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Let's say you started dating someone. And they tell you to please keep the relationship a secret. What do you do?
| Agree, but tell people anyway | 1 | |
| Break up with them | 11 | |
| Ask them why they want to keep it a secret | 27 | |
| Do as told | 5 |
Those kinds of dudes are scum. Either have the balls to be in a public relationship or dont start one at all.
You know, just because I ask a question doesn't mean it has to do with me at the moment. It happened a while back. I am curious about what other people think.
I would probably dump them, although I may possibly make an exception if we were both very young and their parents were against the relationship, for some reason e.g. religious, racism, homophobia etc. If they are an adult and still can't stand up to their parents then it would be a no from me.
I’d stab them, right in the head until the blade broke.
Actually, I’d ask what the fuck is the deal here. Now if they couldn’t give me a good enough answer, which they couldn’t I guarantee, I’d go find a new one.
It means they are ashamed of you, you are their side-piece or they are keeping their options open for someone “better”.
Unless their family are religious nuts, but even then if they’re an independent adult they should be able to make their own life decisions.
I'd just cut them out of my life. If he or she doesn't have the courage to say they're in a relationship, it just comes off as weak minded to me. Weak minded people are the worst.
I've had to keep a secret relationship from my parents before and my girlfriend and I both understood why and had full trust in each other about it. Like others have said, there should be a pretty valid reason-- if they aren't honest or don't give you their reasoning, then you should definitely get out of the relationship before you get attached lmao
The key question is why do they want it to be secret.
There are some situations with their family or perhaps if they hold a religious related job where that might be a reasonable request; but, honestly - not that many others in my book.
You also need to consider how this plays out long term if you decide to get married or just be friends for life... at which point it becomes known. Is that a deal breaker for their family or job? Or is there a resolution where its OK for the two of you to marry without long term family/job consequences?
If the answer is "Just Because" - I suggest you run, not walk, away.
either the familys some kinda religious whackjobs or yallre the side piece
Where's the option for buying a billboard to tell literally everyone, and then dump them?
Seriously, I think the best course of action if you're dating someone, and that person wants to keep it on the down low is to tell them to eat shit, die! If someone wanted to date me, but keep it a secret I would assume one of two things. Number one, I would think the guy was married, or had a girlfriend, and was trying to make me the other woman. Well, there ain't no way in Hell that would be cool with being someone's side piece. Secondly, I would also think that the person was ashamed of me, and God knows I'd rather be alone than waste a minute with some asshole that is ashamed of me. If you don't respect yourself no one else will.
So if someone is trying to date you, but wants to keep it under wraps please tell them to fuck right the Hell off! 😉
i dated a girl & she told me the same coz she LOVED me but at the same time, she didnt wanted her parents & friends to knew the fact that she got a boyfriend..so its QUITE NORMAL...
but you should ask ur partner like why she wanna keep it a secret...?
If he had another girlfriend or wife then I would agree to keep it secret but otherwise I would break up with him.
Some people like to keep a relationship private when they’re not sure where it’s going. Still, others want to keep a relationship secret because they are also involved with another person, or not completely over their previous relationship. I’m not sure what the exact situation is but, they may be using you, or even be worried about being embarrassed.
It's often considered a bad sign when someone wishes to hide their relationship. At the very least you two should discuss it. Maybe stand your ground on the matter
Chances are you are just a side piece of ass to him but ill admit that I once asked a girl in hs to keep our relationship between us. It wasn't because I was seeing anyone else. It was because she was native and if my family had found out I would be shunned.
He's probabl just playing you so run like hell.