20 effing years old and i've never had boyfriend!

Seriously. It's pathetic. Im 20 years old and i've never had a bf. I've been asked out several times. And I had a couple of semi-bfs. just dating and sex for a few weeks and then it just ends. Without me or the guy feeling to bummed out about it. Im not conceited or anything but all of my friends, both girls and boys, keep telling me that im hot and that I always get attention when we go out.. And I sort of do. but that's it. Either its it my appearence ( Im 65 Inc tall and I weigh about 140 Ibs. Green eyes, tanned ect.) or it's my personality ( Have many friends, easily make friends) And my self-esteem is like any other 20 year girl. So do I have a problem or is it just normal?( I think it's wierd)And I dont think that it's just a question of me not meeting the right guy. I meet quys that I really like. but then it just ends before it actually starts without any of us understanding why. And please be honest.. Or im just gonna presume that I'm asexual and that i'm going to end up alone with a bunch of cats.

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  • AceOf<3s

    1) if you are sexually attracted to people you aren't asexual.
    2) You have had boyfriends, just not long term ones.
    3) find out why they didn't work- it might be a bit painful but ask your exes what went wrong.
    4) and finally having a bf is not the be all and end all. I think you are normal personally :p

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  • stop complaining and worry about people like me who will never get a girlfriend...

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  • darkprince

    perfectly normal.. dont listen to any of these guys...

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  • maybe your gay

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  • Potatowenders

    If youve had sex and like sex youre not asexual

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  • Epofly

    My friend has his first girlfriend when he was 28. So he married his only girlfriend, but maybe that's all he needed. He's happy with the love of his life now. :)

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  • Ashjames01

    well first of all, your a woman not a girl and 2nd, you have had boyfriends, and sex, try me for example, one yr older than you , single like FOREVER, no sex no sexual activity apart from masturbation , there is a lot worse so stop complaining i know you also young but drop the attitude as it won't get you anywhere

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  • ariannel

    You are way too young to be thinking somethings wrong with you. You're just a pup. My first real serious relationship didn't begin until I was 23. My little sister went through several quasi-boyfriends until she was 27. Relax and enjoy this time of your life and being single. You'll find someone in time.

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  • thecoldhardtruth

    heres a saying that might help you:
    Girls are like
    apples on trees. The best
    ones are at the top of the tree.
    The boys don't want to reach for
    the good ones because they are afraid
    of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they
    just get the rotten apples from the ground
    that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples
    at the top think something is wrong with
    them, when in reality, they're amazing.
    They just have to wait for the right
    boy to come along, the one
    who's brave enough
    to climb
    all the way
    to the top
    of the tree.

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    • awww i love the saying!

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  • Mechastar

    lol just not meeting the right guys, I thot you meant you never dated a guy AT ALL which is normal as well

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  • bbbr1234

    go out with nice smart boys that doesnt just want you for your looks.

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  • ChairliftLover

    OMG I feel the same as you! I'm not gay, and people find me very attractive. But I am in a relationship. I am not even attracted to him though. I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm 18 though. I think your normal.
    I think that I'm asexual as of 20 mins ago lol

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  • crazyd00d

    try asking someone out
    guys dont like to ask girls out

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  • Ok seriously I feel your pain. I'm 23 and I've had a few "sorta kinda kinda sorta" boyfriends. It seems like it never works out. I feel like I'm just "fuckable" "hott" and the worst exprssion to me of all the "milf" and I really don't think I will ever get married like all the other women around me. The best advice I can give you is just don't put out until you meet a guy you really like and you know he really likes you and wants to be a part of your life.

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  • Sebastian19

    Ok fuck the person who just commented you below me, if you are very beautiful yea, men probably are very intimated by your beauty because they are afraid that you might come off as one of those mean bitches that are really intelligent, and unique. But you know it's ok because my sister is 19 going 20 she out of a 4 year relationship and just started a new one. But the thing is is that the man that she going out with, isn't really attractive at ALL! And you know that's something that's going on with a lot of women who are making the choice to go out with men who are less attractive because these sort of men are more grateful to have a women who is very beautiful as you are, and they know that they will never be able to get someone like you. So may be you should try something new, I mean do you try to go out with men who are like really hot? We all know that men are ass holes, especially the ones that know that they are good looking and very cocky imature men. I think you should be very wise on a man that you choose. Everyone is beautiful in there own way, you can always try to work on yourself, but that doesn't mean that you have to go out and fine some one that's extremely good looking, but attitude/personality is a complete ASS! I'm sure that whoever you are you will find the right person that will treat you and show respect, but someone that will never let you go.

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    • RocketZz

      What's with the language?? not nice.

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  • OrangeQtips

    Thats not normal at all. By 18 most girls (unless they're horrendously fat or ugly) start getting boyfriends, and if they don't have one its usually their choice. If you were a guy I'd say yeah its normal, a lot of guys are single not by choice. But a girl wanting a boyfriend and not being able to get one? I'm sorry but you must be either REALLY ugly, or your standards must be extremely high to where you only want to date Brad Pitts.

    OR it could be the opposite. You're so good looking that most guys are intimidated by you.

    Either way, you're doing something wrong because a 20 year old woman should always have a boyfriend if she wants one.

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