To have this impending fear of marriage & kids
Hello, I would describe myself as being a somewhat stable 26-year-old woman, except for the fact that I get some anxiety whenever I hear or see that someone around my age already has children and/or is married.
The fact that I am so behind this particular stage brings me a few years back to when so many people began commenting on how much "mature" they were to be in an intimate union, just so they could feel better about themselves. Around that time I began losing my hair and falling into some sort of mild depression (but this story is for another time).
I always wanted to eventually get married and have kids when the time felt right. I suppose I still have time since some in my family got married in their 30s. After stumbling upon the modern dating/MGTOW community online I fell into a sort of dark place once again. While I really want to have a family in the future, I have mixed feelings about whether or not I am made for this role. It seems like both people slowly start killing themselves. Quite often their relationships go to hell, especially when kids are involved. This is absolutely terrifying.
After seeing my neighbors' 'good' marriage dismantle after close to 30 years, perhaps there is no point after all. Marriage was never about love, but reproduction. Right? It's nothing more than a symbolic contract.
Now my head is a mess.
I try to date and get to know new guys. So far, I just haven't met anyone I wanted to be in a relationship with. I've always been a late bloomer....