What would a gentleman do?

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My girlfriends came over to mine so we could do eachothers hair. My boyfriend went in there and started talking to them. I gave him a weird look and waved him out. Then we went back in again. I discretely I tugged him by his shirt to get out of the bathroom. When I said "I'm not trying to be weird, but please don't go in a bathroom with other girls", he flipped out on me! I just think it's creepy. I wouldn't go for a chat in the bathroom with his boys.

It's a bit creepy 18
BF needs a shrink 4
It's weird you think it's weird 7
OP is uptight 5
Meh 7
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  • Cuntsiclestick
    5 years ago | pl

    If he wasn't pissing, wanking, stripping, or taking a dump, then why can't he be in there? If your friends didn't want him in there, then yeah, he should stay out. Otherwise I see nothing wrong with it.

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    • charli.m
      5 years ago

      This. What a shitty, control freak overreaction :/

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        5 years ago

        Funny, I thought he overreacted. If my girlfriends dude came in a bathroom while I was in there I'd be creeped out! It's not a social meeting place.

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        • charli.m
          5 years ago

          Then why were a group of them in there?

          Fucked yourself up there, champ.

          If it had been a single person of either gender, using the bathroom for private reasons, of course that would be inappropriate. But you're choosing to host a social event centred on your bathroom, and he's just trying to be friendly and make conversation.

          If that's not the scene you were trying to describe, then the fault is with you.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            5 years ago

            I don't think 2 girls doing hair is a social event.

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            • charli.m
              5 years ago

              Having friends over is, genius.

              So you don't say if it's his home too, or just yours...but you're either trying to exclude him in his own home...or you've invited him over to be ignored while you have your girly day.

              If you didn't want him there, why didn't you tell the poor fucker in advance?

              I bet anything this wouldn't fly with you if the roles were reversed.

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            • RoseIsabella
              5 years ago

              What were ya'll doing to your hair?

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      This!

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  • megadriver
    5 years ago

    What's wrong with him talking to your girlfriends? Is that forbidden? You got a sign on your bathroom that says "Girls only", or what?! It's not creepy. You invited some of your girlfriends, your boyfriend knows them, he was being normal and friendly having a chat with them.

    If you wanted to be all secretive, you should have gone to your girlfriends place without your boyfriend.

    You need to grow up OP! A relationship is based on truth, honesty, understanding and love. What you're doing is lame. Cause I bet you any money if he met with his mates playing video games and drinking in the living room and shooed you away casually 'cause it's guys time to hang out you'd probably throw a tantrum so big, people from the next town will hear it!

    Lighten up, this kinda stuff is toxic for a relationship.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      It's amazing how everyone responding has such strong feelings against this. I didn't think it was a big deal at all. I just don't think it's appropriate for him to chat up my friends in the bathroom. Like I've already said, if I was brushing my hair and a dude came in and started talking to be I'd be like "bro, I'll be out in a second". My girls didn't think anything of it! But I just don't think it's something a gentleman would do.

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      • megadriver
        5 years ago

        Let me take you on a little trip... A different scenario. Let's assume for the moment you were my girlfriend. I'm a car guy. I invited my friends to the garage for drinks, a bit of work on my E24 1984 BMW project car (mainly 70s and 80s rock, lots of nonsense talk and barely any work) and then to play PS3 games on the old tv I have in my garage like I sometimes do when it's warm... And then you walk in and try to chat up someone. It's half your house, cause living together... I quickly grab you by the shirt, pull you out of the garage and into the house and tell you "You're being a creep, we are just hanging out, boys only, no girls allowed, get lost"

        How would you feel? You'd throw a fit right? Right. You'd call me out on my bullshit and probably want to break up with me for being a racist, bigot hater that excludes his girlfriend from any of his social events... >Insert more angry actions here<

        Your scenario - same thing, except the one being treated wrong is your boyfriend, who has every right to be annoyed about the whole thing. You're the one hosting a social event in your bathroom and being weird about it.

        You're making the guy feel like crap and like some awkward dork. A relationship has to work both ways.
        If you wanted to be all secret that bad, you should have gone to one of your friend's places, away from your boyfriend, away from other people. So you can have your top secret chats in peace.

        Whenever my girlfriend has guests over, I'm always friendly and social, even if I don't like the company. It's what a real gentleman does.
        If my girlfriend wants to do something without me, like see a movie with her girlfriends, or go out, she lets me know, so I know how to plan ahead.

