What do women want?

I'm curious to hear from heterosexual women about what they want in a man. I'm not talking The Notebook, Prince Charming bullshit. I mean like a real, live human Male.

The reason I'm asking is because I just read another post from a woman that falls in and out of love with this guy that treats her like crap.

Why are women drawn to guys that treat them like dirt? This isn't a,"I'm a nice guy. Why can't I find a woman?" type of rant. I've been in a number of relationships and am currently in one.

I have female friends that have been beat, lied to, used, cheated on, you name it. Yet most of them remain in those toxic relationships. So it makes me wonder about what draws them to these guys and what an ideal guy looks like to them.

I've always been told by other guys around me that if you like a girl, treat her like crap. In my past, the girls I have really liked and expressed that to have usually never worked out. Where as girls I have no interest in seem to become obsessed with me.

So two questions really. Why do you stay in bad relationships and what do you look for and hope to have in a relationship?

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  • Tealights

    Much like men, our choices and actions reflect our upbringing/culture/events combined with our natural instincts.

    Women who date troubled men are 90% deeply troubled themselves and instinctively repeating habits/events through their partners; mostly due to trauma or familiarity. For example, I grew up with emotional abuse, so that's what I instinctively searched for in my partners for a long time until I look a hard look at myself and broke out of those habits.

    All anyone wants are stability, consistency, and sincerity, because that's what love mostly is.

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  • rocketdave

    MONEY!

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  • TerriAngel

    Respect
    Appreciation.
    But not weakness.

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    BBD... No fool, not big black dick, maybe... anyway, bigger better deal.

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  • XYXY

    We are all different. My husband is very much in charge and I like that, if I displease him he spanks me, I don’t like that so I make a lot of effort to please him. Because I always make an effort we have a happy marriage. When the children were growing up, if they were naughty or rude he would spank me for not keeping them in order. So I worked hard to make them well behaved and respectful. Some people would view our relationship as bad and I have been told my husband is a bully, but I never feel bullied, I feel loved and respect the fact he disciplines me to make me a better person. The point is there is no one size fits all, we are all different and whats right for one woman is necessarily right for another. Much the same as men I suspect

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    • KholatKhult

      This is the most lame shit I ever heard.

      Your husband is a piece of shit for what he does, and beta as fuck for having such a pathetic wife.
      You’re lame as hell for being such a beta yourself and for choosing such a lame husband.
      Your kids will suck unless they leave you, and your parents suck for raising you.
      Teaching your children that they deserve to be beaten into submission. Fuck you.

      What a shitty situation. Someone needs to set the whole family reunion on fire.

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      • Inkmaster

        Maybe it's a bdsm thing.

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        • RoseIsabella

          It's a stupid thing is what it is.

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          • Mammal-lover

            Yea for realzies. I love a good spanking but that's just idiotic

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            • RoseIsabella

              I could NEVER love someone who expected me to see him as an authority figure. I'm not trying to date a guy who reminds me of my mother... fuck that noise!

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      • Clunk42

        I disagree. While I would never physically harm my wife (if I had one), that relationship is a fine one and the children will end up fine.

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        • KholatKhult

          No. Because they are involving their children in their fetished lifestyle. And I won’t believe for a second this isn’t about a power fetish. She is teaching her daughters to submit to creepy predatory men.

          The fact she would only harm her daughters because they are women is fucking sick. The fact she would spank a TEENAGER is absurd. You don’t spank a teenager.

          Be a fucking man Clunk. You need to protect the women and girls of your community, and teach them to protect themselves. You can’t have half of your fucking population lay over and be submission useless pieces of shit.
          Raise alphas, remove betas.

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          • Clunk42

            She never said that it was just because they were female. As someone who was spanked, I tell you, spanking as a punishment works on children and teenagers alike. Often, however, as children get older, simply threatening to spank them gets more and more effective, and you don't need to act on your threats nearly as much.

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      • XYXY

        No one is beaten into submission. My husband always makes a point of being calm when he spanks me. If he is feeling angry he will tell me he will deal with me later. He will tell me before he begins how many I will get, then I am expected to count, they are hard and firm and it stings, then it is done and I make sure I do better next time. My husband never spanked our children and I never spanked my 2 sons. When they were old enough to understand I was expected to spank my 2 daughters under my husbands guidance but not until they were 12.

