Would you date a man who was nice but?

Let's pretend you're really into this guy. He's kind, smart, hilarious and loyal. You laugh a lot, have fun together but he's lazy with his appearance. He's 25 but he's going bald, the little hair that he has is half grey, he's obese and when you hint about things like hair and weight in a polite way i.e I wonder what you'd look like with hair, do you want to join a gym with me? And he says he doesn't care about his appearance. What do you do? He looks like he could be your Dad because he already let himself go at 25 and he doesn't care about how he dresses either aka he doesn't put any effort.

Even going to a nice fancy restaurant he just wears a wrinkly plain white shirt that clings to his belly but he's a really nice guy, the nicest you've met and again he can make you laugh so hard you cry every time you're with him

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Comments ( 34 )
  • Cuntsiclestick

    So, you're into an ugly guy with a fun personality? Meh, seems normal enough. Though the fact that he doesn't try to clean up is a little concerning.

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  • olderdude-xx

    He probably has no control over the baldness and the grey. He can of course dye his hair; but, relatively few guys do that... they just let it get grey (and then white).

    You obviously like him. The key question is do you have any similar dreams and goals for the future. If he has a partner assisting him on some of his dreams and goals... you may find that he also improves his appearance based on your suggestions.

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  • Shackled_Fox

    I’m a really active person and to me that means that he’s not and that wouldn’t be compatible with me. But if you don’t need to be super active then sure!

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  • SkullsNRoses

    It sounds like you like him as a friend. You’re not physically attracted to him and the fact that he doesn’t care about looking after himself in the way that you do makes you incompatible. No-one’s done anything wrong here, you’re just two people who wouldn’t work as a couple.

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  • jethro

    You are more concerned what people will think about you. Not what they will think about him. You are not good enough for him.

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    • I don't care what others think, it's his physical appearance that he puts no effort into that's what bothers me. He's around 280 pounds, doesn't care what he looks like or how he dresses. I really love his personality and we get along well but his sloppy disregard for his appearance gets to me

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      • jethro

        Then you are the shallow one. Perhaps you are as ugly as a mud fence but he obviously doesn't care about your looks Beauty won't last forever. Even if your appearance is quite beautiful, your personality makes you more unattractive than his disheveled appearance. You see, he could always lose weight and dress himself up, but your personality will always be ugly.

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        • Okay then maybe I'm shallow because I don't find laziness attractive 🤷‍♀️

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          • RoseIsabella

            No, there's nothing wrong with you.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Why so angry at OP? It's just her opinion. She just tends to prefer people who take care of themselves, and what's wrong with that?

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  • Lusty-Argonian

    My first guy didn't. My second guy did snd my current guy does. A man with a nice butt is a wonderful thing! It's fun to look at. It's fun to grab. It's a fun thing. Men with nice butts are great

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    • Irizu3748392746483938

      It didn't ask if you like guys with nice butts. And wtf? 🤣🤣

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      • Lusty-Argonian

        "Would you date a man who was nice but?"

        I wouldnt date a guy I didn't like.

        Oh. Didn't even notice the single t. Didn't read post just title

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        • Millie_the_evil_saint

          LOL!

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          • dude_Jones

            The real question is, can a girl like you capture the artistic glory of a nice male ass when you draw one.

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            • Millie_the_evil_saint

              One day. This girl needs more practice.

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  • For some reason, I read the title as "Would you date a man with a nice butt?" and was confused.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Yes, I too thought this was a post about tha bootay.

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      • Somenormie

        lol

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        • RoseIsabella

          😉

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    • Cuntsiclestick

      I read it that way too. XD

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    • Cable4nerds

      So did I

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    • hauntedbysandwiches

      Lol well would you?

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  • GuvnorsOtherWoman

    Looking presentable yes, but not to the point of obsession. I wouldn't date a 25 year ould though, too young for me!

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  • Goomats

    Would I date a nice 25 year old obese guy??

    ...if I wasn't married to a nice 31 year old obese guy.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Nope, why would I associate with someone I'm not physically attracted to as more than a platonic friend?

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  • dude_Jones

    Your expectations for his attractiveness are not reasonable. The compatibility issue here is activity. He likes being inactive. If you enjoy being inactive, even though your appearance is unaffected, the two of you are compatible. All is well.

    However, if you are naturally quite a bit more active than he is, the two of you will have problems. Be gentle with him when you say goodbye. Very few men have a heart like he does.

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    • RoseIsabella

      If she's not attracted to him physically I don't see how they can be compatible as anything more than friends. Her lack of interest in this guy, because she doesn't find him attractive is normal. She has a right to her preferences.

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      • dude_Jones

        She is looking for a fixer-upper. You know, like these women that on the first date say, “get $10,000 of plastic surgery and I think you’ll look pretty good.”

        IMHO, the fixer-upper mode of operation is embraced by many women. After years of failed relationships, they eventually learn that this approach rarely, if ever, works.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Sounds like he's not interested in being remodeled.

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          • dude_Jones

            Lol. Yes, someday the OP will learn that she's better off focusing on real estate or stylish clothing.

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            • RoseIsabella

              I wish I were one to focus on real estate, but I'm not much of a sales person.

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    • Millie_the_evil_saint

      Totes agree.

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  • Chillycloth

    As long as he buys me whatever I want I don't care

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