To not feel at home with my family

I think your feelings are normal under the circumstances. Your mother should start asking your lazy ass brothers to do chores and help out around the house. I'm not trying to be rude, and I don't know what country or culture you come from, but this sort of thing is precisely why I don't believe that all culture's are equal. A lot of older, more traditional cultures seem to believe that women and girls are supposed to do all the housework, and frankly I think that's all just a bunch of stupid, archaic bullshit.

I think you're really smart to spend most of your time in the dorms. Honestly, your brothers ought to be doing at least 75% of the helping your mother with the household chores, because there are three of them and just one of you so you should only be doing about 25% of the helping. I don't know if your brothers work or go to school, but if they aren't working or going to school they should certainly be doing much more work around the house. Regardless I don't think it should ever be your job to cook for or do laundry for any of your brothers unless they pay you to do that, because it's not your responsibility and they can and should do that for themselves.

I don't have any brothers, but if I did I wouldn't cook or do laundry for them, not unless they were doing things to help me or maybe paying me. My sister and I don't wait on each other or ask each other for favors. I have cooked for my sister in the past when we were in our early twenties, and apparently she thought I was a pretty good cook, but I stopped, because she could never be bothered to cook for me. It would be nice if we had been more nurturing towards one another especially during cold and flu season, but I just never wanted to help her, because she wasn't any good at reciprocating. Once my mom was really sick with the flu a few years back, I had to wait on her, cook and bring her meals upstairs to her, but I didn't mind as she always did the same for me when I was sick. My cat also helped in his way by basically just getting in bed with my mom, and except for eating and using the litter box he stayed by her side until she was better.

I'm not necessarily opposed to helping out, but it's a hard thing to do when I'm the only one doing it. I think I would have been much keener on helping out around the house if my dad and sister helped out more. Not so much my dad, because he worked a lot, but sister certainly should have helped out more. I certainly hope you can find a wonderful job so you don't have to put up with so much family bullcrap.

I'm currently in a relationship we pretty much split the household chores.

You do need to move out and fast your feelings of being oppressed are just going to keep growing if you don't and then BOOOM family murder or you could try delegating some Of the chores to your brothers but I favour moving out.

be positive and proud because ur going out!! I'm in the somewhat facing the same problems. I study in university and it's my last year I stay at home and I'm treated like trash I do choirs and I'm a punch bag for my family I can't even speak with them or call their names!they even speak between them that if I started working they will take all the money to themselves and by things with it to my other siblings... but I'm thinking of moving away after graduation.. so be positive everything is going to be alright!!

tell your mom how you feel and if she just dismisses you all the time and make you feel like shit she must be a toxic person with a personality disorder, its best to move out..