19 and only interested in fictional characters

i'm 19 and i get obsessed with cartoons, videogame characters, even real actors but only for the characters they play. i have no interest in sex and that would be the only reason people have relationships. it's not like i get attracted to these characters, i just like them so much, mostly antiheros, i think they'r cool or funny or cute nothing more and i wish i could be friends with them to go on adventures together. i just like to see them doing different things and i look at fanart or make my own. i dream about it sometimes and they are the best dreams ever. i replay them in my mind and fantasize all day. i even hope someday to make costumes of my favorite characters so i can be them.i have never been this interested in real people. never been attracted to anyone never had a real friend because it feels like they only want something. im losing reality . nothing feels real .

i know this is actually pretty common but even so for a 19 year old..? and to this extent? IIN?

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  • what you dont understand is, i have been out there, and i didnt like it, that is why i have turned this way... i do think life is nice, but not so much the people. i go out in nature all the time but i just like to be alone... idk i guess i'm facinated with characters because they are just so mysterious . but once i get to know a real person, no matter how nice they are, after awhile i get annoyed with them, or suspicious, and stop talking to them. the only time this hasn't happend is with internet friends. i dont even have to see or hear them, and i'm usually drawn to them because of their avatar or icon, and when i talk with them i see them as the character mostly.

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  • crazycow

    Are you worried about it? Does it bother you? Is it hurting anyone else? If the answer to these questions are no then there isn't really a problem. Everyone is different and not everyon likes real life social interaction and I think its probably more common than people realise. However, if it does bother you then maybe you should try to make the effort. People get annoyed with other people, its the way life is but it usually the good things you get out of socialising outweigh the bad things.

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  • it's the same for me, real people do not interest me so much and I actually fell in love with many fictionnal, cartoon characters - antiheroes mostly as well : Raphael from TMNT, Knuckles and Shadow from the sonic the hedgehog serie and there are so much I can't actually count but they're all fictionnal. I don't have any idea if it's normal but since we are 2 that are that way, guess it does have something normal, in some way.

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  • squirrelgirl

    You sound a lot like me. In fact, your post sounds so much like something I would write that it's almost uncanny. I'm around the same age as you and I prefer pretending to be friends with fictional characters over interacting with real people. I also feel the same about a lot of the other things you mentioned in your post. A big part of it for me personally has to do with the fact that I'm diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum and socializing with actual people is more challenging and tiresome for me than it is for non-autistics. Maybe you should look into the possibility of autism as a reason for your strong preference for fictional characters.

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  • SloppyJoe

    Get out there and enjoy real life. Smoke blunts to cope with whatever challenging endeavors may come forth on your journey to interact with real things/people.

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  • That seems really, really sad. Real life is WAY better than fake shit, you need to get out there and discover that.

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  • xiaowangzi

    most real people suck. keyword, "most". if you want to feel the good ones it takes a bit more effort than finding interesting people who are fictional.

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  • unrose

    Escapism. Seems quite normal to me.

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  • yumichu

    Real life people arent that awesome. Fictional character can be everything we want to be and most important, they'll never hurt you...

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  • MBakke

    Real people tend to be boring.

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  • Beekeeper

    I feel like that! Whenever I watch a good movie or read a good book, I become obsessed with the characters! I generally either fall in love with one of them, or really want to be one of them.

    I often feel like people only want to be my friend because they'll get something from me (connections to others, parties, etc). I have problems trusting friends and family. I feel like people are going to turn on me or I am afraid of their motives.

    The costume thing you said is cool. I've always wanted to be a spy or a superhero and wear a slick costume and run around at night fighting people.

    What really got me was your reality thing. Did this happen recently, or do you fall into it from time to time? When I feel disconnecting and confused about life I get really depressed. How does it make you feel? Do you get angry at people for being able to live?

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  • alv1592

    it's normal to be single at your age, but not for that reason. it's ok to have favorite characters but it sounds like your emotions are in the red zone.

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  • richboytoy

    Hmmmm...... Never met anyone like that.

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  • CountryRoads

    Sweet Jesus...

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