What do i tell my son(7) to do if he's bullied

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We think he has dyspraxia but he's very borderline on it, one minute he's just like any other child The next minute he does something a little immature for his age and I think this is what's causing the trouble at school. He's such a happy outgoing child. Unfortunately he has a nasty class(used to work at the school) as in 80% of the boys really are just mean to people most of the time. I have told the teacher and she says she hasn't noticed anything. I thought the issue had gone away but then my friend ( the mother of My sons best friend) said that her son said that my son is always getting bullied and he sticks up for him. My son denied it at first and said that the bullies hate the other child. He was having a boy over and I think some of it is jealousy ( perfectly normal) but also I know they all do call names and are nasty but my child (bless him) says he's used to it and it doesn't seem to faze him. We have now found out that the other boy is getting bullied and just said it was only my child. Personally I think they are just boys being boys and sadly they have to learn to ignore it abit but I don't want it affecting him in any way if people are being mean to him too. What am I best telling him

Just keep telling the teacher and me 1
Laugh and walk away 7
The next time he's bullied push the bully over with all his strength 10
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  • Faceless
    7 years ago

    shoot up the school

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  • testpost1
    7 years ago

    I'm sorry but take it from a social-retard like me that was bullied since about that age, that sometimes you just gotta take the criticism into consideration cause there's a high chance they're right especially at 7 years old, if your doing something fucking weird/socially unacceptable, either get hella confidence or learn to play by the rules of society. Also I though dyspraxia was a motor-skills thing? Not immaturity

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    • Scarlettx87
      7 years ago

      It's not like he can just "stop being different " maybe you could have but he has dyspraxia it's something you're born with and nothing excuses other people joining together to make someone else's life miserable. These kids need drilling that it's wrong, not excuses made for them. I'm sorry you had it hard as a kid but maybe you should look back at their faults and not your own. We are all different and there really isn't a "normal" which means anyone can be a victim of bullying even though the bully's have flaws too. No excuse

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      • Scarlettx87
        7 years ago

        Sorry thought was replying to two different people, didn't realise it was one reply

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    • SmokeEverything
      7 years ago

      Its not popular to say this but yeah, a lot of the time if the kid is getting bullied he's probably doing something to be targeted for it.

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      • Scarlettx87
        7 years ago

        Yes it's unpopular because it's just mean, nothing justifies a group of boys targeting other, kinder boys because they know they will take it.... if a bully wants to bully someone they will just pick any stupid reason to do it. Just so happens my son is too social (because of his dyspraxia)and it makes him appear strange to them I guess but even if he was reserved they'd use that as a reason. You cannot say there's a reason because bully's will bully for any reason and that doesn't make it right, just excuses it

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        • SmokeEverything
          7 years ago

          It doesn't excuse it, the solution is to teach your kid to fight back. Everyone comes in contact with bullies for the rest of their lives, gotta know how to handle it and not be a victim. When he grows up and works with a bully he's not going to be able to go tell the teacher that somebody was mean to him.

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    The big thinking they pushed in recent decades is that bullies were all closet abuse suffers, that they had self-image issues and horrible self-esteem. Turns out they actually have more confidence and a better, healthier self-image. It's a dog eat dog world, after all.

    So you don't want to raise a pomeranian. Tell him to defend himself, and that its okay to get angry.

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome
    7 years ago

    I was bullied in HS and my biggest regret is that my dad didn't tell me to lift weights. He should do body-building and retaliate against the bullies.

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  • Foodchef1
    7 years ago

    Teach your boy how to fight and next time he can kick there ass and they will leave him alone. There only picking on him because they know that he will not do anything. Bully's are cowards.

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  • EuphoniumLizz
    6 years ago

    I was bullied in school it didn't stop until I stood up for myself. Tell him to stand up for himself. Avoid a fight if possible but if he stands his ground long enough hopefully it will stop being funny to the bullys

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  • hannas
    7 years ago

    None of those options are good. Are you joking? You need to meet with teacher and explain concerns. Things like this can have a huge impact on your child's self esteem. You need to nip it in the bud and if you can get some names from your son schedule conference with the bully's parents.

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  • Scarlettx87
    7 years ago

    Ooops he took it upon himself and when playing tag they tried to pin him on the floor he kicked one between his legs who then went crying to the teacher, the teacher didn't do anything!!!(should have really but maybe she's been watching the situation too) my friend (who works there) said she just said it was 3of 1, 4 of another. Obviously he can't go around kicking people there but I can't help feel proud that he taught the brat a lesson! Hopefully it will settle down now going of what some of you have written. I just explained to him that it's ok to stick up for yourself if you have tried every other way of fixing it ( walk away,tell teacher etc) but not to kick people there. We just spoke about why they might be bullying him and about how what they say isn't true (most of it) that it's important to remember that and just ignore it if he can and to play with the nice people ( but he insists on playing with the other boys :s) thanks everyone who gave advice

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  • SmokeEverything
    7 years ago

    have him kick the kids ass, is really the only solution

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  • Scarlettx87
    7 years ago

    Thank you, that was what I should have been thinking..

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