Would u be offended if someone asked if you had autism?

I was at a club other night, it was LGBT thing and this lady I only met once 3 months ago, during a conversation about anxiety and councelling, asked if I may have autism. Ugh..I was taken aback and quite hurt tbh. I asked her if that's a bad thing? She explained not at all, some of the smartest people have autism. She has worked with them and has a best friend and apparently I exhibit similar traits. Wow, umm thanks for making me sound like a "patient" when I was trying to make a good first impression as she is the main admin of the small group I am in as well as finding her incredibly attractive and instead of coming across as nervous and endearing, I look like I am intellectually slow. Shes like "I'm only trying to help". I kinda just went along with it, smiled and thanked her for trying to help then immediately left. She text asking if im okay, I said no and she said come hang with us. Later she kept texting me and I replied with how I felt and she seemed awfully apologetic and didnt think autism had such a big stigma to it.

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  • Autism isn't a terrible thing to have but I would also have been offended in this situation. She was being judgemental and asking you very personal questions that made it seem like everything you said was on trial or "odd". That's a very rude thing to do when you've just met someone and it would have annoyed me too.

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  • To answer your question:
    No, I would not.
    People see what they want.
    So many either project.
    Or
    Try the P.C. bit.
    I cant keep up.
    To some people, everyone has some disability, except themselves of course.

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  • "during a conversation about anxiety and councelling" - believe it or not but there are a lot of similar characteristics between someone with anxiety issues and people from a spectrum of autism.

    If she works with people with autism syndrome then you should forgive her for what she said. I talked with someone similar once, they had a wrong idea too. I went to see a professional to check if I really had it or not. Turns out I had a little similar behaviour but not enough to be determined to have autism.

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    • Awh interesting, yeah seems like the two are similar in characteristics

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    • I hope it makes sense, I don't want to get much into detail about that situation.

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  • If you are LGBT yourself - She should be more sensitive to one of our own. Since she works with autistics, she might be trying to increase her clientele. She probably thinks EVERYone is autistic. It works the same in the school system - they have a rubber stamp, line uo the kids and mass-label them as "autistic".

    NOW though If you are straight, get this -

    Some LGBT enjoy taking opportunities to make straights feel bad.
    For many years the straights would judge, "out", and condemn LGBT, especially transgenders and gay males.
    But then all the sudden in recent years, the straights enjoy attending gay events, since LGBT is livelier than everyday straight stuff.
    Some of us would just prefer to deal with our own kind. Just because some straights have a gay or transgender acquaintance does not mean that particular straight knows what we deal with. I am transgender and sometimes cannot even go to the fuckin restroom in peace.

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    • I am honestly so sick of hearing about you guys using the restroom. I don't know how you cope with all the media attention. People are dying all over the world and yet the President wants to talk about trans people using the toilet. The mind boggles.

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      • I wish I knew. Anything Trump can do to spread hate and make LGBT lives harder than they need to be, he will do.

        Believe me, I am not a fan of media coverage over what restroom we are suppose to use.

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        • Fuck trump, he needs to be shot and is the dumbest cunt I have ever known

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    • Ugh, idk about trying to increase her "clientele". Though maybe you are right in the sense she seemed to think many had autism as we were with one other lady that night since the rest of our group left (btw I am attracted to women so not exactly straight), and she started saying "aye Jenny, we were just talking about autism and how you have it too"? Something along those lines, I kinda was really tipsy only after a beer and I was zoning in and out and also quite anxious that night.

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      • She must have felt bad for texting me so much, since she has Never initiated texting. I think she felt awfully guilty

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        • All other things aside, yeah, that would be annoying, saying "...we were just talking about autism and how you have it too"

          I would have ordered some pancakes and when they came, put on in my hand, slapped her and say "BITCH!"
          Then you could say you "Flap jack bitch slapped her funky ass".

          My previous response may have been a bit harsh, but anyways yeah her asking that was a bit uncalled for.

          If she is fat (I would bet money she is) you could have said, "Oh yeah, we were talking about medical obesity and how you suffer from it too".

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          • Na she is attractive as hell, hence why I stated in my post I had a crush

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  • I could see how that would bother you. It's kind of like she told you her judgement on you. I guess some people are just blunt like that. My mother is like this and it can be annoying. I hope you figure out how to handle your anxiety better.

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  • In a situation like that, I probably would have spilled the beans about my adhd and so on before they even had the chance to ask. I would only be offended if someone asked me condesendingly.

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    • Do you think someone can still find you attractive even if they think you have autism tendencies or ADHD

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      • I have a boyfriend of 6 years. So... I think so.

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      • My sister often joke I have ADHD, in fact it probably more than let seems that way with people especially first or second time meetings due to my nerves

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  • Someone asked me once, and I was mildly offended yeah. But it turns out that HE had autism and thought I did too, just because I also claimed to have a "weird sense of humor" - granted, I was 15, I got easily offended by anything LOL. If asked now, I wouldn't be bothered by it.

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    • Awh yeah well I was trying to impress my crush, epically failed due to the nerves

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  • It's happened to me too. It would result in me looking back at the conversation over and over and figuring out what things I may have said or did to have made them think that. After figuring it out, I'd try to fix that problem and get better. Self evaluation has helped me become less of a weirdo over the years. XD

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    • Also, I'm sick of not coming across as "hot or attractive or simply cool and chill". I tried really hard to make a good first impression that day towards them both. Yet I felt I had the oppsite effect. I also thought her partner was either jealous or saw me as a threat due to her not accepting my Facebook request and accepting most the other newbies on her page. Along with her not liking things I posted in the small group, and ignoring a comment I tagged her in but then I found out she never accepted this other new chicks Facebook request either. She also left not long into the night, with being at the club with the other friends, and left me alone with one other person and her gf. Obviously she doesnt see me as a threat or wouldnt have left her alone in the club with me. I feel more hurt and would rather her have been jealous so I know I did come across as attractive and confident. Ugh why do my attempts always back fire on me? Am I just born this way?

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      • Yeah, I've been there with not making eye contact, mushing up words, and trying to keep conversation. I've been practicing being social on the customers at my job lately. Before that, I was practicing on strangers at malls and meet up groups(dating sites too, but the men and women on there are batshit insane, so I'm not counting that at this point). A bunch of these attempts ended in failure. Some of the reasons were my fault, other times it was because I wasn't compatible with the other person, or it was their fault. Perhaps you should keep going to social events? They're the best opportunities to practice and meet others. I don't think you're born unlucky in love. You just have to keep trying and try to have more patience. As long as you're not desperate, bitter, clingy, or a criminal, you're definitely capable of finding someone. For some people finding someone takes more time than others. I didn't find someone until I was like 26.

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    • Awh ahah really, good on you!! Well ya know I had bad anxiety cause i also find her super attractive so I almost found it hard to speak but make myself. It's like I sometimes forget how to put words together and the eye contact, well let's just say I dart my eyes all over the place. If we are talking among cuple others I'm still as nervous as she is there, and I feel her looking at me. Unfortunately ofc me trying to make a good impression back fires on me and I practically self sabotage the situation. Also, side note, it were just a few days prior, online I sent her a LGBT link asking if she had tried this site for counselling. That's why in person she asked me if I was struggling and we got along the lines of anxiety and her thinking it could relate to autism even though she has anxiety herself lmao

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  • I've been told I'm autistic many times throughout my life, yet I was tested twice when i was a young boy and when i was a teenager. Not on the autism spectrum. Its extremely insulting to me to get labeled as autistic.

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