What an ingrate

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So my best friend had her birthday recently. Everyone wished her a happy birthday but I went an extra mile and made her something and sent it to her by mail. I saw her in WhatsApp groups and in her status thanking everyone who wished her a happy birthday but I haven't heard a single 'thank you' from her. And I've been wondering lately, why is she such an ingrate?
I'm sure she received it.
This together with some other things that she has been doing has got me thinking. Does she really deserve me?

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jethro

1 year ago

If you do something for somebody, expecting to get something in return for it, then you are, in reality, the ingrate.

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- Ihidabody
  
  1 year ago
  
  No, it doesn't make you an ingrate.
  
  Why are people expected to give to others, but it shouldn't be expected to have something given back in return? That doesn't make any sense.
  
  With that logic, people that work are ingrates!
  
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  - jethro
    
    1 year ago
    
    Nobody is expected to give to others. However, if you choose to, then don't expect something in return. If you expect something, then you are selfish and an ingrate.
    
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    - Ihidabody
      
      1 year ago
      
      Having something given to you and not giving anything back in return is what makes you selfish and an ingrate, not vice versa.
      
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      - jethro
        
        1 year ago
        
        Ahhh I get it. you and the OP are the same person.
        
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        LloydAsher
        
        1 year ago
        
        Yeah Jethro you are right about this.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        1 year ago
        
        We are different persons. And you are wrong, the one that is not thankful is the ingrate.
        
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        Ihidabody
        
        1 year ago
        
        No, we're not.
        
        The OP even stated that she didn't expect anything back from her friend, which goes against what I've been saying. You are just making assumptions.
        
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  No! I didn't expect anything but it's just nice to hear someone appreciate your work. Fyi, it was something that took a lot of time to make.
  
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  - Yaidin
    
    1 year ago
    
    Have you asked your friend about it? Maybe the mail got delayed or something
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      1 year ago
      
      Yes, I said to her, " hey, check your mail, I sent something" and she said 'I will do it another time'
      Then she just changed the topic.
      
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Boojum

1 year ago

You did a kind, generous thing; that says something about you. She failed to respond to that with a minimal level of politeness; that says something about her.

Over the last sixty-plus years, I've learned to never expect gratitude and to never feel insulted when I fail to get it. But when I don't get it, that alters my opinion of the other person and makes it much less likely I'll ever again voluntarily do something for them.

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BleedingPain

1 year ago

Give and do things for people because you want to, not because you expect something in return. Even if that something is a simple thank you.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  1 year ago
  
  It's not that I expected a simple thank you. But as time went by it felt awkward that she didn't thank me and thinking of it,also It's not right to not be grateful for something done for you, no matter how small the the thing done for you is.
  
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- Ihidabody
  
  1 year ago
  
  But you still should get something back for it.
  
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RoseIsabella

1 year ago

Maybe you guys are not very compatible as close friends, like you speak different love languages, or something?

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1WeirdGuy

1 year ago

You could assassinate her dog. Id just leave it alone though and quit talkin to them.

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darefu

1 year ago

Wow, Boojum, you really jumped to a conclusion, did he hit a sore spot?

I always try to thank people for acts of kindness and yes think it's rude not to thank them. However, I read in to this, since they didn't give much background, what if this is a one sided relationship/best friend!

They call her best friend, however, it all seems to be online, through mail, type relationship. What if this person is more of a stalker?

She is my best friend,

made her something and sent it to her by mail.

I saw her in WhatsApp groups

I'm sure she received it.

Does she really deserve me?

Just maybe, more to this, acts by my best friends are normally in person. You can deliver the gift, get thanks in person, but I don't want to jump to a conclusion. Maybe they are best friend and she is just forgetful or rude.

I've had people give me things or do things after I've made it clear I don't want a relationship, friendship, or anything to do with them. Sometimes the best answer is no answer.

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