Would you force/sneak your s/o to take medicine they need?

You're robbing him of his right to informed consent by spiking his food like that. I'd be a little pissed if someone did that to me.

Basically, you're his safety-net. When he falls, you catch him. Or in this case, when he's off his meds, you keep him in check until he can do it himself. I think it's fine, because it sounds like he already has medications that works well for him, but the effects wear off too fast.

My suggestion: Establish a rule with him.

When he's medicated, tell him the truth and why you do it. Once he understands and gets his feelings about it out, ask if it's okay that you continue to be his safety-net. Along with that, have him carry a timer with him that will remind him to take his meds on his own (if you guys haven't done this already).

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My two cents about this is I get what everyone is saying about consent and all that, but you're his wife (or husband maybe????). You're doing what's best for him and his well being. It doesn't make sense to let a sick man remain sick. Although, I'm still all about letting him know what you're doing, because you don't want him thinking he's getting out these manic episodes alone somehow, that may prompt him to become more lacks with taking his meds or thinking he doesn't truly need them.

Unless he's a danger to himself or others when he's off his medication, I don't believe you have the right to medicate him against his will. Turn it around if you don't get my point: how would you feel if it were the other way round?

No. This is dangerous on so many levels.
You're treating him like a child and betraying his trust. There are too many risks to even list. You're putting both his mental and physical health at risk.

One more thing to add: the medications bipolars take can have very serious side effects, lithium the much used mood stabilizer can destroy thyroid permanently, depakote can cause liver injury in rare cases, tegretol and lamictal can cause serious to lethal skin reactions, antipsychotics cause serious metabolic disturbances.

What will you do if he gets one of these serious side effects and figures out that you have been spiking his food with drugs?

This is a difficult situation and I can see how you could come up with this conclusion, but it is not the solution. In a relationship, it's quite difficult when a partner isn't mentally stable and isn't wanting the help. I've been through something similar. But sneaking their pills could very well ruin your relationship, and on their side it would be really awful to know they were taking something without their consent. But if they aren't willing to get help, it strains you as a person and something that communication can only solve because clearly it's affecting you as well. If they aren't willing to take action to create a better life for themself, then they aren't trying to create a better life for you as well. As they say, if you can't take care of yourself then how can you take care of other people.

Damn, thats a messy situation. Ive seen how bipolars behave when off their meds.

If it's harmless then how exactly is it a disorder ??

Sneak them into his food ? you may be the mentally ill one here, strange troll :I

WHAT THE FUCK!

The best times of my life are when I'm like that, and you want to take that away, the fuck...

I guess if he's got commitments then yeah perhaps he shouldn't, but does what he do cause problems?

By the way, I'm schizophrenic and they don't force me take my meds...

Also, what you're doing is illegal, and you don't think about things like what if he's taking something else which interacts with the drugs and could kill/harm him.

Why doesn't he take the meds? Is it because he feels he loses his energy and feels depressed because of it? Or something else?

Yeah you should do it

I personally don't think this is that bad, because he may not be entirely mentally competent, and you'll also have to deal with whatever trouble he causes by being off his meds.

Strictly morally speaking, however, I think what you're doing is wrong, because you're violating his bodily autonomy and his trust.

As other commenters have said, drugging him could also be dangerous. What if he takes another medicine, or does something without your knowledge that shouldn't be mixed with the drugs you're spiking his food with?

The fact that he could be suffering side effects from the drugs, and mistake them for another sickness could add to this risk.

If it was my spouse, I'd do it. However before you married him, did you know about his condition?

Guess its ok, as long as you don't get upset when you find he has been putting drugs in your tea to get what he wants

No, I think it's wrong, but I can see how something like this is morally grey, and that a lot of people would think it's the right thing to do. If you are going to do it then make sure you do it every day. Anti-depressants take weeks of taking them for them to work, and they're addictive.

I wouldn't have time for any of that business.

This is a sticky situation.

On one hand, as someone who was put on medications that did nothing but harm me throughout my adolescence and would never in a million years go back, I would be absolutely livid if I found out they were being snuck into my food.

On the other, I've met some people who seriously needed their medications, yet refused to take them, and their lives were always in turmoil because of it. However, I don't know that I could force it on them. I really don't know what I would do except try my best to convince them that they need to take them. If that doesn't work, it just seems like you're between a rock and a hard place.

Very tough call. Based on what I know, I would say what your doing isn't wrong, however I would not consider it the best course of action. I would explain to him that he is better off with meds and there is nothing wrong with taking them. Communucation is key in a relationship and what your doing is kind of a band aid to cover up the problem instead of fixing it ats its root. Improve your communication.

Send him to a mental institution asap.