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I'm 19 years old, in college, still a virgin, and still has never been in a true relationship. All around me I see all my friends with guys in their lives. I'm really focused in school and believe that my future occupation comes first but sometimes I just want to be loved by somebody. is that weird?
I'm a dude, I'm 20, and I've never even HELD HANDS with a girl, let alone kissed, been in a relationship, or had sex. I'm actually serious, if that makes you feel better.
I'm not a virgin but am in a similar boat. I am 19 and in college and I've only had sex once and have never been in a relationship. Thus, I am inexperienced in both categories. I don't know how to get a boyfriend. I talk to guys but nothing has ever happened. My friends (who by the way had boyfriends and thus don't understand) always told me to live my life focused on school and to not go out of your way to get a boyfriend. After spending my teenage years waiting around , I am starting to think that it's dumb to sit back and hope that someday a guy will come around. If we want boyfriends then we should do something about it and I don't think there is anything wrong with a girl wanting a relationship.
Don't hurry yourself in a relationship just because everyone is. All you will get is pain and sorrow that might hurt you even more. Instead, try waiting for the mr right.
Unfortunately, the guy that will convince you he's Mister Right will in truth be a jackass - but a crafty one. Just go with the flow and try to date really nerdy guys that have at least some confidence.
I was n the same situation @ 19. Don't sweat it, when u meet the rt 1, u'll know. I met my rt 1 b4 I turned 20, married by 23. That was 28 yrs ago & we're still doing great!
Btw, the comment above, he isn't a nice person. Hard tellin' how many great girls he passed on because she never dated b4.
Stay innocent! Im 20 and ive been with I think 12 girls. I thiught hookin up was the only thibg that was important. I would love to be a vurgin and have ny first time with a virgin. Its something you will never be able to take back. Wait till your with whos right for you. Your obviously a good girl and youll find a good guy. Those girls who get all fucked up and sleep with every guy on collage are soooo unattractive. Stay fresh. Dont let other people spoil you because if that special someone comes along and your all used up. You will regret it. Hope this helps
You have your priorities straight... you are taking care of your education before sleeping around.
Your peers might try to convince you otherwise but remember, they're letting their crotches think for them... This means that the odds are stacked against them... Assuming they even graduate, they may likely end up knocked up, with STDs, or in a bad relationship way too early in life.
... While you are in a career you like, with an ample paycheck, and very likely in a mature relationship that will last longer than a handful of orgasms.
Sometimes being the college bicycle isn't all it's cracked up to be.... but the other bicycles will try to convince you that it's normal to be a slut.... because you will eventually make them look bad.
im the same.. and its a bit embarrassing when people ask who ive dated etc and i have to say noone...
I think you're doing the best thing. Most people aren't worth it anyway. You'll feel it when you really want to go for it. I understand the pressure because I lived the same way until my early twenties and now I'm really glad I never pushed myself and just let things flow naturally.
I'm in almost the exact same boat except i'm a guy. you're definately not alone.
Accidentally voted yes, but meant to say 'yes' it is normal to feel that way. Sorry about that. Anyways, your thoughts are pretty normal. Don't pressure yourself and whatever you do, don't force it. The time will come and when it does, please use protection. Good luck in your studies!
Ehh, I don't agree with the other comment. Waiting for mister right doesn't work that way. I'm not a dick in any way, but I don't usally date girls that don't usally date, or havnt had a bf, not because I don't like them or i'm not attracted to them...but it takes a while for a inexpirienced girl to open up. I'm not willing to put myself out there , because of her inexpirience not know how to handle the situations that come up in a relationship. I think being a good bf/gf does take some practice, some guys ( and girls especially from my own expirience lol) arnt willing to sweat the small stuff
So it's normal to not date, but why not? Sure short turn it could cause a bit of heart ache...but it gets you one step closer to the real deal.
so what if shes shy??? it makes no sence to say u dont wanna date a girl just cuz she didnt have enough boyfriends for you!! love starts with the heart! it haz nothing to do with how many boyfriends or how many times shes did it with some one. thats utterly rediculous. so, your basicly saying, when u grow up (or if u are grown up.-not trying to bash u) u will meet a beutiful lady and then so what if she doesnt wanna open up all the way? love takes time. u cant rush through stuff because that, is already a dead relationship. and what will u say then when u both know you like each other? u cant just randomly ask her "HOW MANY BOYS DID U HOOK UP WITH AND HOW MUCH SAX HAVE YOU HAD IN UR LIFE?" i meen, god that sounds so retarded and just, wtf? she ill wonder why u asked this, and then u will say "BECAUSE I WANT A GIRL WHO HAS BEEN WITH 10000 GUYS AND HAS HAD ALL THE S@X IN THE WORLD" the first thing that woman will do is slap the shit out of you and cry and run away.
if you have s3# and to many relationships, you might as well be a hoe. waltzing around campus with ur stripper clothes,high heels, thinkin u sexy and all the boys want u.. well its not like that because no one wants a hoe wife and no one wants to marry a bitch with 20 kids so stay innocent!
It is very normal. Maybe it just wasn't your time. But Don't worry almost NO ONE stays virgin forever unless you are not seeing anyone and never were seeing anyone or you're super Christian and beloved it's a sin.
don't feel weird it is normal in fact you should not let this stress you or worry you
We are both kinda in the same boat and all I have to say is to chew some Thunderberry gum(tm)!!
You are ok. keep your priorities in order. And observe people's interaction. It will give you an idea of how people really are, before you get involved with them.
In a nutshell, go out and find Mr. Right Now! (at our age we aren't looking for Mr. Right).