        Without communication there is no relationship. There lies only chaos.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Wow. Once again. People are so shook by this and it's so confusing to me. I was communicating that it would be weird if some dude came in the BATHROOM not garage. Lort.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            If no one is naked, or taking a whiz, and or birthing a big, brown mud snake the BATHROOM is just another room! Your answers about this don't really explain anything, the answers are just vague, and go in circles.

            What, is the bathroom a magical place where one might get turned into a frog if someone of the opposite sex speaks while one is brushing one's hair?

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            • sissycakes
              5 years ago

              wow, never heard crap referred to something so horrendus. liked the last thing you said too

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          • [Old Memory]
            5 years ago

            You sound like a spoiled brat. Hopefully your boyfriend has a larger brain than you and leaves your pathetic ass.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              5 years ago

              Pathetic? You're judging me off of one comment. Brilliant.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Why, were your friends naked?

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  • SwickDinging
    5 years ago

    Unless you were all licking each other's vaginas then I don't see why you had a problem with him being there. If he's there for too long and you feel like he's invading a girl's night then just say so openly, it doesn't have to be a secret chat.

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    • NoLifer
      5 years ago

      Bahahaha this comment xD

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Savage!

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  • NothingxCrazy
    5 years ago

    Relationship isn’t ownership. Controlling his actions is not how you have a healthy relationship. If you feel uncomfortable that is your perogative but he isn’t doing anything wrong so why guilt him?

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  • sissycakes
    5 years ago

    i agree that it is sometimes weird for people of the opposite sex to be in the same bathroom. it just feels wrong. people need to treat you better on here. there is a lot of trolls but they still are not needing to treat you or anyone else the way that they are. your boyfriend got upset, because he did not see anything wrong with it and thought you were being mean or something. also if you ever physcially touch me in a harsh way i kind of get really upset. so that could have made him mad, too. basically he really had no idea that it would upset you i guess

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  • HolyBowler666
    5 years ago

    I think it's situational. I would prefer men not to be in the bathroom with us if he doesn't also like to suck dick or isn't helping with the hair. There's nothing necessarily wrong with it but it's a dividing line. We go to the bathroom together and you're not allowed to play. We go there to talk trash like it's our weird smelling secret garden.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Has nothing to do with being a gentleman or not, just about being comfortable with a slight lack of self-awareness.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I can dig this. I just want him to be self aware if it's with other girls. My friends are are cool. But other women might not have been comfortable.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Maybe he was just being relaxed, and is not as sensitive about his maleness as some women like you are. I guess after this he should respect your wishes about privacy or something.

    Did it actually make your friends uncomfortable, though?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      After he freaked out on me, and my girlfriends heard, I told one of them why he was so mad. And she didn't even notice he came in. Lol. I was more or less saying not to do that because other women, like myself, would be creeped out. So I just wanted to say something to avoid him doing that to anyone else or in someone else's home.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        ... but what is creepy about it?

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    Theres nothing weird about that at all
    You had your mind in the gutter, he didnt.

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  • chuy
    5 years ago

    Lol

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  • JellyBeanBandit
    5 years ago

    I don't see the problem with him being in there, but then I don't get why he'd get angry about you feeling weird about it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    What do you think is creepy about it? Why would it be creepy? So are hella jealous, or what?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      It's not a jealous thing at all! I just think it's innapropriate. The bathroom is a place we're one can scratch their butt in peace. He's just a big talker and goes out of his way to continue conversation. Which would be fine in any room in the house except the fucking bathroom.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        ... but why is it inappropriate?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          You really just commented 3 times with the same question? This has been so annoying. I've never been bombarded from people from the internet calling me names and shit. What a world! I'm really tired of saying the same thing over and over again. I will, however, refer you to the poll at the top of the page. There you will find that it's 50/50.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            The reason I keep asking is because you never really answer. You just say that it's creepy for a man to even speak to a woman in the bathroom, and that's not a real answer to my question! You even made reference that you don't want a guy bothering you in bathroom even if you are just in there brushing your hair, and that is weird.

            I am known as a more conservative, and even prudish middle-aged woman on this site, and I can't understand why it would be creepy for your boyfriend to talk to your friends while ya'll are doing each other's hair. I can't see how it would be creepy unless you and your friends are buck ass naked with your legs wide open dying each other's pubic hair. If your friends weren't in some stage of undress how on Earth can it be creepy?

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    You was just playing with hair, whats the problem? Although I wouldn't want to hang out with my GF and her friends, no way fark that.

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