Would you stay with a cheater?

Why did you chose to stay with your partner who cheated?
Does it get better in time? Were you able to forget what he did? Did your relationship you know got better?

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  • If my boyfriend ever cheats, I'm packing my stuff and leaving. I own a a house that I can always go back to and I can budget for any situation that comes. I'll be just fine. XD

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  • Honestly, I would just naturally stop loving a cheater. I can't love a cheater, so there would be literally zero reason to stay with a cheater.

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  • No.

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  • In cuckolding relationship yes

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  • No. In most cases, "once a cheater, always a cheater". Even if this case were to be an exception, I would lose all trust for them, and what's the point in being in a relationship without trust? Trust is the foundation of a good relationship.

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  • I have too much self respect and it exceeds my feelings for every person in my life. Plus there would be no point. I would never trust the lowlife again and I would take joy in making him miserable.

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  • I had a Boyfriend Ten Years ago, We knew each other in high school but I only dated him when I was 21. He's always been a player, went from Girl to Girl. I should have known better before Dating him but our relationship only lasted a Month or Two until I found out from His Facebook page that He already Had another Girl.

    I was and still is disgusted that he would even consider dating multiple girls and I blocked Him from Facebook and his number. A year later, I saw him at an Anime conference but I only said hi and walked away. I haven't heard from him since.

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  • It would take some time to rebuild trust. I’m not sure I could do it, it would change the dynamic so much.

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  • Only if he let me do it too

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  • I dont think Id leave my wife for mostly any reason

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  • I would never stay with someone who is a player.

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  • I'm sorry but I prefer men that cheat. They're just more attractive and accomplished to me.

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  • The question is why did they cheat (the question is not what happened - its why did it happen). Was this a one time (or limited) thing created by drugs or a certain situation? Both of those situations occur (there are several drugs that make a person extra horny - there was even an Olympic athlete caught up in that as they needed sex multiple times a day when on that drug; which went away when they were switched to another medication). People also do end up in survival situations (even short term ones: and base instincts can take over).

    Did they just get caught up in a situation that they had not thought through to all the consequences and just progressed as it seemed the right thing to do at the time, and are very sorry once they realize what they did.

    All of the above situations do occur, and you can move past them as they are unlikely to ever occur again (and many people do move past them).

    Now if someone is constantly cheating outside of those kinds of situations, and keeps repeating it.... that cannot be lived with by most people.

    If someone has a real sexual need that their partner is not filling - then they need to be adult enough to tell their partner that up front and seek professional assistance to work though things.

    If there is a sexual need that their partner cannot fill (for a variety of reasons) then most partners come to agreement on allowing other partners (with rules) and its no longer cheating; and a long term loving an caring relationship can be maintained (real love is not about sex, and sex is rarely about love).

    It's unfortunate that so few people are willing to admit to their partners what they are struggling with and work things out with their partner to find a solution. I note that I have done that with my wife when we found that there were unresolved sexual desires after marriage.

    One book that usually helps a lot of people recover from a degradation or break in a relationship: The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I encourage you to read it, and to have your partner read it as well. This resolves about 80% of most minor sexual desire issues between caring partners.

    I wish you the best on working this out.

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  • I believe in sleeping around when you're in a relationship. I don't think it's cheating I like that extra sense of competition.

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