What was he hiding?

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I'm 18 & I had this teacher a couple years ago that I really, really liked. Last year, I saw him everyday because my best guy friend was in his class & I'd walk my friend to class everyday. Well, the teacher found out how I felt about him & for like 7 months, he showed major signs of liking me where it got to the point that some students would ask my friend if the teacher in question had a crush on me because they already knew I at least liked the teacher. The teacher is married & has a family & he's about 10 years older. Is it normal for a married teacher to have a crush on a student? For the record, we never did anything, so don't think I had sex w/ the man or anything of the sort.

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  • Phaeteon
    15 years ago

    Human males were never designed to be monogamous. It just isn't in the design. As a married man, I can attest to fantasies and dreams that modern "civilized" men use to keep their deeply rooted DNA-driven needs in check.

    My opinion, from your description, is that this man likely had thoughts of you in a sexual manner, but didn't pursue them because he was married, and possibly because he's constrained by a moral obligation to obey the rules against fraternization that ever school I know of has.

    It is quite common for teachers to have such attraction for their students, usually because students fit the ideal, their usually young and pretty/handsome, and in some cases, remind them of love interests that they might have had when they were younger and would have been free to enjoy them. Adversely, it's not at all uncommon for young women to develop crushes on older men because an older teacher fits the DNA-driven ideal for the female, he's stable and capable of supporting children (which drives your chemical attraction, whether you consciously want children or not, and also displays itself in the attraction most men have for women with larger breasts because it triggers their body's conception that the female in question is more likely to be able to feed a child).

    You situation sounds much like many stories I've heard, not all of which ended as innocent as yours.

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    • Mastersash
      13 years ago

      ^agreed ;)

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    • inlovewithlove1991
      15 years ago

      I really like what you said & yes, it was much more innocent than some of the stories I've seen turn out as well. I didn't want to say SO much in my post, but honestly, I agree that I think he did have a few thoughts of me in a sexual manner because I remember one specific time in April 2008 where he looked at me, had a huge smile on, & raised his eyebrows up & down quickly...much like the "horny" smiley on MySpace. I actually think I, in some way, reminded him of his wife because admittedly we have some of the same features & my personality is a bit different from hers, but we do have some things in common so it's no wonder why he would like me in any way.

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  • LAW13
    13 years ago

    That whole its a mans DNA thing is a lie, a cop out, and a tool to take power away from women. Men and women actually aren't that different. I'm not a feminist but I can clearly see men have been socialized to be womanizers and when I see a guy even drooling over me, it disgusts me that he probably has a girlfriend or a wife, and that he is forcing his eyes all over me as if he owns me. It kind of makes me feel homicidal. Is that normal?

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  • inlovewithlove1991
    15 years ago

    I know it is normal for me, but is it for him since he's married w/ a family?

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  • secretguy25
    15 years ago

    its normal for you mabie a turn on for him.
    its kinda sexy i always had crushes on my teachers so i say its normal.

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