17 year old dating a 27 year old?

First of all, how long have you both been dating each other?

Secondly, TELL YOUR PARENTS!

To me the reason why it's squicky, is because YOU ARE FRIGGIN' 17 YEARS OLD, you shouldn't be moving in with a guy that your parents do not even know, and make such big decisions at your age.

Do you know what you want to do with your life? Are you going to go to college? How long are you going to go college for? How are you going to move on in your life? How far away are you from your family? Will he become possessive with you?

And something that's been bothering me is this line, "it's hard to explain but I feel like he thinks I will be a good girlfriend in 1 year and wants to keep me around for that time being."

You only THINK that the 27 year old man, with whom you are going to live with, will keep you around 'FOR THE TIME BEING'?! Moving in with someone isn't to be trifled with! He could lose interest in you, or you in him and then what? Where would you go then? Would you go back to your mom's? What happens if you two DO get sexually active, have a major fight, break up, and then you're preggers? What will you do then?!

I have a boyfriend, he's 20 and I'm 19. I'm not going to move in with him until I feel absolutely solid in my decision. He gets that, and thinks the same thing because that's how ADULTS make life changing decisions.

does anybody remember being this old? shut up and let her make her own decisions. So what if it doesn't last? Let her find out for herself. It sounds healthy to me. And not rare if it does work out.

What bothers me is that if she was 18, a lot of these posts would be different. I know a lot of 27 year olds who are a lot less mature than some of the 18 years old I know.

relationship have a way or coming from unexpected places, but it doesn't mean the feeling arnt leget. I say just be careful and ready if it doesnt work out. i mean i kinda have a strong friendship/relationship with a girl 8 years younger then me.

Well he has way more experience than you and it makes me wonder, how do you two meet? How long have you known him before you officially made it a couple. You both may want different things in life as he may want a family and you still may want to explore life. It would be unfair in the next 3 0r 4 years for you to be knocked up with his kids and haven't experienced life yet, as he has done everything there is to do. Also you still a teen and think like one to and he's a grown man and thinks like one to. He may get tired of you and things that you do, when your just being yourself for where you're at.

It all depends on the age of consent.

My parents have over 12 years of difference between them, HOWEVER when they met Mom was around 25 or so and had been supporting herself for well over 8 years.

Right now you're living at home and Mom and Dad pay the bills and decide things for you. I would recommend waiting. You haven't even lived on your own yet supporting yourself and somehow you're ready for an adult relationship?

O_o

I dated a guy when I was 17 and he was 26, but he was a university student so it felt like less of an age difference. I think the issue is that obviously there is a massive imbalance, and also, do you really want to just finish school and move in with him? What about your own career and ambitions?

Age is just an arbitrary number, so forget all the societal expectations nonsense and have fun.

Frankly I'm jealous, how did you meet him?

It's plain perverted. You need to realise how sick having sex a child really is (she is not an adult until she is 18). You would buy 1 adult and 1 child ticket at he movies.....!!!! And you are nearly 30 so grow up you disgusting excuse for a human being. Leave her alone and let her enjoy her life with boys her own age and don't take her teenage years away from her.

im 27 and im engaged to a 17 year old she is a wonderful very mature woman i love her deeply i was in a horrible 8 year marriage and it almost took my life from me so you honestly shouldnt feel ashamed or feel that should have to keep it secret people will talk and always have their opinion on your relationship but the only important thing is do you think its wrong if it is what makes your life feel complete and you are happy than thats all that matters so dont buy into the b.s that others will throw at you good luck on your relationship and i hope it brings you nothing but happiness .......

kris

If you have not told your parents and you are keepinf it a secret dont you think that is a little imature on both parts. i was having a little trouble with this beacuse my younger brother 17 is daiting a 27 year old woman. but because they have told my mom and she is okay with it i feel a little at ease. But if you guys feel you have to hide it... something is worng. sit down with your parents and talk... but remeber they want what i sbest for you.

and the way you made it sould like keeping you around... are you guys even official... i can admit i hit relationships from my parents but only becuase i thought they didnt aprove. And my gut feeling was that they didnt. in the long run you will want someone that will make you happy and if getting along with your family is big then that..

i just feel like it should not be something you hide from family...

but what the person said above... DONE EVER THINK THAT YOU ARE A SLUT....

specially if you guys are not having sex. i have had namy friends cry on my sholder because of being called that.

i am almost 20 and my fiance is 24. he asked me out on my 18th birthday. his questions all were about how i felt about him how my family and friends felt about him and if they were okay with the age difference. i know it is not as big as a 10 year gap but... if you think this guy will pull you away from your family. not in a lets move... more like your never going to talk to them... but only if you are big on family like i am... i am not here to judge because i know love comes in all shapes and sizes... my papa was 27 or 29 and he fell head over heals for my grandma the age of 15 he knew right away she was the one... and treats her like it every day... i wish the best for you

I am 25 and my new girlfriend is 17 she is coming to visit me on the 17th and we are gonna be making love on the 18th.

I was in a similar situation you are in. A few months ago I was in a secret relationship at work with a guy who was 6 years older than me and I was 16 at the time. We had the best relationship but he had to move to a different state for a job but it is normal for this to happen because when you know you love someone, age doesnt even cross your mind.

are you considered a legal adult where you live? once you're past the age of consent, 10 years isn't that bad, just as long as you're on the same maturity level.

Gogo pretty much said it

17 is legal anyway.

I think it's great. I had a fling with an older guy at 16, they are much more mature and stable.

In general, I think this is fine. I think moving in together is a bit quick, especially since he hasn't seemed to decide if he wants to date you yet...
Use your best judgement, your parents will come around.

When I was 17 I met a guy who was 17 years older than me so 34 almost 4 years on we will have been married a year next month and have a 6 month old daughter age doesn't matter as long as the relationship is happy and equal. My family came round once they realised he was a genuinely nice person and that were good for each other

I think it's great. I had a fling with an older guy at 16, they are much more mature and stable.

who doesnt like young pussy? I would always rather date someone who i think has less mileage than a possible ex freak...As a man i think he got you while you were young to ensure your loyalty and love when you came of age. Nothing wrong as long as you both are cool...but i wouldnt want my younger sis dating a dude that is almost 30 while she is in high school...