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I have had depression for 6 years, suffered panic attacks whenever I'd go out for drinks with my girlfriends, they put up with so much but have now started really distancing themselves, is it normal to feel like I'm not worth enough that your friends don't fight for the friendship and stick by you through thick and thin! I am so lonely without them but can't help but feel guilty but yet sad that I'm not special enough!
My wife use to be that depressed. I feel bad for you. I don't know the whole situation but it can be very tiring for people around you especially if they don't know how to deal with the situation. I suggest going to the doc and getting some ssri medication, my wifes life was changed when she went on anti depressants.
Some people are against that medication but it has been proven that prolonged negative thoughts and feelings change the brain chemistry and ssri's will putthem back where they should be.
I hope you can get better
She can't just "get over it" I wish it were that easy myself. Unless you have suffered from depression too, you don't know what it is like. So opinions like that, keep to yourself.
I am glad you talked to your friends. Opening up to them will do wonders!! Also I hope the group you are in helps a lot too. I hope you can slowly build up the confidence to dance again. You traveled the world? Then you must be AMAZING!! Just dance by yourself room sometimes just that alone will make you feel better :-) Soon you'll be taking on the world again!!!
This happens to almost everyone.
There could be a visible cause or an unknown inhibited one. It could be something that happened to you or there could be no reason at all. You're depressed.
Ill. It takes activity, sunlight, serotonin, a healthy diet, puppies, hugs, and strong emotional connections. You don't need to be in an unhealthy relationship, concerned with the baggage of someone else, unless the two of you are helping each other go through these trials and tribulations equally.
Depression can be such a dangerous thing and can cost you your life. Nothing is worth taking yourself out of the race. There is a purpose for everyone, a destiny, and suicide and self-inflicted pain (including drug abuse and alcohol) are not acceptable fates. We are evolved. We should be smarter than that.
You can help yourself if you try hard enough, my grandfather, my father, and myself and most of my friends have had to do this on our own because we can't afford any therapy. Trust me, it is possible. Embrace the light, the love and the life.
Have faith that it will one day be better. Try to remember this. When you're in a dark place it seems like you will never be able to get out, but you will, as long as you want to.
You may not want to try to change things because you don't see the point, but you just have to make yourself. It can be tough to be around someone who is depressed but there are people out there that can help you. Don't feel guilty about your friends, you need to work on you right now.
Something that has really helped me is regular exercise, even just going outside and talking a walk. I was skeptical at first and it took time but I did notice a difference.
You may understand why you are depressed and you may not. Sometimes there is just a chemical imbalance in the brain that can be corrected by medication. If you can see a therapist and/or psychiatrist, they are professional and have dealt with this before.
Please remember that you are valuable, that someone loves and needs you. Don't make any irreversible decisions. One day you will be so glad that you chose to live. Life has beauty even though you can't see it right now
good luck
I have read how you feel and i suggest you get help.
firstly write down,what first triggered your depresstion,it could be a number of things,one of the main causes is low self esteem,fear of rejection.
Lisen,i think your friends are missing you right now,stop putting yourself down,look in the mirror and say out loud,i deserve to be happy,say out loud all postive things about yourself,like i have a nice smile,i am funny,when you feel negative about yourself shoot out loud STOP.
You might feel suprised,but i am sure one of your friends,has felt just like you,if you are still feeling depressed,pls pop to doctors,join a group,good luck
Lucy
this is totally normal. i have depression and fear that i am missing out on everything fun around me. i have a low self esteem, sleep nearly 16 hours a day, etc. i have been on zoloft for quite a while but it doesnt seem to be helping much. you should try out a few different medicinces to see which one works for you
Many is the day that I don't leave my bed due to depression. I haven't figured out how to cope adequately yet, but I spend a lot of time sleeping, my dreams are much better than reality (even if most of them are nightmares). I have distanced myself from my friends because I don't want them to think they have to try to help. Just try to arrange to go out a few times a week with your friends and either chill or have a few drinks. Try talking to someone you can really trust. And if there is no one you trust, you're in the same boat as me.
Thank you for your comments, it's so sad that there are so many people going through the same thing! Yes I am getting help and starting a full time rehab program that is for girls/young woman aged 18-24 so I think that will work wonders....... Hopefully! Have had progress with my friends, although they don't understand what I am going through they want to be there for me as much as possible so talking really does do wonders, I know it's hard and it took me yearssss but it is like a huge weight off my shoulders not having to cover it up 24/7!
I am a dancer and have travelled the world with my dancing but have lost all self confidence and belief in myself these past few years and haven't put my dancing shoes on in a good 3 years and that's my main motivation to get better, dancing used to be my get away, my happinness but it's just gone :(
Ohh I'm so sorry. I understand because I suffer from depression too. There are days I don't get dressed or even out of bed. Sometimes when I go out I can't wait to go back home cause I hate big crowds too. I've had panic attacks many times when I was out. It's scary.
I'm married and my husband Doesnt understand depression. He is slowly learning it's not something I can control. I have seen a dr. I'm on medication. It helps a little, but taking things day by day is the best thing.
Have you sat & talked to your friends about it? Try that, tell them exactly what's going on.
Is there anything you really love to do? Find something to make you happy.
I love animals. I have 3 dogs & when I'm really depressed just having them near helps me a lot. :-)
Depression is a very lonely and scary feeling. Your not alone though. I wish you the best ((((hugs))))
that's probably just in your head.
i used to get stuff like that too.. then, i stopped researching it and thinking about it, and it stopped. i at one point almost convinced myself i had mild agoraphobia. then i'm like WAIT A MINUTE. i'm not going to be a sucker... and no, i didn't have anything.
clubs can be overwhelming. i don't like them sober because it's boring (not because i'll have a panic attack). maybe you just need to try a few drinks.. the crowds won't seem as bad.
im bipolar and i have depression. no one understands the illness. my boyfriend doesnt care that i cry all the time because its apparently not a big deal because i cry all the time. and tiny things change my mood. i was diagnosed eith depression in 4th grade. you just get used to people walking out after a while, people dont really know how to deal with people who have this and treat them differently because of it.
You're wearing your friends out.
If you are a true friend, snap out of it.
No one owes you companionship.
Judging from what you've written, I wouldn't want to be around you either.
We all have to be independent for all of our lives. Baring any physical deformity in which you REALLY need help getting out and around, it's completely unfair to expect others to invest their time in you.
Work on your self esteem. Get the hell out of the house. The number one treatment for depression is exercise. It's free and doesn't need prescriptions.
ryanthony is one of the most intelligent responses I've seen on here.
I find whipit (46627) comment both offensive and ignorant. if you don;t have anything useful to say don't say anthing at all!
"We all have to be independent for all of our lives. Baring any physical deformity in which you REALLY need help getting out and around, it's completely unfair to expect others to invest their time in you. "
what exactly do you mean by this?
yes we are all independant, however depression is phsyical depiliting desease that effects your brain chemistry. people with your attitude can make the feeligs worse. If a freind stopped being freinds with someone because they have cancer they would be frowned one why is it any different for depression? In the UK suicide is the biggest killer of young men. Don't get me worng i think suicide is selfish but its also preventable. By stopping stigma attached to depression and by freinds standing by each other through it all!