To leave your wife after 14yrs w/ 2 kids

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You have a wife pretty with still little weight left from have your 2 kids and decided to seek out other women instead of telling your wife your having a problem then a month later tell her your not sure you want to be with her. Even though she's loyal work at home takes care of kids and the house and yard best she can why you drive a truck. And when you come home she brings you dinner and trys everything you ask of her. She's not perfect but she tells you how much she appreciates you and loves you miss you and can't wait until your home so you can hold her again. Has always supported you in what you do. Please can a man give me some reason why. He said he wants to work it out we are still together but still talks to another woman he's moved out to 5th in front yard and left all his stuff in house comes in eats sits with me on couch still cuddles. I don't know if I should get my hopes up in making this work.

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  • madi18181
    6 years ago

    stop being an asshole and love your wife. you fell in love with her for a reason and you'll be sad if you leave her and all you want to do is fuck randoms

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    • satanniggasandpopsicle
      6 years ago

      i agree thats his problem, is his balls

      Hes thinking with his penis

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    • chetbaker
      6 years ago

      Madi, is the wife who`s asking the question. But yeah, I agree with what you said.

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  • monstermomof2
    6 years ago

    Are there any men that can be faithful threw a marriage? I take my vows Seriously so I will try all I can before throwing in the towel. We believed in us so strongly we both have our wedding rings tattooed on.I wish I could remind him why we got married but he wants time and space to decide what he wants if I try to talk to him about us I'm afraid it will push him away quicker. We have boys 11 and 9 years old. I want to be able to look them in the eyes and tell them I tried everything.

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    • youwillgotohell
      6 years ago

      Most men are like that, their feelings change like the wind. Not to be trusted. When a person only follows their feelings they can never be consistent. Only men who do stay faithful are the ones have some values, dignity and are noble, and usually these men are very hard to find or are almost non existent in todays world... just so you know. You will know when a man is the worst of them all or like your own husband is the one who only likes woman for the looks and age and tell woman to stay fit and attractive, while they themselves can look like freaks of nature. Even if he does divorce you, just remember he will never attain anything in doing this, because nothing is worst then curse of a womens heart, whether its conscious or unconscious.

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      • dweeb
        6 years ago

        They're especially bad if they are dweebs.

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  • uppyurarse432
    6 years ago

    Your a pos

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  • bubblemallow
    6 years ago

    Your husband doesn't deserve you.

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  • Yennifer_Of_Vengerburg
    6 years ago

    Let him cheat on you or not up to you really. But I'm thinking if it was me and I knew he was cheating on me with some bitch I'd not be having no snuggles. I'd tell him nope you figure out whether or not you want to be with me or not before you come around tryin to have cuddles, or grab his dick and start sucking it to prove you are a good lil cocksucka. But my concern would be that what he really ment was his not sure if this other woman wants to be with him or not and his just waiting on the go ahead from her.

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  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    what can i say ladies , women file for divorse 90 percent of all divorces for the same reasons or just for the hell of it. im sure after your second divorse you feel used to it . my advice is you are holding him back. why would you do that to a human?

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  • Youngvictoria
    6 years ago

    He's being a real dick. He'll probably get over it at some point and remember what he has. The damage will be permanent but if you really want to make it work you can be strong and patient. With children and a 14 year life together it's probably worth fighting for.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    This guy sounds like a bastard.

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    The problem might be is, he's a trucker. Of course, not all truckers will leave their wife, but trucker isn't as great as a profession as it use to be, and can be stressful and lonely. What's important is his reasoning for becoming a trucker to begin with. Was he one when you first met him, or did he had to become one to support the family because he had little options? If it's the latter, then he's probably hates his job, and really want out of everything.

    Since he's still cuddling up to you and showing affection, he's probably overreacting and not sure how to approach you on what's really going on with him. I suggest you have a serious talk about how he's feeling about his job, and life in general, and try to read between the lines.

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    • monstermomof2
      6 years ago

      We decided together for him to drive to support the family. It's only been a few weeks it's gone on but there is another woman he's attracted and told he's struggled for a while about not being attracted to me

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      • JonathanOo
        6 years ago

        See a counselor or therapist. Find out what he likes now and what turns him on. You can revitalize your attractiveness and still

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      • Tealights
        6 years ago

        It's not that you're unattractive nor that you do little for him, but he's handling the stress of his job the wrong way. He's resentful of what he has to do to support his family.

        He's not going to leave you, because he truly doesn't want to lose you guys, If he did, then he would have quit a long time ago instead of just talking about it. The problem is his behavior, and how he's with another woman doing who knows what.

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  • monstermomof2
    6 years ago

    My body is not the same as when we met no but I've lost 20 lbs this month I'm 129 and that's not completely bad 9 lbs heavier then when I got pregnant with my 1st

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  • monstermomof2
    6 years ago

    I've lost 20 lbs I'm at 129 right now

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    • Azaman
      6 years ago

      How Is this relevant?

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      • monstermomof2
        6 years ago

        Some posted to lose weight and keep myself up that's how you keep a man so I posted that because even though I still have some weight left it's not like I let myself go

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  • Hellnaw
    6 years ago

    Sure Happens all the time

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  • chetbaker
    6 years ago

    You know, it is very difficult for a man to end a relationship even if he really wants out; quite often, they just behave in ways as to put the weight of that responsibility upon the other person so they don`t have to be ones making the final decision, maybe in an attempt to relieve themselves from the guilt. On the other hand, if he`s already seeing somebody else, the other woman might put pressure on him to finally end his marriage and if he likes her enough he might do so. I couldn`t tell you what`s in his mind or whether you should keep your hopes up, or not. In fact, nobody can. But keep in mind that there`s a strong possibility that he`s just waiting for you to get fed up with the situation and finally say the words he doesn`t have the guts to say.

    I understand your confusion, it seems that as a wife you did everything by the book, all boxes checked so, why would he leave? There can a be a thousand reasons for that and it is quite possible those reasons aren`t about you but mostly about himself. You gave your best and it looks like it just wasn`t appreciated enough.

    There`s just one piece of advice I can give to you; whatever happens, don`t loose your dignity, don`t accept any treatment that you don`t think you deserve, don`t let him play with your head or your feelings, stay strong and confront him kindly but firmly. Otherwise you will just wasting your precious time and energy on something that might not work anymore.

    May you have the wisdom to know what`s best for you and your kids and strength to get through this path in your life.

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  • _____________
    6 years ago

    Because men are assholes. specialy if he drives a truck.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago

    Sounds like an attraction problem. The important thing to note is that attraction isn't reasonable, it doesn't make sense and doesn't care about mortgages and parental responsibilities.

    Maybe the best move is to seperate, but if you want to save it you have to do the following: you need to get more attractive. You need to lose the weight and be and act feminine. That is, ultimately, how you keep a man.

    Cut sugary drinks, do high-fat and low-carb diets like Atkins, and count your calories. Hell even if you do divorce, this is what you want to do if you hope to find a better guy.

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