What should i do? (instead of moving out?)

This is about my Mom... Sorry its long.

I think that she isn't good enough to be a Mother because she is abusive, immature and unorganized.

Abusive- She is known to shout and yell all the time. She not only hits my siblings but also hurts our house pets with objects such as shoes which I have told her to stop but she says that they need to learn by their mistakes and that I shouldn't be telling her what to do as she is the parent. Sometimes she would tell me that she wants to kill my dad because she thinks hes horrible just like I am. There was also a time when she allowed a man smoke near her while holding my baby sister who was 5 months at the time thats when I was about to hit her.

Immature- I feel like I have to sometimes be the mom to my siblings. Sometimes I have to educate my siblings who are toddlers by learning their abc's and 123's because my mom complains about it being too difficult because my siblings wont listen to her and that shes getting frustrated. Thankfully my siblings listen to me because I step into their shoes and let them have fun as I know what its like to be a child and what their interests are my Mom doesn't.

Unorganized- There are many many times when my mom had to cancel an appointment because she would always take too long in the bathroom trying to make herself look good... Sometimes when visitors come over she would clean the house too late as soon as they enter then she would blame me as I am the oldest.

What should I do?
Instead of moving out.

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  • CDmale4fem

    I would say if you have a way, cellphone,camera,etc to record from a hidden corner. Get a few good examples of what you mention about the abuse etc. But first, do you have any aunts or uncles close by you can call for support ? If yes, I would call someone. If you really can't call anyone, then depending where you live, you can call your local DCFS, (Department of Child and family services. Show them any kind of video that shows the mistreatment. Like you I in my family was the one getting my younger brothers up dressed and all ready for school while our mom slept. I haven't talked to her in 15 years, and don't care to now either. Good luck. One more thing, if you were ever to call 911 and don't get a chance to talk and have to hang up, they will send an officer out to check on things. That's if you are in the States.

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    • Okay thanks im gonna try recording it as it sounds much better.

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  • CDmale4fem

    People will always tell you "A camera does not lie" so there is really no way to dispute what the camera sees and shows. Are you old enough to move out if you had to? But it sounds like you are the one raising your siblings. Moving out is not an option since you probably love your siblings.

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    • Yes its true i love my siblings and thats one reason i dont want to move out but i have been thinking about moving out alot lately but i have no where to go and im 16 and still in high school.

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      • CDmale4fem

        You realize you may be the only saving grace for your siblings. At least you being there makes you a buffer between the woman claiming to be your mom and your siblings. If you were to move out somewhere and your "mom" had a hissy fit sometime and smacked your siblings around or just made their life hell unroll you moved back. Like emotional blackmail, "you move back and help with the kids or she makes their life a living hell". Do you live in the states or ? That probably can make a difference as to the choices you have for support. Also if you are in the states, there is a child services division near you. You can always try and call them to ask for help. But think about it before you call. Have a story to tell On the phone, stick to it no matter what. IF YOU DO CALL someone, they will contact your "mom" and she will know somebody called. Then she might try and make your life more of a he'll than it is already. So if you call, you need to let them know on the phone it's VERY IMPORTANT they DO NOT alert your mom who called. It could have been a neighbor, or someone who has visited your pc home. Again, good luck. One more thing- What's your first name ? If you don't mind saying. I'm just letting you know that there are people out in the world that can help make a difference somehow. Little bit here and there all add up to make big pieces and big pieces are more supportive for you . My name is keith. Don't be afraid to reach out to someone.

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