin undateable?

Basically I grew up ugly (fat as f**k,ugly hair,ect.) and got bullied a lot as a child. As a result I became a loner in about 6th grade and have been one up to this point in my life at 19 (as a mechanism to protect myself.) I suffered from Eds and depression growing up and am just now becoming more "normal" to the outsider (guess I'm just good at acting "normal".) People tell me that I'm "hot" and "have a nice body" and how "they can't believe I've never had a bf", but they fail to realize that I didn't grow up like with friends,dating, and have yet to hit most "teenage milestone". I'm a huge loner and a sucker with no self esteem :)

Apart from that I like to think I'm a decent human being with brain cells and empathy for others. I also like good music and have been told I'm chill by guys.

I guess I appear normal on the outside but my loser/loner status makes me think I will never get a decent bf and that I will end up a 40 year old virgin because my loserness would turn off guys.

So am I f**ked dating wise and life wise?

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Based on 38 votes (21 yes)
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Comments ( 13 )
  • Tealights

    The feelings you're going through are normal. Almost everyone experience this stage at some point.

    Eventually, someone is going to gain your trust and try to date you. The problem is, since you have zero experience, you could get easily fooled by sweet talk from some scumbag guys who want nothing but to control or use you. All I can say is watch for red flags when you do meet a guy who is interested, sex isn't mandatory, and know the difference between love vs. infatuation. Good luck.

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  • Steven_Glansberg

    We need to see a pic of you to determine if you are decent looking now

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  • Big_Nigga_Payday

    Honestly, because of your inexperience you will probably end up making some mistakes with guys that will come along.

    JUST LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES.

    From the tone of your post you seem to have a decent heart and good character. Stop with the self-conscious, insecure "loser/loner" nonsense, its irritating for members of either sex to hear someone moan on about the "whoa is me" bullshit.

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  • addicted2wife

    Male that never dated had sex or any social skills here because of the religion I was raised in. I went to college at 21 had several dates and boy the young ladies laughed when they discovered my virginity. The first 3 attempts at sex were dreadful accept that an older lady had taught me how to please women orally. I probably would have given up otherwise. My first attempt at intercourse ended with me coming in my pants. The next 2 times was on a young ladies leg. They all laughed at me. Luckily I was able to talk the 3 rd one into letting me eat her. After that we tried intercourse again and I at least survived penetration (10 seconds tops). But I was no longer a virgin I was over the "hump" at age 25. I still am lucky to last through penetration 20 years later. But I would rather get her off so it doesn't matter

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  • Lonely2

    your a girl so its a lot easier than being a guy with self eelf esteem and anxiety because as long as you smile a guy will approach you ...so all you have to do is being open to it..literally and figuratively

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  • theseeker

    If you've been isolated most of your life, it's a tough adjustment trying to be social because you probably grew up different. Of course, you're going to feel extremely uncomfortable at first, but the more experiences you go through, the more comfortable and confident you will become.

    You have to realize that believing you're worthless isn't reality. That's just what's in your head. The reality is you're just like everybody else. Yeah, you might be a little inexperienced, but that doesn't mean you are any worse or better than anybody. You're a person just like everyone else. If you can realize this, then that's a good step in the right direction.

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  • Couman

    It just depends on how picky you are.

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  • shuggy-chan

    Well we all know be 19 at the pinnacle of your life so of course you are, it's not like you have the best years of your life ahead of you or anything

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  • IMissMary

    Leave the past in the past otherwise you will continue to bring this baggage with you and ruin your chances and create more baggage. Who cares what happened as a kid forget about it.

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  • ThingTwo

    You are hott. And, hott is good. Be happy, go to parties, talk to boys.

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  • Cjmckay

    If your a virgin ,that's what every guy wants.I am old enough to be your dad ,so believe me, you have alot going for you.Look for your favorite guy and show him you demand respect.Your a woman and your beautiful.

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  • LittleGirlShamelesslySodomized

    It doesn't matter. As long as you have a pussy a man can stick his cock inside of, for the most part you have it made. Honestly, the rest is personal issues in your head.

    Start spreading em'

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    • jaradscellmate

      That's actually good advice...not very subtle but still good advice.

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