Unmotivated sister, can i help her?

Me 23f is worried about my sister 25f. She still lives at home with my parents and can never keep a job more then a year, she’ll find every reason to bitch and complain about her job and we offer to help her while she quits and finds a job she can handle and keep. But come round every time she will complain and find a reason to quit.

She’s entitled as in me and my parents let her smoke our bud for free, i know in some way we are enabling her.. especially my parents. She has no motivation to try and find a career or finish her GED. She was going to get her GED when her boyfriend broke up with her but then they got back together and she went back to the same attitude of “i don’t need that”. (btw her boyfriend is actually a really driven and somewhat successful person, all around great guy)

She has friends who have all moved out of state but really only has one friend here. She will non stop bitch and complain about this friend and how mad this friend makes her. I’ve even told her I don’t care to hear about this person anymore yet she doesn’t stop.

She’s honestly rude and ungreatful, can’t take any kind of criticism and like i said above she doesn’t want to work. She only cares about her boyfriend. Example: I recently moved and asked if she was free one day of the week to help me move, she said yes but the whole time she was complaining about how it needed to be quick because she has to be to her boyfriends cause it’s both their day off together. I asked a week in advance. I’m really trying to love her for who she is because i want her in my life but I jaut can’t stand her carelessness anymore.

She loves pointing out other people’s problems, including mine but can’t seem to acknowledge her own.

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  • NoMalarkey

    Reality will hit her. You can help by becoming a grey rock. Boring, unresponsive, unsharing. When she finds out one way or another that she is the only one who can fight for her future it’s a matter of sink or swim. No in between.

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  • ellnell

    Sounds spoiled and immature. Not sure there's much you can do, it's really your parents job to have a serious talk with her about her behaviour. A good start could be to talk to her about wether she has any passions, beside her boyfriend... Something she could possibly pursue. Make her excited about an idea like that and maybe she could get motivated to work towards it. She also doesn't sound very indepedent. I can see if your parents are the enabling types that they wouldn't want to kick her out but maybe that would be the best for her in the long run. If she never has to take any real responsibility she's never going to mature. It's possible then she'll just move in with her boyfriend but even living with a partner can be very hard and challenging when you have 0 experience of living without parents. I really do think a reality check is what she needs the most. Talk to your parents about not coddling her anymore, for her own best.

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    • Somenormie

      Spoilt and immature personalities suck, the reason for why I say this because spoilt and immature people just take people for granted and they want to keep on acting younger than they really are.

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      • ellnell

        True but I think they can change, if someone already is kinda immature it's easy to turn out that irresponsible if they get spoiled a lot.

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  • have_a_good_day

    have sex with her boyfriend and fall pregnant and be that nigga's babymoma. then that bitch will get her GED and be able to pay off crippling debt for da next decade

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  • Ummitsstillme

    This is obvious... your weed sucks.

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    • YE

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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  • Mammal-lover

    You talk to her why exactly?

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