What if a person you just met online asks you for these?

What city you live in
Your real name
A picture of yourself
How old you are
Your sex

She asked me for these five minutes after we met. And when I refused, she said that her mom said that if someone doesn't give information about themselves right away, they are "fake people" and you shouldn't talk to them.

Is it normal for somebody to think like that?

Is It Normal?
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  • I get a little suspicious.

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  • I wouldn’t do the first three to someone I just started talking to, I suspect her mum just doesn’t want her talking to people online.

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  • Dont give them your real name or exactly where you live. If you share a picture of yourself make sure its not one you use on your social media. Because they can do a reverse image search and find your profile and name. They'll have access to your info

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  • All of my internet contacts on recent past dating (or similar) sites have a standard disclaimer to about like this: "While most people are honest that scammers are common. Identity security is important for both of us. Use of anonymous names and phone numbers are acceptable until we have met a few times and we are comfortable with each other. All meetings will be in public places and you can bring a friend. I can pass any background check."

    Now that being said: I do provide name that is real (my middle name - and I don't tell them that, but if they ask is it real I tell them it is).

    I do provide my approximate location (I live near... ) which is true.

    I have real pictures of me to share (ususally in parks,or on vacation).

    I have a real cell phone for these kinds of contacts: a $29 TracFone from years ago that I keep active and loaded using cash purchased cards, and which has never connected to my home wifi so it has no record of who I might actually be.

    For one person I took a picture of myself holding a daily newspaper in front of a local landmark that they could verify was in the city where I claim to live near, with a closeup picture of the newspaper that showed the date.

    I can do Skype or other video conference, etc.

    This works.

    Should anyone contact me from this site to meet... that's the same method I will use to meet.

    If there is a 3rd meeting that is usually when I tell them my real name and give them my personal cell phone number (as sometimes I only look at that TracFone a few times in a day).

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  • I wouldn't mind revealing my gender but the other four I don't feel comfortable with. There's a reason why so many people are online, you know? I didn't come here to tell everyone where I live and what I look like. People who demand sensitive information right off the bat are the ones you should avoid in my opinion.

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  • generally bad, especially if they don't give a reason and don't offer anything back

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  • Did she offer this info about herself? how can you expect someone to tell you all this if you arent also willing to share the same.

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    • She didn't share anything about herself.

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  • Normal enough to ask I guess, but definitely NOT normal to be that pushy and manipulative about it. Huge red flag.

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  • Creepy

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  • I think a lot depends on the context.

    If someone here, for example, sent me a PM asking for all that information, they'd get no response at all. But I can easily imagine situations where I would urge my early-teen daughter to to exchange brief, face-only videos that make some reference to what they've been talking about with someone just to confirm that the other person is what they've claimed to be in terms of age and sex.

    Nobody who's sane gives their real, full name and home address to random internet people; the dangers of that are obvious. But if you want to engage with someone you don't know in a real way, both sides need to take a few risks at the start, so I see nothing wrong with giving your first name (assuming it's not unique or very unusual) as well as your general location and expecting the same from the other person.

    Lying about age, sex and location is extremely common on the internet, and finding a fake photo of someone who matches those lies requires minimal effort, so those aspects of the girl's mother's internet safety measures are complete fails.

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  • Sounds like a ploy to get you to reveal your info. MAYBE share a face pic, just to show you’re real, and expect one back, but that’s it.

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  • I would only be okay with sharing the two latter. At least until I got to know them somewhat well (not like where they live, but more like what things like their personality, interests and opinions are). I think its perfectly fine to stay private on the internet, but if you are right before actually meeting in person they should know a bit more

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  • This is internet safety 101. Plus you dont know she is an actual girl. Could be a catfishing creepy rapist or worse.

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  • Half the people on iin ask the same things.
    It may take them a couple post but they keep asking.
    Somebody on here said it perfectly the other day if you're on a site under an anonymous name then you probably don't want to or will not give out this type information.
    The best she should do would be to ask, do you give out personal information? It doesn't seem as pushy or forward as asking direct questions.
    My answer is, no I don't but if you hang around long enough you'll know some of those answers.

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  • Was this on a dating site? Anytime I trusted someone who had omitted details, it turned our they were liars. When I'd meet them face to face, they'd usually reveal they were drug addicts, had anger issues, looked nothing like their picture, had criminal records, and a whole host of other deal breakers. At some point, I just started blocking anyone who had blanks in their profiles.

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    • It wasn't on a dating site. It was on Hangouts.

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  • Sounds like something a 50 year old sexual predator would say to try and pressure you to do things that you don't want to

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  • No, most rational people with common sense would not give out that information to someone they just met online. There is too much public information posted online that can be found very easily with just that info, and some crazy stalker could use it to track you down.

    If she thinks you're suspicious, she'll just have to think that, but I wouldn't give out any information you're uncomfortable with. Who knows if she's really who she is trying to claim she is, anyway, or if she's being truthful and not simply trying to pry info out of you?

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  • Yes, it's normal. She has a point.

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    • I picture that you walk up to people and say "Tell me everything about yourself. And I mean that literally."

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      • That's not "everything you know about yourself"; It's just your identity. So many people reveal their identity online. It's not necessary to hide your identity online if you're not saying or doing something online you're ashamed of people irl knowing it. Talking with your identity means you're taking responsibility for what you are doing and that you are the same person irl. Plus at least sex and age between the things you mentioned are very basic things to know about someone you're talking to.

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  • Those are very general things about a person. At the very least a picture should be shared if you wanna keep talking to someone seriously because people lie about their gender and age a lot online. However I wouldn't share exactly where I live with a new person, I typically name the nearest city when asked that question and I don't share my last name they can only know the more specific details when we have gotten to know each other.

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    • I went through traumatic experiences online and I didn't want it to happen again.

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