Why do people assign their child a gender at birth?

Thankfully many people are now moving away from that but there are so many sheep that still assign a gender to their child at birth and call it male or female when that is inherently wrong.


I think child abuse is not okay. Your child is human end of story they can decide when they start speaking what they want to be but to assign them a gender at birth is cruel and backwards. This is 2021 not medieval times.

Most people I know who are having children don't assign a gender and they don't support the sheepish gender reveal parties but you still have half the population still assigning their poor child a gender. Your child is a human not a toy that you get to call what YOU want it's about THEM and how do you even know they have a gender?

Why do you think more people stop with the assigning? I can't even talk to people who still do this like it's okay

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  • "Your child is human end of story "

    Why do we treat them as human? Maybe they'll decide to live as animals or inanimate objects.

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  • Hahahahaha

    If theres a twat or a penis then boom I know the sex, gender and then automatically assume their sexual preferences in the future.
    When they turn 18 they can do whatever the fuck they want.

    I don't get where these people get their news or "science" from. Babies and children are universally known to be easily manipulated especially by their parents. By making your kid non gendered or sex you are intentionally making the child confused because a child cannot be expected to understand the magnitude of their decisions. Praising the behaviour makes it worse.

    My parenting advice? Kids play with the toys they want to play with. Parents forcing toys onto kids and then projecting social justice nonsense into their squishy brains is only making cultists at this point. Since being non gendered or sexless is ABNORMAL, responsible parents and normal people wont conform to this thinking at all.

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    • You said what I was thinking. You cannot make the exception into the rule to the detriment of the majority, on the basis of wanting to better serve minorities.

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    • I agree with this. The problem comes when we force sociol norms on kids. Just let the kids be happy with whatever and let them figure out stuff on thier own.

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      • Sure!! When I was a kid I wanted to be Tyrannosaurus Rex. So what's the problem??

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        • Are imaginary friends real now since the child says they are real?

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          • We aren't talking about, "Imaginary friends". We're talking about a child's self perception of his or her identity. That's not a laughing matter. Have you seen the suicide rate among trans-genders?? It's horrifying and it's the parents to blame!! Not society or the kids.

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            • The only way I can see someone blaming the parents is someone blaming the parents for not teaching their kids to stop being wimps.

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    • I'm a heterosexual woman, but I've honestly never really liked playing with baby dolls for instance. When I was a child I really LOVED my dinosaur books! I also really loved ballet for as long as I can remember, and have pretty much had little to no interest in team sports. I did go through a stage where I wanted to play baseball, but I think it was only because I wanted to be like my dad. When it was expressed to me that I would have to play softball with other girls I pretty much lost all interest in it. I think my worst nightmare would have been if I had had parents who wanted me to play soccer for instance, not to mention the fact that what's going on with the feet, and hips being turned inward is pretty much the polar opposite of what I had already developed in ballet. I was also into martial arts for a while, played flute in the marching band, enjoyed swimming and have always liked yoga! I think it's fair to say that my interests have been neither entirely feminine, or masculine. My biggest regret is that I was never any good at gymnastics.

      I'm glad that I was able to like what I liked, and it was never a really big deal one way, or another.

      One thing is for sure, I'm really glad that I wasn't raised in a fundamentalist Christian family, and forced to be homeschooled, but homeschooling children in order to indoctrinate them wasn't a big thing when I was growing up at all.

      I haven't been one of those women who had very strong maternal instincts to have children. I think for most of my life my maternal instincts have always been centered on domestic animals as pets. All my life I haven't ever had a really huge interest in babies, in fact if I'm at a party, and there's a little baby on one side of the room, and a dog, and or cat on the other I just naturally gravitate towards the animal if it's friendly. I think it upset my ex when we went to a party, and I didn't pay lot of attention to a baby that was there. Also I didn't want to be an imposition on the people with the tiny baby, so I wasn't trying to get up in there faces, and fawn over the baby either.

      Okay, that's it for my rant.

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      • I played with ALL the toys I could! I liked anything from Barbies to dinosaurs to non-gendered toys. I will say that I typically played with the "girl toys", but I feel every kid should experience playing with the baby doll kind of toys to teach them care and nurture.

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        • I had a few baby dolls. I named them Macaroni Eater and Chicken Eater. They had a dog named Tough Puppy. Chicken Eater was a mute. I used them more like action figures than like dolls.

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        • Yeah, I had a couple of baby dolls, but I didn't play like I was its mother. My sister, and I would play with all the stuffed animals, and about three baby dolls together, and they would all have weird adventures. My sister had this one doll that she pretended had psychic powers.

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  • Lol. What? 😂
    My kids have wieners. They are boys. Hhahah. I don’t make any activities or things they like gender specific.

