What do i do about a fake friend?

When one of my other friends started texting my friend, she asked, “i thought you had friends. Then who is (add five or so names here)?”

My friend said, “i have no friends. They are just people i see everyday.”

The thing is, i do a lot for this friend of mine. I give her things, i let her borrow my stuff, and i lend her things temporarily or permanently. She does nothing in return. Her grandma says that she makes fun of me and says all bad things about me behind my back, nothing good. What do i do about this friend of mine? How do i confront her about this?

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  • Honey child, I think you need to go see that bitch, and get back all the shit she borrowed from you, then just straight up go no contact on her ass! Just drop her like the log that one drops after a healthy, fiber filled breakfast.

    If she asks for favors you need to not respond. If you feel strong enough to do so, and if she ever gets up the nerve to ask you what's up then that's when you tell her that you are finished with her bullshit! Your self-esteem, and self-respect are precious things that you can lose, and can't be bought back, but but you can earn those things. People treat us the way allow them to treat us. You need to start reading up on boundaries, my dear.

    Check out these two books:

    Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life
    Book by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

    Safe People: How to Find Relationships That Are Good for You and Avoid Those That Aren't
    Book by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

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    • Rose is right, and btw a piece of advice, when you do go over there to get your stuff, dont call her in advance and tell her you want your stuff. Break the news to her in person when your stuff is in sight. People like this will come up with an excuse like "i cant find it" or "i wont be home today" and then they will stop answering the phone.

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