Would courts grant a restraining order against my mother?

Firstly my mother is bipolar and has used this as an excuse for her behavior. My mother can't handle reality and rejects anyone who doesn't ignore it like she does. This says this reminds her of my father who was always very acquisitive. I was kicked out by both my parents. However my mother before kicking me out was extremely clingy. She wouldn't let me get a job. She cut me off from all family members. She would not let me have any friends she didn't already know. However all the friends she already met, she claimed to forget about and said I could not bring them over. She then complained I had no friends. I ended up staying with a extended family member that before I was forbidden to see. After a month I got a job and moved to a new city. After seven months my mother started calling telling me to come home, take care of my sibling and started sending me gifts. I told her to stop bothering me. She promised she would and then kept sending me messages anyways. Can I get a restraining order?

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  • git a new phone number

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  • Yeah, I think so. Her being a family member shouldn't be a problem. However I think you're life has to be in danger or something for it to count but I don't know.

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  • So she has a diagnosed mental illness and you expect her to behave reasonably? If you can't treat her with compassion, just stay away from her, she has enough problems without you taking her to court over messages.

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    • I have and she has lashed out several times for trying to be independent from her. I am not a license doctor and while I dealt with many mentally ill I have no authority over her.

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      • If you can't treat her with compassion and detachment, move house, change your phone number and break off all contact.

        Of course you have no authority over her, but you do have a choice about how you respond to her: how would you be responding if she had cancer rather than a mental illness?

        If you deal with mentally ill people other than your mother, you're in a position to locate or establish a support group for family & friends of people with mental illnesses.

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        • Again I have reacted with compassion but I am not a doctor or a slave. How would dealing with mentally ill people mean I have a support group? I function as an independent because no one supports me. It's why I am the functional one.

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          • I didn't say you "have a support group", I suggested you're in a position to find or establish one: surely if you're as totally without support as you say, that would be a constructive step to take?

            I notice you haven't responded to my middle paragraph

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            • I wouldn't know how to go about it neither would it be constructive. I picked a restraining order as it would make her leave me alone.

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