    Do you have kids? I bet you don’t! 😉

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    • Not yet but I intend to have kids. It's weird you are referring to your kids by that though instead of just accepting that they are a person and you don't know what they feel like until they can talk and show you what they like.

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      • It's weird calling a boy a boy? Dafuq should you call it?

        For the sake of humanity, please DON'T have kids. There are more than enough wackos on this Earth.

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        • I agree. Some people should not reproduce. This person is definitely not fit to raise a child!!

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      • Are you really this big of a moron? Doctors assign SEX at birth, not gender. Even if you subscribe to the idea they are seperate thing, anyone with half a brain realize that a persons sex is based on parts not how they feel. Please do not procreate. We don't need more retards who can not care for their kids properly. Which leaves the children becoming the caregiver. That is really the problamatic thing here.

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        • Since they seem to be unable to grasp the concept of biological sex, I wonder how they intend to even have kids.

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          • That's funny right there. How ya gonna have kids if ya don't know the difference between a penis and a vagina? LOL

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      • Oh, they speak. And they’re both dudes. Sorry your theory doesn’t buff out in real life. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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      • Feelings have nothing to do with it.

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  • You said only half the population "assigns genders" but in reality its more around 99.9999% of the population that "assigns genders". You just call them he or she. Not everything needs to be reinvented.

    If that child turns out to be the 0.03% of the population with gender disphoria they can transition then. But forcing this narrative of gender disphoria on a child is child abuse to me. You are forcing your narrative on them. If they dont like their gender when theyre older they can change but you shouldn't pretend sex doesnt exist and dress a boy in skirts and shit

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    • Someone citing a precise percentage for something as contentious as this always makes me suspicious that the number has been pulled from their ass, so I either dismiss it or do a little Googling.

      In this case, I Googled, and it seems that your 0.03% figure is probably too high. Various credible sources acknowledge that the data is open to question, but it's estimated at 0.005% to 0.014% of natal males, and 0.002% to 0.003% of natal females have gender dysphoria. So the number you cite is probably around one order of magnitude too high.

      I have a little suggestion that's analogous to the changes the OP believes should occur:

      Something like 4% of the general population is red-green colour blind, so that condition is probably close to a hundred times more prevalent than gender dysphoria. Since it's impossible to know if a very young child is colour blind, parents should never assume that their child can distinguish between red and green, they should never mention the colours red or green (or any shade of them) when speaking to their kids, and everybody should assume that everyone they meet is red-green colour blind until the person explicitly states otherwise.

      Oh, and every traffic light in the world should be changed so that the inability to distinguish between red and green doesn't create a safety hazard, and every culture in the world needs to make a conscious shift away from red being the universal signal of danger.

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      • Hit the nail on the head.

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      • I Wish that comment got higher likes. You make a good practical point, I'm also going to use that argument for any future discussions about the topic.

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  • I hate to burst your little bubble but there are only two genders. Male and female. Nothing in between. And the parents don't decide the gender like you said. God does. Nobody can change their DNA or their gender.

    Here's a news flash for you.

    If the baby has a penis it's a boy.

    If the baby has a vagina it's a girl.

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  • Why do people assume their baby is born alive just because it's breathing? It should be left out in the snow so it can make its own choices.

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  • Well, I mean, when a baby is born, the sex needs to be definitely assigned. If it has female privates, it's most of the time female. If it has male privates, it's most of the time male.
    And the reason why I say "most of the time" instead of "always" is because, well, sometimes there are cases when the child is intersexual, but these cases are extremely rare.

    There's a difference between sex and gender: sex is anatomical and gender is non-anatomical.

    I'd say that the sex needs to be assigned when a baby is born.

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    • I am intersex still born with a penis.

      Intersex people are MORE likely to reject transgenderism than the average pop. We are naturally attuned to what gender we were. Hell I identified as male throughout my life even when I had critically low testosterone.

      Its hyper rare to not be able to immediately determine the babies sex. If it's up in air a simple dna/chromosome test is all you need.

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  • People like you are a part of the problem... They scream inequality, or sexism, racism, etc... and because of them, nowadays it's somehow bad for boys to be boys and girls to be girls.
    So schools have to have special lessons to teach children they "Don't have to be what they are now and it's ok for a boy to be a girl and vice-versa" and teaching them about the 5000 genders that exist in the minds of idiots.

    Children are impressionable and are guided by their parents. It's NATURAL and NORMAL to raise a boy as a boy/ girl as a girl and once they hit 18, they can decide what they want to be.
    But if you start raising a normal child as a neutral-gendered thing, or worse... force them to be something they are not, you'll just fuck up their life forever.

    I was born male, raised as a boy and now I'm a straight man, did my mom and dad raise me wrong? Did they affect me negatively by giving me a male name, toy cars to play with and no girly clothes? I think they did a fantastic job.

