What comes to mind when you think of an incel?

Vile hateful brutes that beat, kill, and rape women.

A douchebag who thinks he's the frienliest person in the world, and that girls hate him for no reason.

The meaning of life is having the thickest, meatiest schlong of them all

no-face from spirited away since he acts like one and since hes forever following chihiro

A creepy loser who thinks that treating women with basic kindness the way you should treat all people makes him entitled to sex with said woman, and if she rejects him he blows up and shows his true self which is an abusive dickhead.
Nice guys are amazing. "Nice guys" aka incels are not, that is why they cant get laid. That, and the fact that they are narcissists whom believe they are Gods gift to man and completely void of flaws and doesnt need to work on anything so everything is everybody else's fault.

I always thought of the "neckbeard" or "guy that lives in his parents' basement". I don't know why we settled on the term "incel" since it seems like a catch-all term for just any virgin anywhere. Unlike ye olde "neckbeard" or "nice guy", the term "incel" doesn't actually specify a gender or personality. Its parts--"involuntary" and "celibate"--literally just imply that the person can't have sex. I mean, heck, there are non-virgins that fit that description!

Ironically, I've never heard "incel" used as anything other than an insult, but every time I Google it now, I get results that say it's some kind of hate-based online community where dudes feel like their inability to get sex is some kind of endemic problem with the rest of the world. It sounds like they give virgins a bad name.

Grind = considering life a game that you can "win" by wasting as much time as possible earning money while letting meaningful connections rot away. This is why all the "sigma males" are always on the grind. Because they cant find value outside of increasing their high score, their balance.

Losers that hate women because they won't sleep with him.

Honestly, I judge the person using the word more than the person being accused of it. Sometimes it's the same person.

An incredibly socially awkward person (typically young man) who keeps to himself and may have very low self esteem.

They're not inherently hateful. Unfortunately the most hateful, angry subset get the most attention.

A reddit mod or discord mod who has sour and entitled personality

Sexual frustration

Guys that are often kind of cute but have convinced themselves that a 'few millimeters of bone' are responsible for their lack of romantic or sexual success. They actually do not care about women or sex most of the time, they just happen to think that success will lead to happiness and fulfillment, and they define 'success' as the ability to add as many notches to their bedpost as the 'Chads' they both idolize and despise.

They all have Japan fetishes

A misogynist that is overweight, addicted to the internet and blames the world for their virginity.