20 and virgin with a nice af boyfriend

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I've never ever had sex in my life. I've had a 2 year boyfriend in the past that turned out to be a douche ( was always a douche I was just young like 15 when I got with him and just stayed though till I couldn't). He wasn't a virgin and wanted to do it so badly but I was so not ready I thought I was young. After that I just took a break from relationships and did not take any interest in men that approached me, I wouldn't say that I didn't have a sex drive I have always had a very healthy sex drive but I just withdrew from men for my own good. I am 20 now and I have been dating my boyfriend for more than a year now. He's a very ideal man I really love him. We have made out a lot and stuff but I've never had sex because yk the older you get the more conscious you get about it ( have you seen the 40 year old virgin?) and I've never wanted to have sex at a young age. I've also always had very prudish friends who judge a
Lot and my family treats me like a small child, not in bad way but they legit think that I'm a kid. I am just so repressed due to all this I want do it at times but I would think of myself as a disappointment to my parents if I did. Also, because I'm pass the 16-17 age with everyone around losing their V-card and getting laid, sex also looks scary now that I think so much. I am pathetic at handling stuff and if I started having sex then any pregnancy scare would have the potential to burn me to the ground. Why am I such a loser idk if you even get me. I cannot confide in a friend with this. please be my friends and tell me what a loser am I.

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  • Cedric_Diggory
    7 years ago

    Firstly, you need to step out of your parents' shadows and become your own person.
    Secondly, if you feel so strongly about your boyfriend then have sex with him. Start with dryhumping. Then move on to mutual masturbation. Then oral. Take time in discovering each other's bodies and getting to know how to pleasure each other.
    Then you can move on to penetrative sex if that's what both of you want.

    And ffs please pick up an E-Book and do research about contraception and things like that before you give yourself a heart attack from all the worrying.

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  • Cookiecutter
    7 years ago

    If you feel ready then talk to him and do it. Dont listen to what everyone has to say its your body and you dont need to tell them about your sex life. If you really like this guy and he likes you nothing else matters only if your ready. Dont feel that you have too because of everyone else just listen to you.

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  • Keepsake
    7 years ago

    Bottom line is if you don't want to give it up yet then don't. There's no rush and no need to conform. After all, it's your own body.

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  • CDmale4fem
    7 years ago

    DONT EVER LET ANYONE MAKE OR TRY TO MAKE YOU FEEL BAD ABOUT BEING YOURSELF. YOU are in control of your own body, don't ever let any other swinging dick on earth persuade, coax, convince, push, point, you in a direction that is anything other than WHAT YOU WANT FOR YOURSELF. If you choose college and a year or 2 you end up pregnant, who will have a harder time ? Not the baby daddy, he might walk away saying shit like "Fuck that, it's not mine, I heard you were cheating on me with my friends," or stupid shit like that. They want the pussy but they don't want to pay up when there's a baby made. Keep your virginity as long as you feel like. All the haters are jealous cuz you have control, and they probably have STDs.

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