    If they had raised me as a neutral-gendered thing, I would probably have psychological issues, be unsure of everything and my life would be an absolute train wreck.

    I'm raising my future children the way nature intended. If me and my girlfriend/ future wife have a son - we are raising him to be a man! If we have a daughter, we are raising her to be a woman! And nobody can tell us otherwise, or force any PC nonsense on us.

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    • That's the only way to solve "toxic" masculinity. It's not toxic it's people that were never taught what masculinity actually is. By treating all masculinity as toxic you are artificially making the issue worse.

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  • Good quality trolling.

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    • Unfortunately there are way too many actual parents that did this.

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      • Unfortunately? Maybe because we care about children and want the best for them.

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    • Not trolling being serious learn the difference.

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      • Seeing how the comments are rarely 100% against you something tells me you are wrong this circumstance.

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  • Because whats between your legs shows your gender and this is accurate for most people and always has been aside from the odd snowflake who thinks that they have to be a made-up gender because they don't like stereotypical male or female stuff.
    Maybe we should just call children "it" instead? I'm sure that's very healthy and not confusing at all.
    Weirdo.

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  • People who think like you are warped

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  • 🙄

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  • Would you prefer that we address others by “penis or vagina” until they can self identify?

    Instead of removing genders, how bout we stop associating gender to certain activities and products we consume first, yes?

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  • Honestly nobody really cares if you call a baby he or she. The baby will never remember you calling them that, so it doesn't matter. And if they recognize as the opposite gender one day, when most of the time they won't, everyone can easily refer to them as the opposite one. Easy.

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  • Oh my God. Shut. The fuck. Up.

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  • lol

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  • i identify as a birch tree

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    • Figured you were more of cherry tree.

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      • i cannot tell a lie

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        • Just asking why is cutting down a cherry tree a "noble" thing to do? Like it's kind of weird to add what kind of tree you cut down to your list of advantages.

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          • i cut a buncha maples last spring in a swath of land i cleared and saved the one cherry tree there cause its kinda cool & halloweenesque lookin

            a big branch of it fell off last fall and landed right on topa a hugeass burn pile i built all summer

            now i dont know if itll survive cause half its leaves are gone and its kinda tall & oddly shaped to not have the windbreak of all the maples around it

            well see and if it dont survive i might save it for lumber insteada firewood

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    • I identify as cosmic wind!

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  • Because for over 99.5% of people the gender of the person is obvious at birth.

    As humans - we tend to make society based decisions based on what works for the vast majority of people. The vast majority of people also know that there is always a very small group that are exceptions... and most of us we can deal with that on a case by case basis.

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  • They don't. They just recognize the child's biological sex. If it has a penis, then it's a boy. If it has a vagina, then it's a girl.

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  • What specifically do you want to change, is it just and end to gender reveal parties?

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    • Looks like just the gender/sex itself not the reveal. Reveals are stupid but not to the extreme levels of ignorance someone must have had to list their child as sexless.

      The reason why it's not that common anymore is that those parents that do are subject harrassment by the general public. Like this one family gets social services called on them monthly because of how they treat thier genderless children and the public sees it as objectively child abuse.

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  • People just have different ideas of what gender means - a lot of people consider the word to be interchangeable with sex.

    I'm not saying whether it's right or wrong, but it's a fairly simple difference of opinion and I don't believe that you really misunderstand that.

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  • As long you ain't cutting off parts of your child I don't care.

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    • The child could identify as a paraplegic... it's not fair to burden it with limbs.

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      • Thats a nugget porn star in the making right there. But im referring to Circumcision

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        • Male circumcision isnt that damaging, hell makes hygiene down south easier. Theres practical benefits to it not just relugous.

          Female "circumcision" is torture and barbaric.

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  • It might have something to do with the fact that transgenderism and made up genders are evil.

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    • Evil how? It's more evil to assign gender.

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      • That's not true at all. People are either male or female, and they cannot change it. To claim to be what one's reproductory organs don't define one as is an evil act of rejection of one's true self.

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  • Basically what it boils down to is this. If you're not going to call a boy, "He" or "Him" or call a girl "Her" or "She", but instead let the child decide what gender or sex, whatever you want to call it, then you are unfit to even be around children... PERIOD!! Children are confused enough now days without JACKASS'S like you raising them!! If I knew who you were and I saw you with a child I would be inclined to call Children's Services and have the poor child taken away from you!!

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  • Because most people aren't retarded.

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  • I woke up this morning with an above average IQ but after reading all these statements I think it just dropped 10 points and I am now dumber than I was yesterday.

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  • yo dawg just look between the legs, that all you do, what r u rarted?

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  • I really like seeing posts like this. It brings people together and the best part is nearly all of them agree on something.

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  • Sex is what's assigned, not gender. Parents do the assigning of gender.

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