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        • KholatKhult

          That’s even more fucked.

          What the hell is wrong with you?
          Spanking your teenage daughters but never your sons? You’re a fucking weirdo

          You need to be murdered and stashed, there’s no room for your kind anywhere but in the ground.
          You and your beta husband can get fucked and dumped 🥴

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          • XYXY

            Well they are all long since grown up with families of their own now. My children’s upbringing may not fit with modern thinking or some people’s ideals. But they are all happy law abiding citizens now. They all show respect to me and their father and we are both proud of them all. So we must have done something right

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          • Clunk42

            Perhaps the two sons never did anything bad enough to warrant spankings. It is of my opinion that spanking is the ultimate punishment for if your children are being extremely bad.

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    • controversy

      hot

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      • RoseIsabella

        Not!

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  • Jennifer21

    About 8-9 inches!

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  • bigbudchonga

    I know, it's odd right? I don't think treating them like shit works, but generally giving them very little attention for some reason makes women really want you.

    I have this friend who's awesome with the girls, but he's very quiet. I asked my friend the other day how come he does so well since he's so quiet and she said something along the lines of "that's probably it".

    Women really do seem to like the strong silent type. Also, dude, asking women what they want is generally useless. Generally I don't think they know what they want, and often the opposite of what they say they want is what they then go for.

    I think it's really sad tbh. I do well enough with women, but I also talk shit loads and want to give them attention. Maybe they change as they get older though?

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    • Mammal-lover

      This is kinda accurate.

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  • CDmale4fem

    Im a guy and i can tell you- thry want to be appreciated, loved, listened to, they want the remote on an equal basis, they most times want their man to be faithful, loyal, honesty. There are even times they want a man that can make love to her and not have to run out the door as soon as he can get his pants back on. They want to be treated as equal (i never seen a woman pee on the side of a building tho). Oh and it seems the majority of woman would like it for their man to NOT want to wear her lingerie to bed. Many do tho. They would like the man to open doors for her, excuse himself from the room BEFORE he rips a big nasty fart. Also, men take out the trash, walk the dog in the rain, start the car for her so its warm (or cool) when she goes to work or wherever she goes. She would like her man to not be so damn controlling or suspicious,(shes with you for a reason, men cheat more often than women). And above all at least ACT LIKE you enjoy her mother visiting and be respectful to her. Oh and when they send you to the storedont forget the important stuff.

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    • Mammal-lover

      My bf is like that. One day he was giving me a ride I got in his car and I was like oh its warm, he looked at me and was like yea cause someones doesnt like yo wear a jacket.. he then proceeded to hand me a blanket. I've been wearing a jacket for him since

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  • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

    Im curious to see what women say. I feel like women like to have fun? Maybe the guys that beat them are very fun when theyre not punching them?

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  • Aethylfritha

    Money looks humor good personality, not too perverted, and will take care of me.
    Thats all.

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  • hauntedbysandwiches

    They each want something different because they're not all the same but being kind and good-natured is usually a good thing

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  • ellnell

    Respect, honesty, loyalty, love, friendship. And personally I think that ambition is a huge turn on.
    To answer why women pick jerks it's usually low self esteem. If you think low of yourself you tend to attract partners who will confirm how you already view yourself. That's why the law of attraction works. It all starts within. Plus it doesn't help that those men are usually incredibly charming at first, it's not like they go when you first meet: "hey whats up!" *smacks you in the face*.

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIb6AZdTr-A

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hpspGHeLOPE

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  • RoseIsabella

    Well, it's hard to say what all women want, but first off I think I can safely assume that the majority of women would prefer to be recognized as individuals rather than lumped together as a general whole, because it's disrespectful, objectifying and just plain stupid. Women are people, not things.

    Also don't use your female friends who are in toxic relationships as an example of reality. Those women probably come from hella dysfunctional families, and that's probably why they put up with bullshit, because it's familiar to them as a result of their toxic families of origin.

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