When they work alone together..

It drives me nuts. Once every couple of weeks my boyfriend is scheduled to work under the supervision of a female co-worker, just the 2 of them together for several hours. She's married but she's so flirty she's even made me uncomfortable.

I've brought it up and my bf just jokes it off. I mentioned it 2 or 3 times but I'm still not completely reassured. I want to like this woman because I work with her too, but I can't stop thinking about her fucking or trying to fuck my man. However, I don't want to keep nagging him about the same thing. I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like I'm accusing him, but I also want to know where his boundaries lie with her.

I do feel like he's a little closed off when it comes to talking about it. I don't think he'd sleep with her but maybe he flirts back or something. When I feel jealousy this strongly is usually because something is most definitely being hidden.

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  • Tealights

    Swallow your jealousy and assumptions, because it'll only make things worse. Instead try this:

    ---- Explain to your boyfriend that you're having trouble becoming her friend, because you're not sure how to go about it (*seem sad/confused when you say this*). Let him give whatever flimsy advice or statement that's typically given (it's not hard, she's nice, etc). Then ask how did he become her friend and work with her so easily; because when you're alone with her, it's really awkward. ----

    You see where I'm going with this right? You're asking, but in a different approach that's non-confrontational; so he feels he's giving you advice to help a new friendship, while you're just seeing if there's something there (and possibly gain a new friend if it all works out). From here you can ask innocent questions to get a general idea of how their night goes (i.e. What's the funniest thing that happened? I always feel awkward with her for some reason, what's your most awkward moment? etc). Now if he's hesitant to answer/vague despite how carefree you're being, or he's discouraging you from pursuing the friendship in someway, then there's something going on (it doesn't have to be cheating, but it shows he's holding something back).

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  • coolguy21

    you should talk sincerely to your bf about this. or more importantly to both of them. it's pretty fine thinking like that and i appreciate that you really care about your relationships. dont be shy about talking this to him, if he really loves you too, he will understand you.

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  • Huntey501

    Dude I'm a guy to but usually when that happens he duetting on u

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